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2020.09.20 14:25 JacobInAustin Singh v. Pythagoras Innovation Academies, 2020 MISC 1

Chesapeake State Court of Appeals

Singh v. Pythagoras Innovation Academies

Decided on May 18th, 2020

Judge Lemaire delivered the opinion of the Court.
¶ 1. Mr. Parkash Singh argues on appeal that the Circuit Court of the City of Baltimore erred in finding that appellee Pythagoras Innovation Academies did not violate the First Amendment or the Protecting Religious Expression Act by expelling Mr. Singh as a student due to his possession of an unsheathed kirpan. We disagree and affirm the Court’s decision.
I. Background
¶ 2. The record shows that Appellant was enrolled at Pythagoras Innovation Academies, a public charter school located in Baltimore’s Charles Village neighborhood, from 2017 until his expulsion in 2020.
¶ 3. Mr. Singh, a student in his last year of high school, is a devout, practicing member of the Sikh faith, a religion founded by Guru Nanak that originates from the Indian subcontinent in the 15th century. To many in the Sikh faith, the wearing of the kirpan, a ceremonial sword of various shapes and sizes, is a religious command. See Eleanor M. Nesbit, Sikhism: A Very Short Introduction (2016), http://tiny.cc/ejgxsz. Mr. Singh subscribes to this religious command and has, since the age of seven, worn the kirpan in his daily life. His kirpan is a small dagger with a four-inch blade, sheathed in a metalic cover that is attached at all times to his belt.
¶ 4. The issue of Mr. Singh’s kirpan is one which has confronted the school on several occasions. Upon enrollment as a sophomore transfer student, the school administration reached an agreement with Mr. Singh’s parents that he be allowed to wear the ceremonial blade so long as it remained fully sheathed on all occasions while on school premises. This arrangement went without incident for the first year of Mr. Singh’s time at the school, but this changed on October 22nd, 2018, when he unsheathed the kirpan during recess after a friend asked to see the weapon. For this offense, Mr. Singh was suspended for five days and received a stern warning that a repeat offense may lead to more severe consequences.
¶ 5. The second incident, and the subject of the instant action, occurred on March 26, 2020. During a kickboxing unit in physical education class, Mr. Singh performed a high kick and, in the process, the kirpan came loose from its cover and fell onto the ground in plain sight of his classmates. Citing student safety concerns, the instructor attempted to confiscate the kirpan for the remainder of the class period, but Mr. Singh refused to surrender the blade on account of his religious commandments and was consequently dismissed from classes for the remainder of the day.
¶ 6. On March 28, Mr. Singh was summoned to a meeting with Principal Samantha Chow and informed that he was in violation of the Code of Student Conduct and, this being the second infraction, he would be expelled at the end of the academic year. The provision of the school rules cited by Ms. Chow reads:
¶ 6A. “As a Pythagoras Academies Spartan, you are expected to show your school spirit and always behave in accordance to these rules. Don’t forget: our Spartan values are equality, cooperation and nonviolence. “
¶ 7. The first rule is that Spartans don’t hurt others. Weapons are not allowed on school premises under any circumstances without the written approval of the Principal. This includes any blade, explosive and firearm, whether operable or otherwise, along with any non-weapons being used as weapons (see Appendix). If you break this rule, you will be suspended from school for no less than one month and may face expulsion at the discretion of the Principal.
¶ 8. The Appendix to the Code further clarifies that: “A weapon is any tool that can be used to hurt another student or destroy school property. Weapons include, but are not limited to, guns (including fake, toy or “bb” guns), bullets, knives (including pocket knives and pen knives), swords, daggers, shanks, explosives, razors, blades, bats, clubs, brass knuckles, bombs, fireworks/firecrackers, “tasers” and any other tool or device that could be reasonably confused for a weapon.”
¶ 9. The trial court held that Mr. Singh’s claim implicated a First Amendment right and, applying strict scrutiny, found that the protection of student safety was a compelling government interest and that a ban on weapons on school grounds was narrowly tailored to further this goal. The court rejected Mr. Singh’s argument that a religious exemption would be a less restrictive means towards the same goal, finding that exemptions risked undermining the integrity of a weapons ban. With regard to the state law claim, the Court determined that, the presence of a weapon being sufficient per se to establish the existence of a threat to others, the Act does not protect Mr. Singh’s right to the kirpan on school premises.
II. Analysis
¶ 10. An appellate court reviews questions of law de novo. Rollins v. Commonwealth, 554 S.E.2d 99, 102; 37 Va. App. 73, 78 (2001). In the instant case, we are presented on appeal with two distinct claims: that Mr. Singh’s expulsion violated the First Amendment, or alternatively violated the state Protecting Religious Expression Act (PRE Act). Both are pure questions of law, and neither party disputes the evidentiary facts established at trial.
A. Free Exercise Clause
¶ 11. Appellant first challenges the trial court’s determination that the school did not infringe upon the First Amendment in expelling Mr. Singh. Citing the standard established in Carey v. Dixie Inn, 101 M.S.Ct. 112; 1 M.Slip.Op. 64; 2020 US 1, the court held that the school’s actions must be held to strict scrutiny, but that the school’s policy is both narrowly-tailored and furthers a compelling interest.
¶ 12. The trial court’s use of the strict scrutiny standard is inappropriate. Although Dixie Inn purportedly establishes strict scrutiny as the standard of review for rules of general applicability, 101 M.S.Ct. at 112; 1 M.Slip.Op., at 65; 2020 US 1, ¶ 9 (“even a neutral law of general applicability must meet the standard of strict scrutiny where the law substantially burdens the free exercise of religion”) (citations omitted), the Court immediately proceeds in its analysis to ignore its own finding and shift the burden of proof onto the plaintiff. Ibid (“[Plaintiff] failed to demonstrate that the the [sic] compelling government interest in combating discrimination can be advanced while allowing for religious exceptions.”) (citations omitted). This is consistent with no form of strict scrutiny that we are aware of, since, of course, longstanding precedent dictates that the burden of proof ought to fall squarely on the state. Horen v. Commonwealth, 479 S.E.2d 553, 559-60; 23 Va. App. 735, 748 (1997), accord, In re Dismemberment Abortion Ban Act, 101 M.S. Ct. 106 (“Our precedent does not place the burden upon the plaintiff’s [sic] in these cases.”).
¶ 13. We can only conclude from this contradiction, since we are precluded from entertaining the possibility that the Supreme Court has made a mistake, see generally Dismemberment Abortion Ban Act, supra (“Obviously the Court below cannot overrule our precedent, regardless of whether it thinks it is out of date.”), that the reference to strict scrutiny in Dixie Inn was merely dicta and that Employment Division v. Smith, 494 U.S. 872 (1990), remains controlling precedent.
¶ 14. Under the Smith standard, “generally applicable, religion-neutral laws that have the effect of burdening a particular religious practice need not be justified by a compelling governmental interest.” 494 U.S., at 892. There is little contention that a prohibition of weapons on school grounds is such a neutral, generally-applicable regulation. Consequently, the regulation at hand does “not require heightened First Amendment scrutiny even though [it diminishes] some people's ability to practice their religion.” Barnes v. Glen Theatre, Inc., 501 U.S. 560, 579 (1991), accord, Free Locke v. Davey, 540 U.S. 712, 721 (2004).
¶ 15. The permissive tier of rational basis review requires “only that the classification challenged be rationally related to a legitimate state interest.” New Orleans v. Dukes, 427 U.S. 297, 303 (1976). We begin our analysis by noting the well-established proposition that protecting the physical safety of minors is a legitimate, even compelling, state interest. Cf. Sable Communications v. FCC, 492 U.S. 115, 126 (1989). The rational connection between this interest and the school’s weapons policy, in our estimation, is self-evident: eliminating weapons from school premises promotes the safety of students, since weapons are associated with increased violence. See Thomas R. Simon, et al., Students who carry weapons to highschool: comparison with other weapon-carriers, 24 Journal of Adolescent Health 340 (1999), http://tiny.cc/xjgxsz.
¶ 16. The dissent asks us to cast away the well-established foundations of First Amendment jurisprudence in favor of so-called ‘common sense,’ but “common sense is a collective noun, like religion: there is not just one common sense.” Antonio Gramsci, Selections from the Prison Notebooks (1971). In our society of laws, we cannot countenance the proposition that the Constitution dictates that the esoteric belief systems of certain subsets of the population should override general, religiously-neutral laws designed to protect the public safety. And as we have explained above, we find the idea that the vague and confused line of reasoning in Dixie Inn’s analysis supersedes the clear command of Smith to be unpersuasive.
¶ 17. As Mr. Singh’s expulsion did not violate the Free Exercise Clause and the school policy in question clears rational basis review, we conclude that the First Amendment claim must fail.
B. Protecting Religious Expression Act
¶ 18. Appellant further challenges the trial court’s determination that the school’s decision falls within the exclusion clause of the Protecting Religious Expression Act. The Act at section 3(a) provides that:
¶ 18A. No school, governmental agency or non-governmental organization that receives either full or partial funding from the Commonwealth may institute any ordinance, rule or regulation that prohibits, restricts or penalizes the wearing of any garments or accessories that are congruent with genuinely-held religious beliefs.
¶ 19. The Act further includes an exclusion clause which reads: This subsection does not apply to garments or accessories that are obscene or otherwise pose a threat to the safety of people around them. Schools should always make accommodations to serve the religious needs of citizens of Chesapeake in any way a reasonable person shall identify to meet the needs while respecting safety [sic] of others.
¶ 20. We first address the question of whether the kirpan falls within the protection of section 3(a)—the answer is undoubtedly yes. As previously established, the kirpan is an accessory that is fundamental to the practice of Sikhism, and it is undisputed by either party that Mr. Singh is a devout and genuine follower of the faith. His kirpan unquestionably constitutes an accessory congruent with a genuinely-held belief.
¶ 21. The more difficult question is whether the school policy is covered by the exclusion clause. As we explain below, we believe that it does.
¶ 22. As a matter of law, a dagger is a deadly weapon because of its extreme potential for harm and lack of other common uses. Cf. Floyd v. Commonwealth, 62 S.E.2d 6, 10; 191 Va. 674, 683 (1950) (an axe is a deadly weapon per se). The kirpan falls within this category, and its mere presence in a school environment thus poses a threat to the safety of other students. Consequently, we hold that the restriction of the kirpan falls outside the protections of the PRE Act and the school’s policy is lawful.
¶ 23. The dissent argues that the kirpan should not be treated as an ordinary knife because the Sikh faith does not permit adherents to employ the blade as a weapon. Though Mr. Singh’s religious convictions may prohibit him from using the knife offensively, its presence on school premises nonetheless tangibly increases the danger to other students. For instance, the kirpan may fall into the hands of another student with no such ethical command or, as occurred in the instant case, it may accidentally become unsheathed and potentially cause injury to others.
¶ 24. The dissent further argues that our interpretation of the exclusion clause ignores its second sentence concerning accommodations. In accordance with elementary principles of statutory interpretation, we take the Act at its plain meaning—the language of the second sentence, which begins with the distinctly advisory language “schools should,” is merely a recommendation that schools are requested to follow. As it is clearly non-binding upon the school, we decline to read compulsion into the Assembly’s suggestion.
III. Conclusion
¶ 25. For the foregoing reasons, we hold that the school’s dismissal of Mr. Singh did not violate the First Amendment or the Protecting Religious Expression Act. Accordingly, we affirm.
Judge Alcaldo, dissenting.
¶ 26. “[Justice] ever has been, and ever will be, pursued until it be obtained, or until liberty be lost in the pursuit.” Alexis de Tocqueville, 1 Democracy in America (1835). In today’s decision, the majority has pursued justice blindly to the ends of the world, only to lose at the end of its journey one of the most cherished liberties of our nation: the freedom of religion.
¶ 27. Deference to public authorities must stop where common sense begins. In the case before us today, everyone agrees on the essential premise: that the kirpan is a sacred symbol to the Sikh faith, that Mr. Singh is not a threat to public safety, and that the events that led to expulsion were an unfortunate accident. Common sense dictates one outcome; the Court has chosen the other.
I.
¶ 28. The trouble begins with the majority’s straitjacketed interpretation of the First Amendment, which ignores not only modern precedent but also lacks the most basic common sense.
¶ 29. “That they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights…” From the start of the Republic, Americans have looked to faith for guidance. Of course, a nation as expansive and diverse as the United States is home to various disparate groups, each with its own unique creeds and beliefs. The Founding Fathers, and indeed every generation of Americans since, has consequently seen it proper to enshrine within our Constitution the “freedom of every person to worship God in his own way.” President Franklin D. Roosevelt, State of the Union Address (Jan. 6, 1941). “In fact, whoever has really practised a religion knows very well that it is the cult which gives rise to these impressions of joy, of interior peace, of serenity, of enthusiasm which are, for the believer, an experimental proof of his beliefs.” Émile Durkheim, The Elementary Forms of the Religious Life (1912).
¶ 30. Religious freedom is therefore one of the most sacred liberties of the American republic, a fact recognized by the Supreme Court when it reaffirmed the strict scrutiny standard in religious discrimination cases, sub silentio with In re Stopping Abuse and Indoctrination of Children Act of 2015, 100 M.S.Ct. 111 (2015), and explicitly in Dixie Inn. The majority’s reliance on Smith is misplaced in light of this more recent precedent, as some of our sister courts have observed. Carey v. Dixie Inn, No. 19-21 (Dx. 2019), http://tiny.cc/wkgxsz, rev’ on other grounds, 101 M.S.Ct. 113; 1 M.Slip.Op. 64; 2020 US 1 (2020) (“Smith is simply no longer an applicable test.”).
¶ 31. Strict scrutiny is the “most rigorous and exacting standard of constitutional review.” Miller v. Johnson, 515 U.S. 900, 920 (1995). To survive strict scrutiny, “the law must be a necessary element for achieving a compelling governmental interest.” Mahan v. NCPAC, 315 S.E.2d 829, 832; 227 Va. 330, 336 (1984) (citing Greenberg v. Bolger, 497 F. Supp. 756, 778 (E.D.N.Y. 1980)). In turn, necessity requires the law to be “the least burdensome means available for attaining the governmental objective in question.” Id. I do not question the majority’s observation that the state has a compelling interest in protecting student safety, but, in my estimation, Appellee has failed to demonstrate that the presence of the kirpan has a real—not merely speculative—impact on the safety of students, and thus that a religious exemption from the rule would undermine the objective. Ergo, the school policy’s restriction on the kirpan does not materially improve upon the advancement of the interest in question and fails the narrow tailoring prong of the test.
¶ 32. As the school policy as applied to the instant case cannot withstand strict scrutiny, I would hold that Mr. Singh was deprived of his free exercise rights under the First Amendment.
II.
¶ 33. If the majority is unwilling to accord the protection of the First Amendment to Mr. Singh, one would be excused at least to believe that the Protecting Religious Expression Act, an act expressly passed by the Assembly to protect religious accessories, would still afford him relief. However, in a cruel twist, the majority has clipped the law’s wings before it could even take off by constricting its erstwhile expansive protections into oblivion.
¶ 34. The majority’s holding that all knives are per se deadly weapons is not only conclusory, it is incorrect in light of our longstanding precedent that “whether a weapon is to be regarded as deadly often depends more on the manner in which it has been used than on its intrinsic character.” Pannill v. Commonwealth, 38 S.E.2d 457, 462; 185 Va. 244, 254 (1946). The kirpan is no mere dagger because its dominant use is as a religious icon and its offensive use is strictly prohibited by Sikh teachings. To a devout Sikh, a kirpan is no more a weapon than a box cutter is to a mailman, as it “is worn in devotion to truth and should only be drawn as a last resort in a righteous cause.” W. Owen Cole, Understanding Sikhism (2004), http://tiny.cc/tkgxsz.
¶ 35. Moreover, the ruling today ignores the clear intent of the Assembly that the protections of the PRE Act ought to be interpreted liberally. The Act’s exception clause provides that “[s]chools should always make accommodations to serve the religious needs of citizens of Chesapeake in any way a reasonable person shall identify to meet the needs while respecting safety of others.” Far from the majority’s interpretation that the remotest sign of danger triggers the exception clause, the legislature stipulated that a balancing test be applied between religious freedom and student safety interests in the eyes of a reasonable person.
¶ 36. The religious freedom interest claimed by Mr. Singh under the Act is real, reasonable and simply palpable. A reasonable person would clearly understand the spiritual importance of the kirpan to any faithful Sikh, and acknowledge the deep ethical quandary that would emerge if Mr. Singh was forced to choose between his faith and his education. In contrast, a reasonable person would assess the security risk to be low, as Mr. Singh is a model student and responsible kirpan owner who has attended Pythagoras Academies for three years with little incident, beside a single youthful misunderstanding of the limitation of the rules. His possession of a small ceremonial blade, even if briefly exposed in an accident, would create at the very most an apprehended sense of danger—one that cannot outweigh the grave injury to Mr. Singh’s religious freedom if the school’s unjust expulsion is allowed to stand today. Moreover, given that the blade is at all times attached in a metallic constraint to Mr. Singh’s belt, I find the majority’s conjecture that a danger to student safety may arise from the kirpan falling into the possession of another student to be fanciful.
III.
¶ 36. The Court’s decision today places unthinking and legalistic adherence to the letter of the law over reason, common sense and the plain intent of the Assembly, legitimizing a clear instance of discrimination against a religious minority in our Commonwealth’s schools.
¶ 37. I respectfully dissent.
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2020.09.20 12:35 ConorCulture Rebookiversary Pt.2 – Slammiversary 2006

Team Canada (A-1, Eric Young and Johnny Devine) defeats The Naturals and Shane Douglas in a Pre-show Match
When Douglas returns, he reunites with Chase Stevens, and they go under the wing of Shane Douglas. Their first opponent of this trio is Team Canada. The Naturals and Team Canada have had issues in the past, but they now have third men in their corners. Team Canada gets the win.
Team 3D defeats The James Gang in a Bingo Hall Brawl
Rhino defeats Team Canada (Bobby Roode and Coach D’Amore) in a Handicap Match
Senshi defeats Shark Boy, Petey Williams, Puma, Jay Lethal and Sonjay Dutt in an Ultimate X Match
The participants of the match stay the same, only instead of being a 6-way Elimination Match, it is an Ultimate X Match, meaning the winner gets a shot at Samoa Joe’s X Division Championship. This is the most men to ever participate in an Ultimate X as its hyped. They have a lot of the same spots as the real match, but extra involving the cables and four towers. Senshi then goes on a strike spree with kicks galore. He then swings on the cables with a kick to the midsection to Puma. He flips inside out off the cables and Senshi grabs the X to win the match. He will soon challenge Samoa Joe.
Kevin Nash defeats Chris Sabin
A.J. Styles and Christopher Daniels defeats America’s Most Wanted © to win the NWA World Tag Team Championships
Samoa Joe © defeats Scott Steiner to retain the X Division Championship
This match is heavily hyped as the biggest ever match in TNA not for the World title. Joe holds the X Division Championship when he starts feuding with Steiner. The feud isn’t about the title, but Steiner still wants it based off his thought process that its never bad to have an extra title on the accolades list. This is Joe’s chance to see if he belongs in the main event picture, and will be his biggest test to date against Big Poppa Pump. Steiner also believes that the X Division represents everything he hates about TNA and wrestling, and that he will make it relevant.
The opening of the match stays the same, both guys working some pretty stiff stuff. They trade strikes with big lariats and dropkicks. However instead of the ending we got of Steiner kicking out of Joe’s finisher, and then a lot of low blows, and a botched slam, and a REALLY long wait for the pin – Joe simply proves that he is indeed worthy of the main event and is definitely able to hang with the big boys. He hits an STJoe and locks in the Rear Naked Choke, making Freakzilla tap out in seconds. He leaves Steiner in agony as he stands victorious. He then does something he very rarely does, and takes the mic. “I want…the NWA World Heavyweight Championship.”
Monty Brown defeats Christian Cage ©, Alex Shelley, Abyss and Sting in a King of the Mountain Match to win the NWA World Heavyweight Championship
For the second year running a King of the Mountain Match has been apart of the NWA World Heavyweight Championship picture, but this time it is for the title itself. Champion, Christian Cage, declares that he will defend the title against four of the best TNA have to offer, and the qualifiers begin tonight. Sting is the first man to qualify, defeating A.J. Styles in the main event of Impact!. He stares down Christian to close the show. Abyss then opens the show next week in a match with Hernandez. Abyss wins cleanly and this time with James Mitchell in his corner, he will avenge last years loss. Monty Brown also gets into the match second year running, leaving the last match of the night to be Jeff Jarrett vs. Ron Killings, and you’ll see how that plays out later, but in short: it’s a no contest. This means the go home show will have a Gauntlet for the Gold match for the empty slot, won by Kevin Nash’s best friend Alex Shelley.
Shelley has some skits with Nash on how to be a main eventer early in the show, so he’s prepared for tonight. He impresses in the match, with two big spots. He becomes legal after pinning Abyss in a shock, and then stops Christian from retaining by hitting him with a Automatic Midnight off the side of the ladder! He then climbs up the penalty box and dives off the top into the ring with a Sliced Bread #2 to Christian! Christian pins Sting early to become legal, who then forms an alliance with Abyss while in the penalty box. They then go on a tear together, pinning Christian and Monty Brown, until they both try and climb up the ladder. Abyss then hits a Black Hole Slam off the side of the ladder!
Christian and Monty Brown both fight in the penalty box until they’re released. Meanwhile Alex Shelley sits on the top of the box, waiting for the right moment. Monty takes Shelley off the roof and hits him with The Pounce to become legal. He goes to climb up but Sting pulls him down. Sting clocks him with the bat and he fights with Abyss up top. They’re both then pushed off by Christian and Monty! Christian climbs up but he’s met by Monty. Christian hits him with the belt, and then hits him again. He goes for a third but Brown ducks and he swings too far. The title is snatched out of his hands and is easily pushed off. Monty then hangs the title up and dethrones the champ! He is the new NWA World Heavyweight Championship, and now has his second chance to make it big with the gold.
Ron Killings defeats Jeff Jarrett in an Unsanctioned Match
Jeff Jarrett tries to get involved in the King of the Mountain Match to regain the NWA World Heavyweight Championship, but in his qualifying match with Ron Killings, the newly face Truth ends it in a no contest when it goes too far. He explains afterwards that he doesn’t care that he lost his shot at the world title, he can regain that when he wants. But he says it is his duty as a man who has been one of the faces of TNA for 4 years to not let this ass hat win the title once again. A gauntlet for the gold is made for that spot their qualifying match was meant to fill, which we already saw. Jarrett is enraged by Truth’s actions and wants revenge. He attacks him backstage and cuts a scathing promo on Killings, and tells him the real “truth”, he always has and always will be in his shadow as the face of TNA the last 4 years.
The match is declared Unsanctioned by Dixie Carter as what they will do to each other cannot be associated with their brand. Truth says in the promo before the match he doesn’t even think that will able to contain them. It’s brutal from the get go as they trade shots with chairs, until a shot to the head busts Killings open. He is bleeding profusely early and they’re barely into it. Jarrett continues to assault him with weapons and target his cut forehead. The gruesome violence gets to the degree Tenay has to tell the audience at home to turn the TV off for the kids. Jarrett is slingshot into the ring post and he’s now bleeding. Ron unloads with his beat down, hitting a Diving Elbow off the timekeepers stand through the announce table. They then have a moment where they’re both on their knees and throwing elbows, until Jarrett and Truth both fall in unison. Truth then gets up and struggles to stand, while the ref demands the bell be rang because Jarrett can’t keep going. Jeff then slaps him and the match is restarted.
More violence ensues with Killings being hit with The Stroke onto thumbtacks near the end. This is kicked out of though. Jarrett then hammers the tacks in with a chair but he keeps fighting, and hits Jeff with The Stroke. 1….2…Jeff kicks out. Jarrett’s old rival Monty Brown, who just won the world title comes out and tells him to stop the match. Jarrett then beats him down with a kendo stick. He turns around into being hit with a Truth Conviction onto the tacks by Killings!! He gets up and hits Monty in the head with the steel chair, and hits a Hang Time on Jarrett for the win. In the most brutal and violent match in TNA history comes to a close, both guys are stretchered out, although Killings holds a triumphant fist in victory.
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2020.09.20 07:02 SelectLocation6634 Wife moved out of state and filed a VPO

A month ago, my wife was in visiting family in Oklahoma. We had a brief fight over text and that was apparently all she needed to decide we were done and she drove the 700 miles back overnight and showed up at home the next morning. She packed whatever she wanted and I didn't prevent her from leaving. She drove back to Oklahoma to move in with a family member. A week later, she filed a VPO against me and was granted an emergency protective order. She was texting me later that night and after the weekend she was asking me about counseling for us. We began talking more and she admitted she had filed the VPO but had not taken the steps needed to have it served on me.
She ended up attending the hearing that had been set two weeks after filing and said she was going to ask the court to dismiss it. We had agreed to have me fly out to visit her for a few days so we could have a chance to talk. She's since backtracked and said she wasn't ready to see me and is holding the order over my head as a threat to use against me in the future.
I have never abused her and I have never made any statement that could be even construed to be a threat against her. I have no criminal history, no history of violence, and am currently hundreds of miles away from her. From what I've read about the Oklahoma VPO laws, I think I'd have a very good chance at getting it dismissed should it get to that point.
Can anyone with some familiarity with these types of situations shed some light about what options I have and what potential risks I may run into? Is it possible for me to obtain a copy of the original petition filed with the court? I don't know what legal standard has to be met for a judge to grant an emergency order, but I'm curious what the petition contained given what I said before about the lack of any actual abuse, threats, or history.
Even though a final order hasn't been issued, having a court record that shows I had an emergency protective order issued against me isn't something I want so I also want to pursue getting it expunged. According to the online court records, the only thing added to the docket after her appearance was that I had not been served. There wasn't a new hearing date scheduled and the disposition still shows pending. I believe I have to wait 90 days after the order is dismissed before I can ask the court for the record to be expunged. Given that I live so far away, do I need to plan on appearing in court in person or is this something I could do from where I live or possibly through an attorney?
Thanks in advance for any advice. I never thought I would be in this situation but I imagine that's probably a common sentiment from people posting here.
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2020.09.20 05:59 trebud69 [US] HIGH&LOW (2016). A prefecture held by 5 gangs in Japan called S.W.O.R.D. have to come together and set aside their differences to push back the Kuryu Group and stop their plan to take their land. An epic, 7 movie action series that has as much character, heart, and style as it does action.

It's available worldwide for the first time starting today.
I literally just got into this series a few weeks ago, before the announcement of it coming to Netflix so here's a quick guide by a recent devotee to this franchise. Perfect timing for you guys too because it took a lot to find everything with English subs as I was watching it.
Though there are 4 "seasons" that are not coming to netflix and you would have to find online, here's a little guide if you're interested in what the franchise is about if you're out of the loop. Note: only the 7 movies will be on Netflix worldwide.
HIGH&LOW is a Japanese action series developed by Exile Tribe, a group of J-Pop bands under one label, who star in this stylistic but wholesome world. Think City of Violence if it was all about the gangs they fought mixed with wholesomeness and humor with a sprinkle of John Wick stylistic cinematography and set design.
There were two seasons that came out in 2015 that was the prologue for the official movie. You can find these two seasons on KissAsian.sh. I personally recommend watching the two seasons before the movies, as it adds character moments that the movies tend to lack for the sake of getting the story and action in. You also get to know the 5 gangs better and how each character forms a bond with each other it also has some great action sequences as well.
Then there is the "first" movie Road to HIGH&LOW which is pretty much a retelling of the two seasons with an added 10 minutes or so just for the movie.
Then it goes HIGH&LOW The Movie.
Then a spin off film Red Rain is after HIGH&LOW THE MOVIE (be careful don't do what I did and immediately start HIGH&LOW 2 after the first movie as it spoiled Red Rain). This movie follows the Amimya Brothers who are pretty much the catalyst who split the Mugen gang into the 5 gangs in the SWORD story, which is what the two seasons are about, they're sprinkled throughout the series but this is the first time you really spend time with them.
After the spin-off technically the DTC movie is next as it follows 3 of the comedic members of the main gang Sannoh, not an action movie, more of a comedy movie. I say technically because it actually came out after the official 3 movies but chronologically it's before some of them. Before the DTC movie there are 11, 3-5 minute episodes to watch beforehand but unfortunately the only way to watch them with English subs is you have to join MugenClub on LiveJournal, it's run by the one guy who has subbed every HIGH&LOW thing to come out these past 5 years. He moderates it himself and only allows people familiar with the characters already to join, it took a little over a week to get accepted into the community. (You could totally watch this after the 3 movies but I only brought it up because chronologically it happens after the first movie, I believe)
After DTC Movie, it's HIGH&LOW Movie 2 followed by the 3rd movie Final Mission, which is presumably the end of the SWORD story arc. If you finish the Final Mission and want more just look up those first two seasons, if you haven't already.
After Final Mission there is also another "season" called The Worst Episode.0 which has 6, 25 minute episodes that is a prologue to the last movie called HIGH&LOW THE WORST. The episodes help immensely because the movie starts right where the last episode ends. You would also have to watch The Worst Episodes .0 thru Live Journal, MugenClub. As of this past Thursday night, they just announced that even more Worst episodes will come as well that take place after HIGH&LOW THE WORST, so there is more content coming.
If you wanna dive even more, there is another action verse that is in the same universe as HIGH&LOW and The Worst. Takashi Miike filmed the first two prequel adaptions of the manga titled Crows, which in itself a prequel to the Worst manga, which is the group in The Worst movie. The movies are the Crows Zero (2007) then Crows Zero 2 (2009) followed by Crows Zero Exploded (2014) then the story continues through the mangas. The school in those films and mangas is mentioned a bit thruought The Worst movie but they aren't exactly connected persue as some actors in Crows Exploded are actually featured in the High&Low series as different characters but they are still in the same universe, you don't have to worry about that but just thought if you wanted to expand into the universe more, you can.
Well, there ya go. As someone who just found out this series a few weeks ago, I already binged all of it and find it one of the most wholesome action series to date and is definitely a great action series especially after something like Cobra Kai. The characters are likeable and can be quite funny and also have the variety of personalities a typical anime would have, the slogan for this show was "Everybody is the main character" but it also is about commraterie and friendship even if you're in opposite gangs. It's really worth your time and should watch it, even though it feels like Kingdom Hearts levels of confusion when it comes to the names and spinoffs lol
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2020.09.20 02:47 granthinton Death letter

Dear Melody,
This is the last letter I’m going to write to you. I’m not sure if you’re getting these and that scares me more than what’s going on in my head. Being a soldier is hard.
Do you remember what I made you promise? If you are reading this please give it to Bobby, I want him to remember his dad.
I’ve got so much to tell you, Mel, but I’m afraid. I’m afraid that if I put this all down on paper then it makes it real and I don’t know if I can handle that.
I first saw this… thing during our halo drop (High-Altitude-Low-Opening). The doors to the cargo hold opened, the wind roaring noisily out into the black void of space. It was so dark Mel, you wouldn’t understand. In London, the lights never go off, but on that plane, the only lights were the red jump lights behind us and the rhythmic splash of green and red on the cloud from the position lights on the wings.
We were all nervous. Don’t let anyone tell you their man wasn’t. It’s bullshit. Fear sat amongst us like a brother. But we had to be men, so I jumped. 30’000ft is a long way down Mel and it goes by so fast. Bullets started to zip passed me as the ground lit up with enemy fire. I didn't know this at the time but a few of the lads got picked off as their chutes opened. At 10’000ft I deployed mine and jerked up into a far scarier position. I could see the land better now, a dark grey mess of inhospitable sand and shabby buildings.
As we dropped, a large hill appeared. I knew it would separate us from the enemy firing from the west. Over the clamor of gunfire and wind the Commanding Officer shouted to aim for it. I was barely able to keep myself high enough so as not to crash into the peak. That’s when the thing flew passed me as I crested the top. I shouldn’t say thing because I knew what it was as it sailed by. A boy. That’s what it looked like. A farmer boy, dressed in strips of clothes and with a brown cloth covering his head.
I came crashing down the side of the hill and straight into the clutterfuck of men from our airdrop. My unit stared back at me with wild unblinking eyes. Each and everyone of us had the same white sheen etched onto our face by adrenaline. I only had a moment before I realised with horror that the kid on the hill could give away our position.
I raced back up, the sand slipping in places, some of the lads scrambled to help me. The gunshots and missile fire was so loud it became a part of me. If I close my eyes, and I won’t, I can still hear it like a heartbeat. I’m not proud of the decision I made next but it was either one child’s life or the lives of my squadron. I thought about Bobby then, Mel. I was going to kill someone’s son? I knew why and I also knew I would. Does that make me a monster?
I crept up behind the boy, his short and slender silhouette a weight on my soul. He neither turned or acknowledged my presence. I drew my knife and rammed it up and under where his chin should have been. But there wasn’t anyone there but an assortment of rags laid over crossed sticks.
Bewildered by the sudden reality, panic set in. A bullet hit the ground a few millimeters from where I crouched. I didn't need any more encouragement. I half slid, half fell back down the hill to my waiting squad. Lachlan asked what I had seen but I brushed it off telling him it was a false alarm but our position had been compromised.
We moved off in search of a better place to mount a defence. Do you remember that time we went to Canterbury, and you wanted to ride a horse. We went to a stable and you spent the best part of the day riding while I got roped into helping the old man repair his barn? Well that barn was in far better condition than the one we found to hole up in. I could see so many stars through the missing roof and holes in the walls that I might as well have been standing outside.
For hours we protected our position waiting for an air strike to relieve us of the heavy resistance we faced. And all the while I took enemy life I saw that boy standing up on that same hill mocking me. The rational part of my mind told me it couldn’t possibly be a boy. It was a makeshift scarecrow, nothing more. But I also knew it was a boy because I could see the smile on his face.
I don’t know when exhaustion took me. I do remember it beginning to lighten as the moon dropped. But when I woke it took me a moment to remember the carnage around me. The soft feeling my head used as a pillow was a dead insurgent arse-cheek. Darkness has its advantages Mel, namely not being able to see the blood and gore covering you. All the blood that covered me wasn’t my own. I suddenly felt sick. Sick of a war I had only graced for a fistful of hours.
A scream woke me to full wakefulness faster than a taser to the eyeball. Lachlan was wrestling with a young man. The screams came from a petrified girl on the floor behind them. It looked like the farmer who owned the barn had started work early and had caught us sleeping. One of our unit rushed forward and brought the butt of his gun down on the man’s nose, flattening it into his skull with each blow, but not before he had grasped Lachlan’s knife and jammed it into his ribs.
We dispatched the man and his women quickly as a new sound, a sound blessed with all the intoxicating waves of relief rumbled around our position. The air support had showed up. But Lachlan was in bad shape. He needed a casualty evacuation asap.
We managed to relay our coordinators and soon a Helo arrived. I cradled Lachlan trying to stem the blood leaking from his side with a cloth from his pocket. The British cloth, once a stark white, lost its virginity on Afghanistan soil. We got him to the helicopter while exchanging enemy fire.
We all knew he wasn’t going to make it. The wound was too deep. Already his lungs were filling up with blood. But the CAS-EVAC took him and an armoured vehicle loaded the rest of us up and sped off. I looked back once as we left the ruins of the village and saw the boy standing on top of the hill. His smile was gone, replaced with empty air as the boy disappeared.
Do you remember the marquees we used for your mother's 50th birthday? When we came to base we were ushered into one similar in height and length but not in content. While we all danced and drank under a winter night that night, the lads sat or laid on rows of grey cloth cots. No one smiled. It was as if by some unspoken agreement no one wanted to share what we’d been through. We all wanted to voice the horrors we had seen and done but none wanted to bring them to life either. It was a silent solitude, a vigil of violence.
Two days later, I was sitting in the base when a lad from my unit came back from his shift on the post. A guarding point to our base.
The Afghanistan landscape surrounding our location made the only entrance and exit through a pass we called the point. It was a triangular shaped ridge that ran for a kilometre around our base providing enough cover from hostile forces. But, we still needed a sentry tower built like a wooden cubby house located at the start of the point as our first line of defence. And it was manned by one person, day and night.
The lad who had come back from his shift was called Gary Anderson. A younger guy out of Bristol. And he walked through like a ghost.
I heard the rumours about our location being built around the mass graves of an earlier takeover. It never bothered me. I didn't believe in the supernatural. The lads whispered that the formations weren’t natural at all but rather the sheer magnitude of Afghany bodies hidden by the excavation of sand. I didn’t believe it. Not right away anyway.
Anderson stood by a cot, his gun still strapped over his shoulder. I knew something had rocked the kid because cleaning your gun is the first port of call when you’re back and I also saw the look in his eyes. Or the lack of. I remember looking into your eyes, Mel, and seeing the beauty in them. They filled my soul with something I couldn’t hold or touch but was still tangible at the same moment. It was like I saw your soul, the energy inside you. Anderson had none.
The lad was drawn out, sucked out, completely and utterly lost to whatever had happened out on the post. I shook his shoulder and he turned towards me. I steered him out, helped clean his gun and returned him back to the tent. He hadn’t spoken a word, although his lips constantly moved. It was as if he was whispering to someone only he could see and hear.
Slowly I coaxed him out and he began to talk. What he said chilled me to the bone, even in the Afghan heat. He spoke about hearing screams coming from beyond the reaches of the searchlights. Maddening shouts filled with anguish, pleading and dread. I don’t know how long he endured them before calling for backup. But a search ensued. Everyone stated that they couldn’t hear these screams. It was only Anderson, at that point.
You’re not allowed to leave your post, Mel. If you do, well… that’s not the point. The point is that he was left at the post with no escape from whatever he thought was happening. If they were real or not wasn't a question. You’ve got to understand that we all have demons in our heads from the deeds we’ve committed, and whatever he had just been through had shook him to the core. But that’s not what sent chills through me, Mel. No, that was the mention of a boy up on the hill.
I sat back then, the icy feeling of dread spreading down my back like a slow avalanche of fear. I described the boy I had seen, Anderson’s face fell and his voice seized up.
That night I woke to Anderson scrambling on the floor. I sat up and rubbed the sleep from my eyes. No one else was awake or if they were they refused to be found out. Curiosity got the better of me and I went to see if the lad was alright. He spoke in a whisper but the words he spoke weren't English. The floor was a tapestry of marks and slashes. It took me a moment to realise what they were. Arabic.
I copied them down before touching him. Anderson’s eyes were closed, but he moved like he could see me, striking out with numerous blows. Each one connected with my face even as I tried to dodge them. I grabbed his wrist and pulled him off his feet. In that moment I saw something I couldn’t have seen in the darkness. Cut into his palm was a symbol. A crude drawing of a stick man on a hill. The tent came to life. My unit pounced on us both. Needless to say our CO wasn’t impressed. We were warned about our behaviour.
The next day Anderson refused to man the post. Instead he was left curled up on his cot softly crying. Another of the lads took his shift. We are, after all, family here and must watch out for each other.
The next afternoon Anderson was back to his normal self. I told him I would swap his shift and man the post that night, but he refused saying it wasn’t a problem and he was almost looking forward to the peace and quiet. I thought that weird; one because of the screams he had reported hearing, and two, he was petrified a day ago refusing point blank to man the post.
That was the last time I saw Anderson.
We went out on a scouting mission the next day. Local information suggested a band of insurgents holed up in some sort of cave four kilometres south of our base. We couldn’t let any potential threats get that close. Two teams of six went out on Desert Trained Vehicle's strapped with a 50. cal on the back to the location. We passed through a small village. The inhabitants hid frightened behind crumbling walls. It was eerie and wrong. Not wrong for what they were or how bad they had it, but just wrong. Like I felt it in my bones.
The village sat on flat plains that stretched for miles. We didn’t know what we were looking for until one of the DTVs fell through a patch of sand. The hole had been covered by a sheet of metal a few meters wide. The thin layer of sand blending it into the earth. The fall killed one of our men. The impact of the DTV and crushing rocks below had snapped Fallow’s neck. But we didn’t have reprieve. We came under attack.
In moments like these it’s as if a switch is thrown. Your mind becomes tuned to the environment. Your heartbeat drowns out all sound for a second as the adrenaline rushes into your furnace and explodes along your nerves. My gun was already firing before I realised it.
The cave was a hole cut roughly into the side of the earth. Big enough for two insurgents to stand side by side to fire at us. The DTV provided cover for the men below but not for us while we called it to base. A moment later and the command to stand down and wait back up came through. Another man was killed then. Denva took a shot to the face. I, and the surviving lad, Jasper sought cover. Well, I did. Jasper stood there, gun slumped, face pale and unresponsive.
I shouted. Screamed at him to get down. But he didn’t. Jasper dropped his gun mumbling something incoherent. I thought for a second he said, “he comes” before he jumped into the hole.
I couldn’t stop him, but I wasn’t going to let him go alone. We were a unit. I jumped down and landed beside the other DVT. The two lads were already exchanging fire.
With Harris and Maxwell the three on two odds ended the fight quickly, but we would have been fools to think it was at an end. As soon as the men fell, Jasper was off down the tunnel. We had to follow.
It was dark, Mel. So dark. Like the airdrop in the cloud without the flashing lights. We turned on our gear and the tunnel flared up. Along the walls were scratches deep enough to fit my fingers in, as if something sharp was dragged against them. A horrible smell crept over us. It was like rotting garbage and shit. It was all I could do not to choke.
The scratches ended as abruptly as they started. A flat piece of earth faced us with a small hole only big enough to fit one man on his stomach. Above, scratched into the wall were a series of markings. I pulled out Anderson’s strange writing and measured them up. They were the same. No one spoke Arabic and no one knew what it meant, but we knew we had to press on.
One by one we squirmed through on our stomachs like snakes hoping to see Jasper. But we didn’t. A sense of claustrophobia crept over me as I snagged on the jutting rocks. It was dark. So incredibly dark. And I couldn’t shake the feeling that someone was pressing on top of me when no one possible could. The rock held me fast like a claw from the earth. I drew in ragged breaths trying to calm myself, squeezed my hand down my side and unhitched my belt from the rock. The tunnel ended in a large precipice, and Jasper was nowhere to be seen.
A cave opened up before us with no viable route down to the floor. The light from our gear was lost to the distance of the cave. As we shone the lights around we saw what we could only believe were buildings cut from the rocks.We had found an ancient abandoned underground city.
Each row of rough carved blocks drew closer to a large structure at the rear of the cave. Whoever had taken the time to cut this relic was long dead. So were the men after him and after them. I didn’t need a translator to know what I saw. It was a temple and an evil one at that.
I felt the oppressiveness of it like someone breathing down my neck. Like someone stood behind me, towering over my shoulders. I felt it like a shadow. The stench was stronger here too. Strong enough to make Harris puke and Maxwell faint. I covered my nose with my sleeve and tried to see how we could get down.
If any insurgents were on the cave floor we couldn’t see them, neither could we see Jasper. The only thing it revealed was there was no way of getting down other than a ledge fifty feet below. Relieved that no insurgents were at arms and still somewhat jacked up on adrenaline we decided to go back and call in the casualties and our findings. But to my horror we couldn’t go back. The hole and the rock formation didn’t allow it. We were stuck.
It’s funny how certain things remind you of other times. Do you remember when we went camping in the Lake District. It was the middle of winter. Frost coated the ground like icing on a cake. The hills and vastness was something we had never experienced in London. We were happy. Cold but happy. When our torches faded in the cave and the oppressive blackness settled in, it reminded me of that night we spent huddled in the tent. We stumbled around not being able to see a hand in front of our faces because you forgot the torch. I wouldn’t change that night for the world, Mel. I learnt you body by touch. Memorised every inch of your body by the goosebumps running under your skin. That allowed me to envision you every time I’ve closed my eyes since.
It also reminded me of that chilly night sky. Millions of stars prevailed, just like the glow of creatures on the cave ceiling. The illumination showed us a path we hadn’t seen. A series of rough cut holes in the wall leading to the floor. One by one we descended into the madness.
I’ve never felt so alone. The anxiety of being trapped rose electric through my nerves. I knew it was stupid. I’d been trained for this. Mentally and physically. But still, walking with my hand on the shoulder of the lad in front of me through those dusty buildings kept the spike of its electric finger jabbing my heart. I don’t know how far we went or how long, the darkness stole that from us, but at some point a crackle of the radio spilt the air.
We disassembled and curled around the one working radio. The crackle played a wave of static, a few partially heard words and then more static. The lads brightened and steered us in a new direction. I didn’t hear that Mel, I heard something else. The same thing Anderson heard out on the post.
Sitting in the confines of the tent with your unit around you can waiver most of what you thought you saw or heard to a disillusioned motion of momentary madness. I asked myself a thousand times if what I heard was real, and if it was real how I had heard it. I didn’t know Arabic, I couldn’t possibly have understood the words I heard in the static of the radio. But I did. And I knew what the scribble of Anderson’s hands had unveiled. But I dared not look. If I did I knew it would be real, as real as this letter makes it now.
I didn’t eat or sleep that day. I just pretended to be asleep so my unit would leave me be. I heard them talk. Some about loved ones at home, some about what they missed or the progression of their football team. I thought about you and Bobby. I thought about the ring I asked you to keep for him and the letters I’ve sent before this one.
I’m writing this now Mel because I’m being put out on the post tonight. I’ve heard the rumours about the mass graves, I’ve seen the underground city. I’ve felt the presence and the smell, and the boy on the hill. And I know what it means. This place is evil.
We are told to keep our death letters up to date and so this is mine. I love you Melody. I can’t wait to spend another moonless night together so I can memorise your skin again. I love you Bobby, and can’t wait to kick a football or hear you speak. But if not. Be kind to mum. If she’s upset, show understanding. If she’s angry, show restraint. If she’s sad, show compassion. I love you son.
With all my Love. Travis
He was right. I hear the screams. They are all in trouble. They’re burning. They’re all burning. The boy is real. He’s the one. The one doing this. We shouldn’t have come. It’s all our fault.
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2020.09.19 23:30 TheBusted A Proper Bulbing

Not mine, but this is another one of my all-time favorite stories.

Hi, my name is Alana. I'm 27, with long, brown hair, 5'7", and a perfect body, thanks to the two hours I spend daily at the exclusive gym down the street from my luxury condo. I've been told by about a million different males, as well as several girlfriends that I have a face to die for. Can you blame me for being confident?
It's easy to stay beautiful when you're in my line of "work." If I was asked to list my job title, I think I'd call myself a Professional Man-ipulator. It's an extremely cushy, well-paying "job" that requires minimal effort and gives me plenty of free time to travel, go shopping, but most importantly tend to my personal grooming. Between the gym and all the skin products I'm able to afford, it's easy staying beautiful.
How did I fall into this profession? It wasn't until my early 20s that I discovered the joys of Female Domination. For a long time, I worked as a waitress. It was a nice restaurant and I wasn’t making a bad living, but I felt unfulfilled. Now those feelings of emptiness at the end of a long day are gone. I’ve found my true calling: the humiliation of the male gender. Not all males, mind you. I'm talking about perverted, penis-driven retards also known as "Compulsive Jackoffs," or, my personal favorite, "Walking ATMs."
There is a lot of machine ATMs world today. But for me, there are literally billions. That's because I can make most men do whatever I want whenever I want. Put it this way -- I get dozens of emails from male wimps every day, most of whom I ignore since I don't have time. This leaves me free to focus on the jerkoffs with the fattest wallets (at least until I am done pressing a few of their "buttons" and transferring their $ to my fat bank account -- it's the only thing fat about me).
Here's the way it works: These males work their shitty 9 to 5 jobs. Then they willingly give their money to me. Or, I take it from them. Whichever you prefer.
So you're probably wondering why I have titled this story "A Proper Bulbing." Well, it has to do with scrotums. And when it comes to scrotums, I guess you could say I have a hate/love relationship.
Why do I hate scrotums so much? Scrotums are responsible for many of the world's ills. I'm totally convinced the world would be a much, MUCH better place if men's scrotums were put totally under the control of Women. Any men who still displayed violent tendencies would have their scrotums disciplined with blunt force, or a simple electrical shock, for those ladies who'd rather not touch. Imagine how many fewer wars and how much less violence there would be. But this isn't the only reason I hate scrotums. Imagine having that silly, wrinkled flap of junk hanging off your body! I detest looking at regular scrotums. However, that last sentence deserves an asterisk. That's because I very much enjoy looking at scrotums that have been "treated" properly. What do I mean by that? U shall see.
Why do I love scrotums so much? Because scrotums are part of what makes it so incredibly, amazingly, magically EAZY to control males! That and their stupid penises, of course! It’s a great comfort knowing that all men have these monstrosities sitting between their legs, causing them to do the stupidest, most retarded things imaginable. And knowing that I can control males through their scrotums (and penises) by doing absolutely NOTHING, other than being myself, is the greatest thing about life. It's like God (who is obviously female) decided to give Women the ultimate gift -- a way of dominating the weaker gender by her mere presence. I think about this all the time -- when I'm working out and men are gawking at my spandex-clad body, when I'm walking down the street in my expensive new shoes and a skirt, and of course when I'm totally humiliating the living shit out of males on the internet and raping their bank accounts.
But the "love" is not only about that. Remember I said that I love looking at scrotums when they've been "treated" a certain way? Well, that gets to one of my favorite activity involving men: ballbusting. For me and my girlfriends, kicking scrotum is the most liberating activity in the world. Every girl needs to try it.
For you men out there reading this and feeling yourself weaken -- I have a standard rate for males on my website: $500 and I will come and kick your scrotum with my expensive shoes until you beg for mercy, and your scrotum is inflated to the size of a baseball. In other words, by paying the $500, men agree to submit their scrotums for a brutal kicking that will result in terrible, excessive swelling, or, as I like to call it, "bulbing." I try not to pop their balls, because I'm not psycho or anything (but no promises), which means my goal is to inflict as much damage as humanly possible without rupture.
I should also add that by paying the $500, the male agrees to submit to a clothed-female nude-male photograph session. The photos always take place at the end of the scrotum punishment. I insist upon full-body, fully nude male photos, because I love the look of his face when I've finished um, annihilating (yes, that’s not too strong a word) his genitals. And of course I insist upon a close-up of the scrotum itself. It's so much more pleasing to the eye when it's a deep, enduring red/purple color and swollen to the point where the guy probably won't be able to walk for several days. I love it! Once I have the photographs, it means I basically own the guy. I don't show a photo of his face on my website (unless he pisses me off, or unless he gives his consent), but all the close-ups are on my website. All 476 (and counting) of them. 476 bulbs. Tee hee!
$500 sounds like a lot of money for a male to pay for what is essentially his own destruction, but you wouldn’t believe how popular my service is. Since I started my scrotum enlargement program two years ago, I have "processed" 476 scrotums. That's $238,000 for the mathematically challenged amongst you. And that's only part of the revenue I've been generating. Pretty soon I'll have bulbed 500 scrotums! I think I'm going to invite my girlfriends over for #500. Imagine that. Males willingly pay me to mangle their groins. Isn't life wonderful? Talk about absolute power.
This gets me to the story that I want to share with you. It's about a male that I own. I'm particularly proud of this one. Let me explain.
As I mentioned, prior to becoming a Man-ipulator, I was a waitress at a good restaurant in a posh part of down. I made a decent living, but the hours were shitty and I had to put up with Keith. Ah, Keith [snicker].
Keith was, and still is, the floor supervisor at my restaurant. In other words, back when I waited tables, he was my boss. Now, as you will soon see, I'm his boss. Keith is a tall, balding male in his early 30s who used to act as if he was the shit. All the waitresses couldn't stand him. There were several reasons for this: One, he was a total stickler for punctuality. If you were a minute late, you'd be docked two hours pay. Two, any time there was any issue with a customer -- no matter how big a douche bag the customer was -- he would side with the customer and give the wait staff an earful. Three, he made insulting comments to all the waitresses and he often would grope us in ways that made us uncomfortable. Me and my friend, Trina Lin, who also quit and is also now a Man-iupulator, used to get furious about it. We even considered telling the chef and owner, but we realized that d-bag wouldn't do anything about it. So why bother?
Around two and a half years ago, I stumbled upon some Female Domination sites on the Internet. I'm a voracious reader and what I discovered really fascinated me. I knew some Women out there controlled their men but I never realized the extent of the fetish. I shared my findings with Trina and we began experimenting on the side. In absolutely no time, we both had several male clients and we were raking in the dough. Six months after that, we both surprised the fuck out of Keith by quitting on a busy Saturday. We both showed up to work and put on our waitress outfits. Then, just as the first diners were getting seated, we walked up to Keith, handed him our aprons, flipped him the bird and walked out of there. It was awesome! The look on his face was priceless. As we walked out, he shouted, "You'll never work in this town again." We just turned to each other and laughed.
After that, I quickly forgot about Keith as my new career took off. The next couple of years went by. My income skyrocketed and I "work" like, maybe ten hours per week. But can you even really call it work if you're doing what you love to do? I guess it is work in the sense that I have to sort through a million stupid emails from retarded men and make sure I don't cross paths with a dangerous dude. For that reason, I have a bodyguard. I don't pay him anything, since I own his ass. But he's a big, physically powerful guy who worships the ground I walk on and lives right around the corner. Any time I'm doing a session with a new client, he sits in my guest room, ready to pounce if a Walking ATM gives me any trouble. It's nice to know he's there, and he's thrilled to serve me in any way he can.
A few months ago, as I was sorting through all the loser mail I get, one of them stood out. It was the name of my ex-boss and there was an attachment. My heart skipped a beat. Keith?! What did this idiot want? Well, I opened the email and began laughing. Then I spoke with Trina on the telephone and we laughed together for another hour straight. I saved his email. Here it is:
Dear Miss Alana,
It's Keith, your ex-boss. I have been debating whether or not I should send this email but you are so irresistible that I can't help but do it. Let me explain. I know I wasn't very nice to you when you worked at (name of restaurant). And I want to apologize to you deeply and sincerely for that. As it so happens, I'm deeply submissive and a few months ago I stumbled upon your website. I couldn't believe it. The amazingly beautiful Alana, a lifestyle Dominatrix! I was shocked, amazed, and more than a little turned on.
Yes, you guessed it. I'm a totally submissive, pussy-whipped, masturbator.
I can't believe I'm going to send this. Alana, ma’am, I need to be punished for the way I treated you. Nothing would be more fitting, I think, than for me to enroll in your Jacktard 101 class, where I'll surely be taught a lesson that I'll never forget. I think this would be fitting revenge for you, for all the times I treated you poorly.
Miss Alana, I'm so sorry again. The truth is that all those times I was bothering you, I secretly fantasized about you humiliating me. I can't tell you how many times I jacked off while imagining myself debasing myself at your feet, and doing stupid things for your entertainment. The day you and Trina quit, while a nightmare at work, was secretly one of my favorite days. I masturbated myself for weeks on end when I thought of the way you flipped me the bird. I couldn't get the image out of my head. Imagine my total delight and amazement when I discovered your website. This is the stuff dreams are made of.
To show you my sincerity, I have attached a photograph of me. Please tuck it away and use it against me. As I said, I intend to enroll in your Jacktard 101 program with your permission.
Humbly yours,Keith
I opened the photo attachment he sent me. Keith was naked, spread-legged, facing the camera. He held his little (of course) penis in his fingers and had this retarded look on his face. HA HA HA! The best part was his organs themselves. For such a large male, Keith had a pathetic pin-dick, but his scrotum was huge! They made his pin-dick look even smaller than it actually was -- no small feat. I especially love racking big scrotums. It’s like a fun challenge to see how big I can make them. Sometimes I can inflate them to the size of a softball.
I think I stared at the naked photograph for a good five minutes, the smile on my face growing wider and wider. I must have laughed for an hour straight. This was to be my greatest conquest yet.
You're probably wondering what the Jacktard 101 program is, so let me explain. The Jacktard 101 program was a rather ingenious lesson plan I came up with for all those compulsive jacktards out there to jerk off properly and worship me in a way that I like to be worshipped.
Here's how it works: By enrolling in my Jacktard 101 program, the penis pumping puppet agrees to pump his penis (say that ten times fast!) at least once every single day (I know, piece o cake, right?) for 101 consecutive days. For you monkey-spankers out there, it probably sounds like a dream. But there's a catch. In order to "graduate," my students commit to gobbling up their manchowder after every single ejaculation. Can you even imagine? 101 dirty cumloads festering inside the belly of each and every loser that enrolls in the program. It took me approximately 19 minutes to film the Jacktard 101 video and I've sold over 2,000 of them. There are other built in rules in my program. I demand that all my students stare at a photo of me on my website while they jerk it. It's just a simple photo of me in classy, feminine attire staring right at the camera lens. This way, I'm conditioning their brains so they worship me and send me extra tribute.
It's been a remarkably successful program for me, as well as the losers who pay to humiliate themselves. Successful for me because I'm getting rich. Successful for the losers because they get to serve a higher power and humiliate themselves, while pleasuring their stupid penises. According to my calculations, if a dude eats 101 of his own pathetic cumloads he's effectively eaten a gallon of his own jizz! Ha ha. Can you even imagine? If that isn't the complete definition of LOSER, I don't know what is. Jerk your own pathetic penis, and EAT all your slimy splooge -- a gallon of it. If that isn't enough, I make them thank me after they're finished guzzling. "Thanks for the lesson, Miss Alana," they all say.
There's one final segment to my program. Once the loser completes the program, he can download a certificate from my website, which says, "I successfully completed Miss Alana's Jacktard 101 program. I'm a certified cum-eating loser." Ha! Then they email me a photo of themselves holding the certificate with load # 101 festering on their tongues. Now that's total ownership.
That gets me back to Keith. Once I got finished reading his email, and laughing, I threw on my spandex and went to the gym. As I bounced up and down on the Stairmaster, I wondered how I could ensure that Keith suffered the most abject, demoralizing humiliation ever inflicted upon a male. No easy task, right? There are a lot of smart girls out there who have severely exploited males. Millions of women across the world humiliate millions of men every single day. But I know I'm good at this and I was up to the task. I couldn't stop smiling during my workout once I figured out what I was going to do to the complete jackass that made my life a living hell for three years.
After getting home, showering and slipping into shorts and a t-shirt, I sat in front of the computer and constructed an email:
Dear Keith the LOSER,
Hahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahah! Why am I not surprised to discover you’re an ashamed, closeted, penis jacking pervert?
I will admit you as a student in my Jacktard 101 program under the following added probationary conditions. Because of our history, I'm going to have to insist that you agree to a few additional up front rules. I believe this added structure is necessary to your development as a true worshipping disciple of mine. So, here are my added rules:
  1. Each day, before two in the afternoon, you are to film yourself masturbating and email the film to me. But I don't have the time to watch the whole retarded penis-jacking ritual and I don't want your emails jamming my computer. Therefore you are to send me only 30 seconds of edited footage. The 30 seconds will begin with you introducing yourself as Keith The Loser, then a quick snippet of your pathetic ejaculation, then you EATING YOUR CUM, and thanking me PROFUSELY for teaching you another lesson.
  2. Each day you are to deposit $10 to my pay pal account. If I'm dissatisfied with your video (AND I WILL WATCH EVERY VIDEO), I will increase the payment to $100 on that day.
  3. Any failure to follow my instructions will result in me shutting you off for good. There will be no second chances. You should also know that if I sense any lack of respect, the folks at (my old restaurant) might be getting some new movies in the mail.
Your agreement to My terms will be in the form of a video, sent to Me tomorrow by 2 PM, as well as an initial deposit of $100 (first ten days) to My account.
-Miss Alana
The next day, like clockwork, Keith’s first video came in, I immediately forwarded it to Trina and we watched it while talking on the phone. Both of us couldn't stop laughing. Keith stood there with his legs spread, his crotch sticking out, pumping his spunk into a tissue. The whole time his tongue was hanging out and he was grunting like a freak. He looked right at the camera and gobbled the whole mess down. Then he got on his knees and put his hands up in prayer and started thanking me like a boss who spared his job. What a total triumph! We had oodles of fun watching him make a total jackass of himself for the first week or so. After that, he got boring, so I didn't watch for a while, but one day I checked a few videos to make sure he was in compliance. His "loser-tax" tributes continued to fill my bank account. Of all the losers that send me tribute, I think I've had to do less "work" for Keith than any of them. In light of our history, it's fitting, don't you think? A convenient transfer of wealth from male to Female, from retard to Goddess. It's a unique form of Darwinism.
For load #101, I decided to make a house call. Because of our history, Keith was obviously a special case. This was more than just some random jackass who wanted to be humiliated; this was personal. In light of that, I wanted to have an intimate one-on-one moment with Keith where I could cement my dominance over him in memorable fashion. For that reason, I though the best place to truly embarrass him and hammer home my superiority was in his "private" sanctuary, a.k.a. his bedroom, the site of so many self-administered personal relief massages. By invading his home and shaming him in the way I had selected, it would show him that his body and his life, not to mention his dignity, no longer belonged to him. It belonged to me.
After arranging to visit his condo on a Friday afternoon, I instructed him in an email to leave his front door unlocked and lie on his bed, naked. He was to have tissues and hand lotion in bed with him and he was to masturbate himself to the brink of orgasm. I instructed him to groan continuously so I'd have no trouble finding his bedroom when I arrived. As a final touch, I told him I wanted his legs spread and up in the air and the middle finger of his non-jacking hand to be wedged up his anus. Just so there would be no shenanigans, I told him that people knew of my whereabouts and if he was anything less than ultra-obedient, the tapes of him masturbating would be circulated everywhere.
I dressed in simple attire, jeans, a blouse, booties and a full length jacket. I didn't intend to be there for more than 15 minutes. This wasn’t the first time I arranged to walk in on a masturbating loser. I absolutely love to do it. Another technique of mine is to arrive late, so the male is forced to get all pent up and bothered while I take my sweet time and arrive at my leisure.
When I arrived, I took a moment to take my jacket off and check myself in the mirror. I could hear the shameful monkey-spank groans coming from down the hall, so without further delay I headed straight to the source of the perverted groaning sound, an anticipatory smile on my face. I pushed open the door to his bedroom and there was Keith in all his "glory," legs spread and elevated, finger stuck retardedly up his own ass, pumping his penis and groaning. The tissues and lube were next to him on the bed.
"Oh I'm sorry, am I interrupting something?" I said, conjuring up my most condescending, feminine voice.
Keith's face turned so red. It's always more satisfying when they get really embarrassed. And in Keith’s case, it was with good reason that he was embarrassed. But I wanted to make sure he experienced some real shame. I sat down on the bed next to him and slid my hand beneath his chin, so he had no choice but to face me.
"You should see yourself," I began. "What a disgusting pervert you are! You do realize you've paid me a thousand dollars to feed on your own filthy sperm, right? And now look at you!" I released his chin and slapped him like a pimp slapping his bitch. His face became the picture of shame -- eyes cast downward, cheeks redder than ever. That's what I wanted. “Absolutely pathetic,” I added.
I'm not in the business of giving males what they want. I'm in the business of giving males what they need. I knew Keith wanted me to watch him masturbate and consume his own ejaculate. He wanted a female audience to fulfill his fantasy. I had something else in mind.
"Okay, I can't stay. I'm meeting a couple of friends at the mall," I lied. "Toss your legs up over your head, so your penis is pointing down at your stupid face."
Once he obeyed, I reached into my handbag and took out his certificate. I flipped it casually in the air and made for the door. "I have no intentions of watching you splooge all over your face. I'm going to go buy a few pairs of designer shoes with your money. Then, tomorrow I'm going to splatter your balls with them. Happy jerking, loser! If you jerk really quickly, I might hear your groans before I leave."
I could hear him grunting as I left the apartment. He obviously wanted me to hear him pleasuring himself. I’m quite sure he gave himself a faggot facial while I was riding the elevator downstairs. But what the fuck do I care? I had exploited him the way I wanted to exploit him and now it was time to go shopping.
Later, when I got home, I wrote him an email:
Dear Keith the LOSER,
Tomorrow (Saturday) is officially "Punishment Day" for you. It's the day I intend to pay you back in full for your childish and unacceptable behavior from the days when I worked at (name of restaurant). As I'm sure you know from your deep infatuation with Me, I specialize in Ballbusting. I assume you have had a chance to review the 100s of pictures of Bulbs on my website. You can expect your scrotum to take on a similar appearance. Make sure you shave your pubes THOROUGHLY the morning before you arrive. I want it smooth. And dipshit, I have to warn you that I'll take absolutely no prisoners. I'm going to knock your stupid nutsack (and the nuts inside your stupid nutsack) into next week. Very few things in life give me more pleasure. The fact that we have a history will only enhance my feeling of determination and my ultimate joy when I do what NEEDS to be done.
Of course you know you will pay me $500 for this necessary attitude adjustment, which you yourself admitted that you so desperately need. When you arrive, I'll lead you into a room, where you are to strip naked and bring your wallet with $500 in it. I'll be waiting in my kitchen. You are to enter, kneel and open your wallet so that I can ceremoniously rape it.
I expect you to arrive at noon. Do not be late.
-Miss Alana
For all you jerkoffs (and Females) unfamiliar with my practices, let me explain in clinical terms what it means to properly "bulb" a male. When a male suffers trauma to his scrotum, the testicles inevitably swell. As they swell, eventually they force the skin from the scrotum to stretch in such a way that the skin will accommodate the damaged nuts. A properly "bulbed" scrotum takes on a highly comic appearance. For one, it's quite large in size, since testicles tend to swell quite dramatically when punished with the blunt force of Female Footwear. Two, the skin takes on an ultra smooth appearance. This is because, as the gonads undergo trauma, the skin has no choice but to stretch to accommodate them. The result is sort of like what a facelift does to wrinkled skin. Not only that, but a properly bulbed scrotum tends to become almost perfectly circular in appearance. What a wonderful symmetry, and proof that scrotums were meant to be this way. And lastly, the bulb also turns wonderful shades of pink, red, blue, and my personal favorite, purple.
I have a high quality digital SLR camera, and after a successful bulbing, I make sure to take dozens of photographs. Then, I'll analyze the photographs and come up with my favorite one. The photograph is then labeled and archived with the male's name, age, and the date the bulbing took place. My photographs always include a totally flaccid penis in them. There are several reasons for this: One, I find the full image, penis included, very pleasing to the eye. Two, the docile penis offers wonderful perspective on the extent of the damage that was inflicted upon the scrotum. Three, it makes for a highly humiliating image that the bulbed male can always look as a reminder that he was put in his place by the superior gender. I want him to know that he is the victim of Female Power. And when I'm finished with them, they know it.
Prior to Keith's arrival, I had Trina, Lynn and Leslie come over. They're my closest gal pals and all intricately familiar with male humiliation. I had them sit quietly in my kitchen while I answered the front door. Keith looked so embarrassed and this was even before he realized he would have an audience. Without saying a word, I stared him down. "Are you ready for more humiliation?"
"Yes ma'am," he looked almost crestfallen.
"Look me in the eye when I address you!" I gave him three crisp bitch-slaps. "Oh, don't you worry. I'm going to humiliate you alright," I said, before leading him to the room where he was to remove his clothing (and what little dignity he had left). I couldn't help but snicker as he disrobed. He had a little erection and his balls hung there, oblivious to me, their executioner.
Fittingly, I wore all black -- a tight black skirt, a black top, black stockings and black high heels. Trina, who is Asian, looked gorgeous in a white dress with these really cool white leather square-toed boots. The other ladies looked quite lovely as well.
You should have seen Keith's eyes pop out of his head when he walked butt-naked into my kitchen and found himself face-to-face with four clothed Females. He was totally mortified.
Lynn has this great video camera that takes both video and high quality photographs simultaneously. She captured Keith's priceless reaction when he realized his humiliation was going to be much more public than he imagined. The girls all laughed as he stood there stunned. He mumbled something about this not being what he expected.
"Get your naked ass over here and present your wallet to me," I said matter-of-factly.
After I raped Keith's wallet of $500 of his hard-earned money, I made him kneel before us and admit what a compulsive masturbating jackass he truly was. "We've all seen the videos," Lynn added, as his face turned bright red just as it had the day before. We all called him a loser (I have always found that word to be particularly fitting and effective), jackass, compulsive dick-spanking retard, lots of mocking laughter, you get the idea.
Once that was taken care of, it was time to get down to the bulbing. I couldn't wait. All dominant women love to bust nuts. It's just that me and my gal pals take it to another level.
"Time to get underway," I said.
First I had him stand up, legs spread. I told him to present his balls to me and beg me to teach him a lesson. This is a must. It shows the male knows his place and is ready to accept his punishment. It also adds a ceremonial element to the proceedings, which I think is a necessary formalization of a process.
"Mess him up, Alana," said Trina.
I used a chair to brace myself and carefully measured my target, pressing the tip of my pump into Keith's groin.
THUD! THUD! THUD! THUD! THUD! THUD! THUD! THUD! THUD! THUD!
In the early stages of a bulbing, it's important to get a lot of kicks in, but the kicks can't be too hard. You want the male to remain on his feet. I used the bridge of my foot, which does a good job of causing blunt trauma without any real risk of rupture. The goal is to get good coverage and make sure both testicles begin the initial swelling process. After each ten kicks, Keith was made to thank me, as well as the other women in attendance. I kicked him maybe a hundred times this way. For the final flurry of kicks, I upped the ante, really snapping my foot with extra force. The second to last kick was enough to put him on the floor, but before he went down I nailed him with a really super kick. This one took some skill because he was falling away. I had to shuffle my feet forward and change my angle. All my work at the gym really paid off, as it made an especially loud thud and sent his genitals flying. Lynn captured the moment perfectly, getting a great shot of his penis pointing straight to the ceiling as my foot battered his nuts. When one analyzes ballbusting photographs, it’s amazing the way the nuts contort during an assault. Keith's knees slammed together and his hands came down between his legs in protective (too late) mode. I love watching when they do that. The Women all cheered.
We were off to a good start.
I circled him as he struggled to get his bearings and (I assume) deal with the pain in his stomach. We could see he was already red down there. "Now I want you to get on all fours and face the Women. I'm going to kick you from behind."
I really love kicking scrotum from behind. I admit it gives me a thrill to see that naked ass crack just staring up at me, legs spread like a dog in heat, silly, dangling soon-to-be-bulb, waiting for additional punishment. It gives me a chance to show them how uncivilized they really are. I also love the imagery of my shoe wedged between their ass, as I rock their world. Because it echoes off the floor, each kick makes this nice snapping noise.
SNAP!SNAP!SNAP!SNAP!SNAP!SNAP!SNAP!SNAP!SNAP!SNAP!
Keith was starting to suffer now. I could see him try to cheat his punishment by sliding his knees slowly together and lowering his ass. "Keep your fucking legs spread, ass up!" I warned him, before launching another good ten snappers. I put my hips into the last kick and his ass bounced up into the air. He fell on his side and groaned.
Now we were getting somewhere.
His legs were fastened together and his hands were wedged into his groin, doing their best to protect his prized possessions. It was pure male instinct. I’d seen it hundreds of times. I knelt down and reached between his legs, gently pushing away his hands, which gave way without too much of a fight. Once I had snaked my hand in there and secured his ever-expanding scrotum, I gave it a firm squeeze and ordered him onto his back. “Spread your legs nice and wide, loser, so we all have a nice view. It’s inspection time.”
After he realized he had no choice but to comply, I began properly inspecting his scrotum, pulling and pinching at the skin. I love the process of “damage inspection” during a bulbing because, by the time I check, the scrotum is usually highly sensitive and a simple pinch can result in pain. Keith kept wincing and writhing on the floor. But he kept his legs apart like a good, obedient male should. It was clear I had unencumbered access to Keith’s most prized possessions. And I had his respect.
I made sure to stand to one side of Keith so that the other ladies had a nice view of him lying there, genitals lewdly on display. His scrotum had turned a nice pink color and was starting to stretch, but we had a long way to go. After tugging and pinching longer than was necessary, I leaned forward and looked deep into his eyes. "We're not even close to halfway done. Get back into position," I said. Trina laughed.
Once he was back in position, I stood and let him know what I thought about him covering up. "Each time you sprawl on my kitchen floor and grab your dirty organs, it makes me want to kick you even harder," I said. "You know this is what you wanted and we all know it's what you need. So stay PUT-" SNAP....SNAP....SNAP. I began putting my hips into each kick. Now every time I kicked him, Keith's ass bounced pleasingly in the air, but knowing my warning, he gritted his teeth and got back into position.
SNAP!!!
He was really bouncing up with each kick now. Lynn let out a groan of satisfaction. All of us lifestyle dominatrixes love taking part in a good bulbing. Everything about it is so enjoyable. It's a total display of vaginal power. And we all love watching that male ass bounce in the air.
SNAP!!!
This time I squealed with pleasure. Keith's sack was now a bigger target and I could feel all that mushy flesh really yield as my foot smashed into it. Keith let out his first real scream and began rolling around my kitchen floor.
I kneeled down and again secured him by the balls. Once he had obeyed my unspoken command by lying on his back and spreading his legs, we all studied his exposed groin. "Looks better, Alana," said Leslie, in that detached, lispy voice of hers. "Progress is being made." Leslie was such a snob.
Determined to make an example of Keith, I conjured up my strictest most no-nonsense tone:
"Get back on your hands and knees. This time I want your ass way up in the air."
SNAP!! SNAP!! SNAP!! Three more good hard kicks. Keith slumped over.
"Get up."
SNAP!! SNAP!! SNAP!!!!!
"Uhhhhhhh!" I added.
SNAP!! SNAP!! SNAP! SNAP! SNAP SNAP SNAP!
I kicked with controlled fury. No sense in rushing the job. Plus, more kicks usually equate to a rounder, firmer bulb. It's important to be thorough and make sure every single cell of testicle ends up swollen.
Again I kneeled down and checked. Keith's scrotum was beginning to resemble a bulb, but it was still too loose for my liking. His nuts had more room to swell. An appropriately bulbed scrotum should cause the male constant pain, because the testicles eventually push against each other as they run out of room. "What do you think, Ladies?" I asked, knowing full well the answer.
"Not there yet," said Leslie.
"Nicely swollen, but not yet an official bulb," added Lynn. “We want those nuts pushing up against each other in his sack so he’s in perpetual pain.” It was as though the girl could read my mind.
“Yes dear, I know what it means to bulb a male,” I said.
I pulled a chair between Keith’s legs so I could be comfortable. A Woman can't really kick with the bridge of her foot from this position. It’s important to have square-toed shoes with some depth. Fortunately I had my square-toed red shoes at the ready, for just this purpose. Trina handed them to me.
I made him sit up and put my shoes on my feet (an honor) before returning him to the floor. I pressed my shoe up against his sack. Keith's scrotum had grown almost to the size of a baseball now, but it was clear more work was needed to increase his swelling and get the skin suitably tight. I held my shoe against his ball bag and spoke evenly.
"This is the nastiest part of a bulbing. Don’t you think, ladies?”
"Especially for him," quipped Trina.
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2020.09.19 23:05 pog99 Alternative Hypothesis/ Ryan Faulk distorts South Africa under Apartheid.

Originally, my plan was to continue on with his article on Slavery in the United States. However, United Left, and some previous posts of mine, more or less already debunk the picture he paints in that article. I still plan to address though at a later date.
This article, perhaps even better than the last, show how thin Faulk's objectivity is. He opens and closes as if he was actually being holistic, but instead leaves a specimen blatant rationalization over a topic common among right-wing circles, the racial history and politics of South Africa. Lets not waste time.

The impact of European colonialism on the world is often described as being profoundly negative. The popular view is that Europeans came, stole resources, destroyed cultures, and committed mass murder all over the earth. By contrast, the prevailing view 100 years ago was that Europe was supplying the world with advanced institutions which they would not develop on their own and, in so doing, was civilizing the world.
Either of these theories might be true, and, to some extent, they both are. It is obviously correct that Europe took resources from places, killed some number of people, and ended various indigenous cultural practices. It is also obviously true that Europe set up various institutions, such as capitalism and democracy, in various parts of the world which had not developed these things on their own.
Does he think state control over, say, African labor during colonialism is Capitalism? Or that limiting Local chiefs from legislation such as in Colonial Nigeria is democracy?
A broad look at the empirical evidence suggests that European colonization helped most people more than it hurt them. Research has shown that the longer, or more heavily, a place was colonized by Europeans the richer it ended up being today (Eaverly and Levine, 2012; Feyrer and Sacerdote, 2006). Moreover, in the 20th century Africa, which is the center of much of the colonization debate, saw tremendous net gains in both wealth and population size (Manning, 2013; Roser; 2016)
Going through each of these, The Easterly study mainly looks at economic growth, and honestly doesn't suffice to explain the specific of African colonial experience in that regard. The second study notes how specific conditions of colonialism influences growth, while the two figures on African population growth shows this to be particularly so in the Post colonial era. Few would consider the first decades of African independence to be embodied by these numbers.
Here's an actual balanced set of studies and explanation on Colonialism in Africa.
I find this broad view compelling, but discussions on colonialism are rarely about the broad view. Instead, people like to talk about the anecdotal experiences of particular countries at particular times, and no anecdote is more often talked about than South African apartheid.
In this article, I will examine the history of South Africa as a case study in European colonialism.
Correction: You will gloss over it in a way that reflects your political biases.
Black Origins
The earliest people known to have occupied South Africa were a type of African called Khosians. Khosians are not the group of people most people think of when they think of Black South Africans. Those are Bantus. Bantu Africans and Khosians Africans look different, traditionally spoke different languages, and lived different sorts of lives. If we turned the clock back 4 thousand years, we would find that the southern half of the African continent was almost entirely inhabited by Khosians.
Some time roughly 3,000 years ago, Bantu Africans began expanding out of eastern and central Africa. As they expanded, they displaced many of the African peoples who had previously lived there. The degree to which this expansion occurred via violence, disease, out breeding, or other means, is unknown.
By 1,000 AD, the Bantu had reached most of South Africa. However, most of the people there were still Khosians. When the Portuguese arrived in South Africa in the 1400’s, they encountered very few Bantu.
As the Bantu expanded, they divided into tribes which then went to war with one another over land. In several African nations, a specific Bantu tribe came to dominate the others and then set up an empire. This occurred in South Africa as well. In the 1810’s and 1820’s, the Zulus conquered many neighboring African tribes and formed the Zulu empire. This empire went on to last almost until South Africa was entirely under White rule.
So a few things worth mentioning, that by 1000 AD, the current trends in a predominately Bantu Eastern half and a predominately Khoisan Western Half was already established.

The Rise of apartheid
While the South African government did not obtain independence from Britain until 1948, the beginnings of Apartheid can be traced back to the land act of 1913. This law made it illegal for Whites to sell land to Blacks and vice versa. By this point, Whites had already conquered or purchased the vast majority of South African land and this law was designed to make sure that this would not change.
Between this time and the 1960’s, the Apartheid government passed many laws which further segregated the races. For instance, inter-racial marriage was banned.
The most often talked about policy of South Africa was the creation of the Bantustans. These were designated “homelands” for Black South Africans. The Apartheid government forcibly moved millions of Blacks from multi-racial areas of South Africa into these Bantustans.
As explained in the report of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission, the people who established the Bantustans gave the following rational for their motives:
“NP politicians portrayed the homelands as a moral response to South Africa’s ‘multi-national’ reality. Apartheid theorists believed that South Africa was a country containing a number of nations, each developed to a greater or lesser degree. Freedom, they posited, could be realized only by providing the opportunity for each of these nations to exist and develop along its own lines.”
However, critics are quick to point out that the Bantustans consisted of less than a quarter of South Africa’s land even though Blacks made up an overwhelming majority of the nation’s population.
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Bantustans also suffered from tremendous poverty. As the Encyclopedia of Britiannia explains:
“The Bantustans were rural, impoverished, underindustrialized, and reliant on subsidies from the South African government.The original hope of the designers of the Bantustan system was that industries would be established along the Bantustan borders to utilize the cheap labour available nearby, but for the most part these hopes went unrealized. Other initiatives to create the illusion of viable economies for the Bantustans also broke down. To the end they were heavily dependent on financial aid supplied by the South African government. Poverty remained acute in the Bantustans, and child mortality rates were extremely high. Despite draconian control of where people were allowed to farm and the number of cattle they were permitted to have, Bantustan lands were oversettled, overgrazed, and hence afflicted with serious soil erosion.”
So far so good. Of course, for this to be an article by Faulk, things would have to sharply turn downward.
The Net Economic Impact of Bantustans
Such critics rarely mention the fact that as can be seen, in 1960, Black South Africans were exactly as poor as Sub-Saharan Africans generally were. By 1980 they were far richer (1).
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Given this, it does not seem fair to say, as some people do, that Bantustans caused Blacks to be poor. Prior to being forced into these areas, Black South Africans were just as poor as Sub-Saharan Africans generally were. Had Black South Africans been left totally alone, there is no reason to think that they would have become any richer than the rest of Sub-Saharan Africa let alone richer than they were under Apartheid. The land in Bantustans may have been bad. But this, evidently, was more than made up for by payments from the South African government.
The economic strain caused by the nature of the Bantustans is basically uncontested by actual experts as far as I know. The basis being that the clearly linked demographic disasters linked to their design have been established but ignored by the government since their early existence through the Tomlinson report and previous studies calling for reform.
Voerwerd refusing to spend the recommended budget to actually achieve independence as oppose to partial dependence for black labour, as well as the future migration to urban areas fueled by the increasingly poor conditions, suggest whatever aid given to the homelands were far from sufficient in any meaningful sense.
Height data suggests Living standards indeed deteriorated with the onset of particular labour exploitation events and that future improvements were linked to being apartheid of the same economic benefits that white South Africans were apart of. This would've been undermined had Apartheid not inadvertently fueled migration into white urban areas and new urban areas surrounding the homelands close to white populations.
Thus, whatever growth seen between Apartheid, which eventually became economically weakened from the 1970s to the 1980s, would be in spite of the laws imposed.
See here fore an overview on the arbitrary decision, poor conditions, and deceiving nature of Homeland "independence".

In conjunction with these external pressures, domestic terrorism was rapidly rising in South Africa during this time period. Following the incident in Sharpville, members of the ANC, the leading Black political party in South Africa, formed a military wing called the MK. Among its founders was Nelson Mandela, who was famously thrown in prison in 1962 for committing various acts of terrorism against the South African government.
The most famous incident of said terrorism perpetrated by the MK was the Church Street Bombing of 1983. This attack consisted of a car bomb being set off in the middle of the day on a busy street. 19 people were killed and over 200 were wounded. 📷
This is but one example from a list of many similar terrorist attacks that occurred, mostly in the 1980’s. During this time, the MK also gained a reputation for torturing prisoners.
On top of all this, in 1989 the South African president suffered a stroke that caused him to resign from office. F.W. De Klerk took his place after being elected by congress and was then re-elected by the electoral college.
De Klerk eliminated as many of the Apartheid laws as he could and, after freeing Nelson Mandela, entered into negotiations to end Apartheid.
Following the announcement of these negotiations, De Klerk’s party, the National Party, lost a national election to the pro apartheid Conservative Party. This was taken to indicate that the (White) people of South Africa did not want Apartheid to end and so De Klerk decided to hold a national referendum on whether or not to continue his negotiations to end apartheid.
The referendum was conducted in 1992 and the public was taken to have voted to end Apartheid. However, the referendum has been heavily criticized on several grounds. First, the South African government owned the media and this meant that the public only got a biased presentation of one viewpoint (Schonteich et al., 2003). Secondly, western powers were expected to plunge South Africa into a recession if they voted no (Wren, 1993). Thirdly, serious accusations of voter fraud have been made. Regardless, the negotiations continued and in 1994 Apartheid was ended.
Some Whites tried to resist the vote by setting up smaller areas of White control, but such efforts largely subsided after several Whites were executed on live TV by Black police officers. As one author wrote:
“the sight of three wounded AWB men pleading for their lives on live television and then shot in cold blood [by black policemen] had a powerful impact on the country’s Whites.”
Following the end of Apartheid, Nelson Mandela was elected president of the new South African government.
So there's an impression left here that'll pick up on later, but to give you a hint, Faulk doesn't tell you exactly who the executed whites were.
National Success Since Apartheid
Unfortunately, since Apartheid ended South Africa has declined on many metrics of national health.
Under apartheid GDP per capita usually grew roughly in sync with the rest of the World. This trend began to collapse in the 1980’s following the introduction of sanctions against the country. After apartheid ended, GDP per capita not only stagnated but, in fact, fell such that South Africans were poorer in 2002 than they were in 1982.
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World Bank
Of course what it also shows is an eventual recovery.
In 1980, South Africa has an unemployment rate of 9.8% (Murwirapachena et al., 2013). By 2002, that figure had risen to 30.4%, and in 2014 it was still nearly 3 times as high as it was in 1980 (Murwirapachena et al., 2013; World Bank) .
What he doesn't show is this disparity occurring before Apartheid ended, almost 10 years prior in fact.
Under Apartheid, South Africa had a longer average life expectancy than Sub-Saharan Africa generally did. Since Apartheid ended, life expectancy has stagnated and fallen such that life expectancy was almost 10 years higher in 1992 than it was in 2002.
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World Bank
Like the GDP, it saw a recovery.
Murder rates in South Africa began to rise in the 1970’s. Given the national turmoil of this time period, an increase in crime is unfortunate but not surprising. Perhaps less obvious, however, is the fact that murder rates exploded following the end of apartheid. As can be seen, this has disproportionately impacted Whites.
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(Thompson, 2004)
That is actually not supported by the data. Coloreds in South Africa make up roughly the same percentage as whites, yet their victimizations are night and day. That's actually the point of the study.
These declines have not just impacted White South Africans. The wealth gap between Blacks and Whites in South Africa was slightly lower under Apartheid than it is today.
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This, taken in conjunction with the fact that GDP growth has slowed since Apartheid ended, implies that both Blacks and Whites in south Africa would likely be richer today if Apartheid were still in place.
Moreover, Black South Africans reported feeling less happy and less satisfied with their lives in 2008 than they did in the early 1980’s.
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Thus, it seems that the economic, physical, and psychological health of South Africa has gotten worse since Apartheid ended.
The 1980s, mind you, being Apartheid at it's economical weakest compared to previous decades, going towards the trend of less government restrictions.
Kill the Boers
Anti-White racism has also risen since Apartheid ended. Today, there is a wave of mass murder being waged against the descendants of the Boers.This is how the situation was described by the president of Genocide Watch:
“Afrikaner farm owners are being murdered at a rate four times the murder rate of other South Africans, including Black farm owners. Their families are also subjected to extremely high crime rates, including murder, rape, mutilation and torture of the victims. South African police fail to investigate or solve many of these murders, which are carried out by organized gangs, often armed with weapons that police have previously confiscated. The racial character of the killing is covered up by a SA government order prohibiting police from reporting murders by race. Instead the crisis is denied and the murders are dismissed as ordinary crime, ignoring the frequent mutilation of the victims’ bodies, a sure sign that these are hate crimes*.*However, independent researchers have compiled accurate statistics demonstrating convincingly that murders among White farm owners occur at a rate of 97 per 100,000 per year, compared to 31 per 100,000 per year in the entire South African population, making the murder rate of White SA farmers one of the highest murder rates in the world.” Leon Parkin & Gregory H. Stanton, President – Genocide Watch14 August 2012
These murders are not only common place, they are also gruesome. Attie Potgieter was stabbed over 150 times while his wife and daughter, who were later executed, were made to watch.
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Dr. Louis John Botha was thrown into a crocodile pit and eaten alive.
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As a final example, consider the Viana family. The father and daughter were shot, the mother was raped and killed, and the son was drowned to death in a bath of boiling water.
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These murders reflect a more general anti-White sentiment which is ubiquitous in South Africa. Even leaders of the ANC, the party now in charge of the South African government, literally sang songs about killing White people as recently as 2012.
“South Africa’s ruling party on Tuesday defended the singing of an apartheid-era song with the words “Kill the Boer” in a row that has raised fears of increasing racial polarisation.” – Govender (2010)
White South Africans are also discriminated against by various South African institutions in order to make up for the damage that Apartheid institutions are thought to have done to Blacks.
First, there is discrimination in University admissions. Consider, for instance, this report on the University of Cape Town:
“The way in which the university has achieved this diversity, however, is somewhat controversial. To be admitted, white students must score the equivalent of straight A’s. Meanwhile, black and mixed-race students can get in with plenty of B’s. The University of Cape Town doesn’t make this policy a secret — admission cutoffs are listed by race in the prospectus.” – Kelto (2011)
Employers are encourage by the state to discriminate against Whites as well. The Black Economic Empowerment law set up the following point system in the country:
“Points are based on the percentage of blacks and other non-white ethnic groups in the company’s ownership and the skills training it gives to people in these groups. For companies, having a good BEE scorecard is often essential for business. The higher the BEE score they have, the more access they get to public markets and contracts.” – Iob (2013)
Finally, in may of this year South Africa passed the “land expropriation bill” which allows the government to force White South Africans to sell their land to the government at a price that the government decides. The rational behind this law is that it can undue the redistribution of land into the hands of whites which was solidified by the Land Act of 1913.
These factors have led White South Africans to abandon South Africa in large numbers. Since Apartheid ended, over half a million White South Africans have left the country. To put that in perspective, there are less than 5 million Whites in the whole country.
Some White South Africans are unable to emigrate on their own and are asking Western nations for Refugee status. The Canadian government has recently acquiesced to this request and allowed two White South Africans to come to Canada as refugees.
“31-year-old Brandon Huntley from Cape Town said he was constantly called a “white dog” and “settler” by Black South Africans back home. He was also robbed 7 times and stabbed three times by Black South Africans since his home country ended Apartheid in 1994. “There’s a hatred of what we did to them and it’s all about the color of your skin,” Huntley told the Canadian Immigration and Refugee Board.The evidence Huntley provided showed “a picture of indifference and inability or unwillingness of the South African government to protect White South Africans from persecution by African South Africans,” Board Chairman William Davis said.” –
White South Africans are also asking for refugee status from the EU which, in recent years, has allowed tens of thousands of middle eastern and African refugees to cross its borders.
I won't sugarcoat the the economic and social issues of whites currently in South Africa. The problem is, aside from the victimization of Afrikaners (farmers specifically) by murders, the general economic position of whites in South Africa hasn't changed.
As for white emigration, his figure combines the total number of whites (roughly 300k) that have left between 1986 (that is before apartheid fell) and 2000, and roughly 300k between 2000-2015.
Overall, the white population only slightly shrank between 1980 and 2015.

If conquest is not a legitimate means to acquire land, the Zulu and similar Bantu tributes did not justly own South African land, nor did any other tribe of the last few hundred years. After all, this land was conquered from Khoisan and older Bantu tribes.
Moreover, if the Zulu did steal the land, it is not clear that Apartheid was in the wrong for taking it from them. Is it wrong to steal something which is stolen from the thief who stole it?
If, on the other hand, conquest is a valid way to acquire land, then White South Africans had a perfectly legitimate claim on it. This might be taken to imply that there is also nothing wrong with modern Black South Africans taking land from Whites. However, conquering land via war is not the same thing as using a false political narrative about the supposed negative effects of apartheid to take land. Moreover, forcing White people into a society that hates and mass murders them is not analogous to putting Blacks in bantustans which, as we have seen, were not as bad as they are often made out to be.
I consider the morality of conquest to be a difficult question and I won’t try to resolve it here. What I will say is that it is very hard to come up with any principled moral answer which would justify the totality of what is being done to White South Africans.
Where to begin?
  1. Assuming the validity of the right of conquest, that only applies to the right to claim land or wield power over it. That doesn't exempt moral considerations on particular acts directed towards the previous occupiers. That is, if the Zulu Empire lead to the displacement and abuse of other groups like the Khoisan, then they can be morally judged on those grounds. Same can be easily said for victims of the Anglo-Boer wars under concentration camps.
  2. "White South Africans" didn't conquer Bantu lands leading to their annexation, it was the British specifically. Boers more so are responsible for the displacement of the Khoisan in the Western Cape.
  3. "Forced Removals" weren't the direct result of being conquered, annexation was. Forced removals, then, can be viewed as a separate act apart of conquest from war and as a decision by an already formed government. It was these laws that form the basis of land claims, not British colonization in and of itself.
  4. There is noting "false" that was validly demonstrated regarding the effect of Bantustans had on the black population. Nor were the Bantustans "not that bad", as most moved out by 1986.
Political Violence
Another important question is whether or not the political violence initiated by the MK against White South Africans was justified.
Apartheid set up various laws, some of which I would consider unjust. Most importantly, Apartheid severely restricted the right of Blacks to protest. This was the justification that Mandela used for resorting to violence. He had no other choice.
This may be true, and if you think that apartheid’s policies were sufficiently horrible this may justify violence, but there is no way that the indiscriminate violence against innocent and random White south Africans that the MK engaged in can be justified. Their activities, especially in the 1980’s, were morally equivalent to any other act of mass murder.
Further more, as we have seen, Apartheid’s actions were not nearly as bad as they are often thought to have been.
This is what I was alluding to earlier, that terrorism among the Anti-Apartheid movement was directed towards whites mostly. While there were indeed anti-white motivation fueling the movement, the overwhelming majority were black. See here for an understanding.
This whole section is a strawman.
Evaluating Apartheid
Even if Apartheid improved the material and psychological conditions of Black Africans,
It didn't. De facto economic integration efforts was what lead to observed improvements.
On the other hand, the material benefit that Whites brought to South Africa, and Africa generally, was truly immense. Were it not for colonialism, most Africans alive today would have never even been born.
In South Africa, that population growth came from a reaction of concentrated poverty, not wealth.
Fundamentally, the problem of African colonialism is the problem of multi-racialism. So long as Whites allowed Blacks to continue to live in Africa, which could have only been prevented with a massive and horrific genocide, Black Africans were going to resent them.
Except in Botswana, and to a lesser extent Namibia. Both with significantly different approaches to race relations.
As Apartheid shows us, this is true even if the Whites improve the conditions of the Blacks. There will always been a feeling that Whites do not belong there and Blacks will always resent the invariably superior material conditions of Whites.
Probably because many were removed from and forced away from Urban living.
Colonialism of the United States only worked because there aren’t many Indians around anymore.
I get the feeling this is part of his Bitchute video on the topic.
The kind of colonialism practiced in Africa in which Whites would be permanent but ruling minorities in a majority Black nation was never sustainable without an uncomfortable measure of totalitarianism and even then ethnic conflict was still common place.
Again Botswana.
The violence surrounding colonialism was rarely, if ever, one sided. Today, there is a massive level of systemic racism against White South Africans. The fact that this racism is not covered in Western media offers a stark contrast with how the media covered the sins of Apartheid.
The sources of the farm murders and affirmative actions were News24, a relatively left leaning SA news source, NPR, Reuters, Voice of America and the Dailymail. Only one source was an "alternative one", which reported the murder a whole year after News24 did and relied on a mainstream Afrikaner-news report.
These get attention by "Western media".
Overall, the problems of South Africa, both in terms of Blacks resenting their White rulers under Apartheid and Whites experiencing racism today, come from the inherent difficulties of having a multi-racial society. In this sense, the story of South Africa contains lessons not only about colonialism but also about more general and pressing questions of immigration and diversity.
Or, you know, what happens when you don't consider the role of Black Africans in your government, unlike Botswana.
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2020.09.19 22:05 TopGolfUFO In February of 1982 Leon Moncer of Bellaire Ohio received a death threat in the mail. Made out of cut out magazine letters, the note read "leave it alone or you are dead". He vanished soon after and his case has never been solved. Almost forty years later, his daughter is searching for answers.

This is a case where information is sparse at best, but there were still several notable discrepancies between sources. In an effort to clarify details about the case, I spoke with Leon’s daughter, Julie Wurtzbacher. This conversation took place over the phone in August of 2020. I’d contacted her for a podcast I work on, and she is actively trying to get more publicity for the case. I posted this on the Unresolved Mysteries sub as well a little while ago, but I wanted to post it on here to maybe get more attention for the case.
Here’s the Charley Project link if you just want a brief overview, but they got a few details wrong, mainly that his car was idling when it was found. http://charleyproject.org/case/leon-arthur-moncer
Leon Moncer was a complicated young man. In the investigation that ensued following his disappearance it would become public knowledge that he was an alcoholic, abusive towards his wife Irene and had had a tendency to be unfaithful with his romantic partners. Despite all of this, he was a well liked member of the community with many dedicated friends and many people had very kind words to say about him following his disappearance.
The city of Bellaire in Belmont County, is tucked into a bend in the Ohio River. It is a lush area covered in vegetation right on the edge of Ohio, fading into West Virginia. Wheeling, WV is the largest city in the area. There is evidence of a bygone golden age. Belmont county of the 1980s would have been firmly on the downslide of that golden age. The rise of Industries like the Junk trade in which Leon worked was indicative of the slow decay of the manufacturing and production industries which dominated in the past.
Leon Moncer worked for Hermon Strauss, a business in the Junk recycling industry. Leon also had aspirations of starting his own business and had recently purchased a tow truck of his own in the months leading up to his disappearance. In the Times Leader Article published on February 28th 1982, just ten days after his disappearance, Leon was described by his wife Irene as a helpful and caring man, “He’ll do anything for anybody.” His disappearance is also out of character for Leon, with Irene stating, “He’s got a lot of friends...Its just not like Leon, he's never done nothing like this before
In the leadup to his disappearance, Leon’s life was chaotic. He was on the tail end of a failed marriage as he was in the process of finalizing a divorce with his wife Irene. He was working a full time job and trying to start his own business on the side. He was trying to navigate a new world where he had to learn how to co-parent with Irene while no longer being in a relationship with her and on top of all of this he was still a young 21 year old man with lots of growing up to do and was dealing with a number of bad habits, namely drinking and drug use.
His wife is quoted as saying he “had a tendency to get rowdy” when drinking, which was further evidenced by the fact that he was recently involved in several bar fights. There was one tussle of particular note that had occurred several months prior as it took place at Tin Pan Alley, the known gathering spot of the notorious local mob in Wheeling. According to his wife Irene, Leon was mostly unfazed by these things. By all accounts it appears that he and Irene had worked out how to both be present in their daughter’s life even if they were no longer together. According to his daughter, him and Irene got along very well as co-parents. Though, they’d been separated long enough for Leon to move on romantically, and he had actually been seeing someone long enough to have proposed. We will refer to his fiance as GG. GG lived in nearby Bethlehem West Virginia.
While a rowdy 21 year old man getting into a handful of bar fights may seem normal, another event that happened during the week before his disappearance may cast his presence at Tin Pan Alley in a more interesting light. During the week leading up to his disappearance Leon received a death threat in the mail, compiled from a hodgepodge of newspaper and magazine clippings. It simply read "Leave it alone or you are dead." The letter had no stamp on it, so it had been put directly in the mailbox by whoever wrote it. Leon simply shrugged off the death threat. However it has also been reported by Irene that in the weeks and days leading up to his disappearance Leon had become more guarded, especially with regard to his three year old daughter Julie. He suddenly began to forbid anyone from taking pictures of the girl. He was very careful about who he would let hold her, and became somewhat overprotective. Could this pattern of violence culminating in a death threat note have something to do with his disappearance?
Leon Moncer was last seen on the night of February 18th 1982. It was his brother, Raymond’s birthday party, and Raymond said “ He couldn’t make it because he had a hot date.” Him and GG had been in a bit of a rough patch, as he’d hit her recently, and possibly broken her nose. Her brothers were upset with Leon, and whether or not he had made up with GG yet is unclear. His hot date was likely with a different woman, as no one at the time knew who he was meeting. To this day, who the date was with remains a mystery.
Irene told the Times Leader in an interview ten days later what she knew of Leon’s timeline that night. He’d left from his parents house across the street, then stopped by his boss’s house to borrow $20. Then he drove to his friend, Ted’s house in Wheeling. Irene did not know Ted’s last name. Multiple friends placed Leon at Ed’s Lounge in Lloydsville later on that evening, but none made any mention of Leon’s mystery date. The true concern for Leon began the next day Feb. 19th when he failed to show up for work, it was pay day at Herman Strauss Inc. Leon’s brother Ray said that his brother “never missed work unless he was sick.” Leon’s absence at work was enough for the family to file a report with the Belmont County Sheriff's Department that very day.
That very night that the case began to take a turn towards the bizarre. Irene would later tell the press about a strange phone call Leon’s mother, Shelby received. She was speaking on the telephone around 9 p.m. when the operator suddenly interrupted her conversation asking both parties to hang up because of an emergency phone call from Leon Moncer. His mother hung up the phone and sat waiting for a call from her lost son, which never came.
The next day, Irene and Raymond decided to take the search into their own hands. They drove around the Bannock area, as Leon had been known to cruise around the old mining roads. After searching for a while, they spotted Leon’s gray Dodge Aspen parked in a ditch off the side of the road. Irene told WTOV9 that “My heart like sunk. I mean, I was happy. I was really happy because I figured maybe he was in there sleeping or something like that, but he wasn't there.” The car was empty, along a road that branched from 331 near Belmont Technical college. Persons living in the area told Irene that the car had been sitting in that same location since Thursday night, the day Leon vanished. It was not near Powerline Park, as reported in other articles. The car had empty beer cans, and an empty bottle of wine.
According to Raymond, while they were examining the car, a local resident stopped and told them that the car had been idling, and the lights had been on, and he had turned the lights off and taken the key out before Irene got there, and he’d put the key in the ashtray. The key found in the ashtray however was a spare, and Leon’s usual keys were missing. There was also a flashlight missing from inside the car. Some articles report that the driver’s side door was open, though this is not mentioned in every article, and some articles mention that the inside of the car was muddy. Julie later remarked that the mud by itself was not suspicious, as it was February. In addition to the spare key, Leon’s wallet, his cigarettes and coat were all in the vehicle. Some sources reported signs of a struggle, which likely just alluded to his valuables being left behind, and the car being muddy. In 2007 local authorities would say the suspicious nature of the car indicated foul play.
Later in 2007 Sheriff Fred Thompson told the State Journal that it "Sounds like someone knew he was going to be out there on this road at a certain time, and they had a surprise for him." Moncer’s family notified authorities of the discovery right away, and tried to turn the car over to them. But according to Irene, they said “Keep it. Get it out of here.” They had the car towed to Leon’s parent’s house, where it would sit in the front yard for years. In later articles, local authorities mildly criticized this police work, saying that had the car been found today it would have been thoroughly examined.
On February 28th Irene told the Times Leader that she hoped Leon just needed time to “get his head together” because he was under stress due to the divorce, and the pressure of trying to start his own business. She told the paper “I just wish he’d call to ease everyone’s mind.”
While family members conducted searches for Leon following his disappearance, the sources do not mention any large scale effort on the part of law enforcement. As of the 28th Irene had visited several drinking establishments in Wheeling for possible clues to Leon’s disappearance. Three people told her that they saw Leon on February 20th in a Wheeling bar on Main Street. Irene reported being skeptical as to whether this individual was actually Leon. On March 5th Leon’s sister Cindy thought she saw Leon walking around town, but later said she wasn’t sure. The investigation on the part of law enforcement largely stopped after this sighting.
Soon after he vanished, Irene received a phone call from a stranger who asked her if she wanted to know where her husband was. She said that she did, and the caller replied “well his head's in a garbage bag in the river, his arms and legs are out in the strip pits." Any searches or follow-up to this phone call on the part of law enforcement were not documented if they occurred.
For months after Leon’s disappearance, Irene thought there was someone in a pick up truck following them. If she ever got the plates, or turned them over to law enforcement is unclear. To make matters worse, someone started lurking around outside her house. Irene said “This person would stand out in front of our house. He was in blue jeans and a black shirt with a hood on it and he would stand there. I thought it might be him [Leon]. Julie was everything to him. So was that him, wanting to see her, to know what she looked like? I don't know." During this time they moved about half a mile away from the house they’d lived in when Leon was there, but this mysterious figure knew their new address. However the move put them just past the jurisdiction of the authorities they’d been working with, and into the St Clairsville Police territory. Irene called the police every time this figure showed up, but St Clairesville was farther away, and police would take about half an hour to get there, so this person was always long gone by the time they showed up. This went on, sporadically, for two years.
There is a theory that perhaps Leon had been a victim of mob activity in Wheeling. The Mob was very active in Wheeling from the 60s through the late 80s. This theory mostly originates from the fact that Leon had some associations with a few shady individuals through his involvement with drugs. The mysterious note he received in the mail and his brawl at Tin Pan Alley only add fuel to this theory. But without further information, this remains just that, a theory.
Leon Moncer was declared legally dead on November 16th 1988 on what would have been his 28th birthday. Shelby struggled with that decision, but decided it was time for some kind of closure. Irene eventually moved on and remarried, but she always speaks fondly of Leon in interviews, and hopes to one day find answers.
In 1992 the Times Leader interviewed Leon’s family to discuss the ten year anniversary of his disappearance. Leon’s brother Raymond said “I believe he’s dead, I just wonder where he’s at and what happened”. At the time Raymond was still checking with the sheriff’s office every once in a while. He said the consensus seemed to be that someone knew what happened, but wasn’t coming forward. Donald Samples echoed this, saying “it could be that he doesn’t want to be found, but we haven’t ruled out foul play” and told the paper that he was still following up on leads, but no one had come forward with anything useful so far. Samples said “you can only take an investigation so far, and then you need help from the public.”
During that interview, Shelby Moncer, told the Times Leader “All I want to do is find out where he is before I die”. She kept Leon’s keys, cigarettes, and loose change that was found in the car, along with much of his old clothing. She passed away in 2010, and just like her husband, she never found the answers she was looking for about her son Leon.
Later in a 2015 interview with Weelunk, Julie remarked on her grandfather's struggle to find answers, saying “I also feel I need to do this for my grandfather because he tried and he tried, but he passed away without answers. When I was young, it wasn’t this hard. It was what it was, but the older I get, I feel like I am missing something,”. In that same article, when asked what she would do if she ever had the chance to meet him, she said “I’d probably be very mad at him if I ever met him. I’d be mad because my grandparents’ number is still the same as it was when he vanished. But I don’t exactly know what I will say to him when I meet him again, whether it’s here on Earth or in Heaven, if he goes there. I just want to know what happened, and why he didn’t come back. If I find out that he is dead, at this point I’m not concerned with who did it. I’d just want to know where he is so I can put him to rest next to my grandfather. If he’s dead, that’s where he belongs. That would be proper.”
2007 had been the year that, Moncer’s casefile was rediscovered after having been misplaced during some unknown time in the past. His file was found during an intensive search of an old storage building. His case was reopened and has periodically made the news. Much of the media coverage was pushed by Fred Connors, a reporter who worked with the Ohio Valley Cold Case Task Force. Because of this, a few of the rare articles available have the Ohio Valley Cold Case Task force email listed as the contact information, an email which no longer exists as of 2020.
During his push for media attention, Fred Connors made a general statement aimed at anyone who might have information about the case. He said “You know something about this case. "So man up! Help this young lady find her dad, or find out what happened to her dad. She needs that. Our mission has always been to give voice to the victims and justice to the families. And knowing Julie how I do and knowing how her heart is just broken, somebody needs to man up and give this girl some peace."
Sheriff Fred Thompson made a similar plea asking anyone with information to come forward, saying "They don't have to give us their name if they don't want to. Just call us in with what they know or what they think they know." The Sheriff would occasionally speak to the media to try and help get the word out. He told WTRF that “you know, it’s been 30 years. It’s time we put closure to this case for the sake of the family”. This same article touched base with Leon’s family once again, and mentioned that Leon’s sister, Hazel thinks her brother was murdered.
During the initial media buzz in 2007, Irene was more than eager to talk to the press. She still wants answers, and told the State Journal that "Not knowing is the hardest part. Even after all these years, you still want to know."
Ryan Aller, the detective who for a time was in charge of looking into tips relating to the case, said "Hope is a dangerous thing. And I would tell anybody in this situation that chances are he passed on long ago. We do believe he is dead. He was declared legally dead. Circumstances of him missing were extremely suspicious.” Aller went on to say “Somebody knows what happened to Leon Moncer -- maybe more than one person -- and I guarantee you that. What detectives need is for someone to come forward. At the very least, they could have the common courtesy to anonymously reach out and let somebody know where he is. His father went to his grave not knowing for sure if he was still alive or not.”
At one point after the case started gaining publicity, Julie spoke with a psychic near Columbus, who told her that her father was alive and had been keeping an eye on her. The psychic said that her father had changed his name to James Johnston, and shortly after putting her number on an article, Julie got a call from someone claiming to have that name. They told her she could call them if she needed anything, but didn’t claim to actually be Leon Moncer. When she tried calling the number back again it was no longer active.
In 2015 investigators followed a tip to nearby Columbus Ohio, where they ended up digging up a basement. Julie was not informed of this tip, or what came of it if anything. She found out about it when it was published in the WTOV9 article, that she would also be quoted in when interviewers asked her how she would feel if answers were ever found. She said "Either way, I'll be sad. If he's alive, I'll be sad that he left. And if something happened to him, I'll be sad that somebody took him from me." In this same article, Irene told reporters that she was still looking for answers. She said she wants to know who did it, and that her and Julie have a right to know.
That same year in an interview with Weelunk, Julie said “I think he’s out there. I don’t think he’s dead, but I can’t really explain to you why I have that feeling. That’s what it is – a feeling. I just want to know, one way or another. It didn’t really bother me when I was younger or when I was in school, but the older I get, the more I want to know.If he did something that got him in trouble, or if his hot date was just leaving, that’s something I want to know, one way or the other. I don’t know what he was doing. And I know that he was hanging around in a lot of the bars during those days, and some of my relatives have told me that he did do drugs. My aunt told me that his nickname was the ‘Candyman,’ and that it was a reference to the drugs he was dealing.”
In 2020 she told us that an uncle had tried to tell her that the nickname was just because Leon liked sweets, but she’s responded by saying that she’s an adult and she’s old enough to know the truth. She has no illusions about the fact that he did drugs, or the fact that he could get violent when he was using. She goes back and forth on what she believes, but right now is leaning toward the idea that he was in over his head, possibly involved with some dangerous people, and decided to disappear. She said it would have been easier to do back then.
These days Julie is in her forties with a family and child of her own. She thinks about her father often, but isn’t sure what else to do to garner publicity. In the Weelunk article she said “I am very frustrated, but I’ll only stop when I’m dead. That’s when this will stop for me. I just keep thinking that if I keep pushing, someone will eventually feel guilty enough to come forward and tell me what I want to know … what I need to know.”
It’s certainly not a case that would normally be front page news. When a loved one goes missing nowadays, people will try to hide the less flattering parts of the missing person’s life, because even the slightest hint of trouble will destroy any press interest in the story. The homeless population, sex workers, and criminals do not get reported on. With Leon Moncer we already know about the less flattering parts of his life. Moncer sold drugs, and was unfaithful and abusive towards his romantic partners. In the fairly limited media attention this case has gotten so far, a few commenters have not been afraid to voice a sort of ‘good riddance’ opinion about him. But whatever you think about Leon Moncer, his family wants to know the truth.
Sources
I don’t think I can link to facebook but Julie runs a page called “helpfindleonmoncer” where she recently posted all of the Times Leader articles about the case. The WTOV9 segment I referenced is only archived on facebook as well, but if you search it, it’s easy to find.
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2020.09.19 21:35 Ausar_thee_vile I (20M) don’t know how to get this girl’s (17F) controlling best friend/ex boyfriend of a 4 day relationship to stop trying to control her love life.

So, me and this girl (let’s call her Pat) both really want a relationship with each other but the best friend (we’ll call him Napoleon) who lives with Pat and won’t stop getting mad when we even so much as hangout on break. Now let’s start from the beginning, we met at work and I found Pat’s instagram (introduced myself first then found her instagram) as it suggested me to follow her 2 weeks before she even started working at my grocery store that I’ve been working at for 6 months. Pat gave me her snapchat so we could talk more and we really hit it off from there. I talked about how my friend (we’ll call him Kanye) had a crush on her and she rejected him because she didn’t like him like that but she did mention she had a crush on someone who was her best friend(Napoleon). I encouraged her to make a move but she has pretty bad anxiety and said that it’d be really hard to, or if someone made a move on her she’d be pretty oblivious. She says I’m cool like a day later and she still barely knows me so I say “You barely even know me so I must be cool because I’m handsome😎” and she says “yes totally” which I call her out for being sarcastic and she says she wasn’t. But yeah, she tells me I’m a 10/10 in the looks department which she later questions why I never rate anyone a 10/10 and says it isn’t too rare of a thing for her. Fast forward a day or two and I can see her eyes shaking and is holding a weird posture as well as actions where I can tell that she really wanted to talk to me and just be around me. I pick up on these things and ask her if she has a crush on anyone else, and she says yes and that I know the guy very well which made my 100% suspicion to be 110%. So once I get off work, she moves like 5 feet to come my way and talk to me to which I start off the conversation with “I know who the other person is” she asks who and I say “Me” to which she retreats back to her register like 10 feet away all embarrassed and I go over and tell her that I don’t date anyone below the age of 18. This all happened in the span of like 4-6 days from introduction to rejection. But she’s someone I had to fight myself to reject and over the next two days, I get advice from friends that lead me to go for it. Napoleon also works at the same place with Me, Pat, and Kanye, all of us in close proximity.
Fast forward the two days and Pat decides to date Napoleon who made a move on her, and my decision to go for it and date her didn’t come up until she said she was going to date the dude, and my message telling her I made my decision to go for it wasn’t seen fast enough. Even after the rejection from Pat to Kanye, they remained friends. Only Pat knew about my crush on her till I told Kanye about it the day her and Napoleon got together so that Kanye would stop looking for a chance. But one of the first things Napoleon did after he got with Pat was tell her to block Kanye. The next day me and Pat decided to hangout after work since I got off 30 minutes before her. Now Napoleon didn’t know about my crush on Pat or Pat’s crush on me. Napoleon got mad at PAT for telling him that she was going to hang out with me. Pat said Napoleon didn’t show this sort of behavior till they started dating. Me and Pat found out that we were very similar in terms of what we want romantically that night. That is that we are hopeless romantics and love saying all that lovey dovey stuff, as well as that we prefer hugging, holding hands, and hugs more than sexual things. I initiated that I liked that kind of stuff because I do. Napoleon’s the type that prefers the more sexual stuff and doesn’t really say that type of lovey dovey stuff iirc. We also relate in the fact that we believe in being nice to everyone and stuff till someone makes it apparent that they just want to be angry. Napoleon seems to be the type with zero patience to me. Napoleon also calls Pat four times in an hour and a half WHILE AT WORK in the time me and Pat are hanging out. But anyway, the day we hangout, Me, Napoleon, Kanye, and Pat are all working that day we hangout. Napoleon doesn’t talk to either me or Kanye but me and Kanye keep noticing him looking at us. The next day Napoleon told Pat that he said he was going to fight Kanye, which Kanye said that Napoleon didn’t say a word to him. Napoleon didn’t say anything to Kanye or vice versa in the few hours I was working with them both. The night me and Pat hung out I told her that her relationship needed to end with Napoleon because after less than 36 hours he tried to keep her away from Kanye who had a known crush on her (I agree with that 75%) but Kanye was still just a friend that Pat had no romantic interest in. I also pointed out that I, a known friend of hers before her and Napoleon started dating also wouldn’t let me talk to her, a friend of the opposite gender from her which is all that he knew about me. Pat said she was going to break up with Napoleon the day that Napoleon told her he’d fight Kanye. But because Pat didn’t want it to seem like I changed her mind, she didn’t break up with Napoleon till like a day or two afterwards. I didn’t get involved with things between Napoleon and Kanye because she said she didn’t like drama and I’d be a loser in the situation and I could tell Napoleon would only get worse so I stayed back from them. The night me and Pat talked, I gave her a kiss on the cheek after a hug goodbye. Which is blatant shittiness on my part but it’s the first time I’ve ever made a move on a girl in a known relationship(still doesn’t excuse my behavior). I ended up telling her my thought process on things even about why I didn’t interfere with Kanye and Napoleon rather soon after the decisions, like within 2 days.
Fast forward to the day Pat breaks up with Napoleon, she says she isn’t ready for a relationship for the reason, otherwise it’d make him cry I believe is what she said. We were supposed to hangout twice after they broke up and I fell asleep twice, and I bought her flowers and snacks as an “I’m sorry” present. We ended up kissing that day for 10 seconds. Word got around to someone at work (Regina) a few days after their break up who learned of most of the things except the romance between me and Pat, and Regina spreaded things to management and Pat and I got in trouble. The next day me and Pat had our break together and we talked the whole time and I could see Napoleons jealousy in his eyes when we came back from break. Napoleon was told by Regina the day before that Pat once had feelings for me. Napoleon was getting mad at Pat for spending time with me I believe, even though it had been like 3-4 days after Napoleon and Pat’s relationship of 3-4 days ended. I get the thing of getting upset about someone moving on so fast after your break up but I don’t think it’s too justified when the relationship didn’t have time for both people to get so invested. Also, they were close to dating twice before in the past but didn’t. So I do understand getting invested on his part at that point because I don’t think he ever moved on while she did. But I could see the holes in hiding mine and Pat’s current romance widening, so I told Napoleon that I liked Pat so that he could be prepared for the future. I told him that I didn’t know how Pat felt (a lie) but there was maybe a future where me and Pat got together and he threatened to punch me in the face. I was shook because I’m as strong as the average middle schooler. A little after I told him that I saw management talking to him... OH FUCK!
I was sure Napoleon would beat my face in after that even if not at work. Then I got brought up for the second day in a row and basically got told if the drama continues, I’ll get fired. He told them what I said and left out the fact he threatened me with violence and to management’s knowledge, him and Pat were still together but they weren’t for 4 days at that point. But I let myself be a slave to my anxiety and management and didn’t really fight for my case because I have to atone for what I’ve done even it was done with good intentions. I didn’t mention the fact that he threatened me because it was part of my atonement and I didn’t want him to lose his job, and if I lost mine, it was reasonable at the time for everything that went down. The only person I told about it was my best friend (Peter) who said in the past he’d have my back if I got my ass beat, and I told him that if I did this time not to interfere because I would’ve taken the beating because I felt I deserved it and I’d want minimal things to come of it afterwards legally(like neither of us to get arrested).
In order to end the drama me and Pat had to decide what to do, try and be friends till things fizzled out and rethink romance if we still have feelings for each other at that point, try and keep the romance hidden from Napoleon, or be open with him about the relationship that would be starting if we chose this option. I decided the only thing to do was hide the romance till things fizzled out, or to tell Napoleon straight up that me and Pat were going to date. The reason for me only seeing those as the potential solution is because Napoleon was being protective and getting mad at her even when she had male friends that weren’t trying to date her to his knowledge. She chose the friends option and things almost completely ended between us that night. But I came up with a solution I didn’t think of which was try and be friends with Napoleon and Pat till things finally fizzled out and only hangout with her while he was around so he’d believe my conviction to just be friends. But he said he just wants to be co-workers but I still believe he’s going to be protective over even my friendship with her which will make me and Napoleon enemies again. Napoleon is cool outside of his protectiveness so being friends with him and Pat till things fizzled out really would be the best solution.
Side info, Pat told her parent she lives with about me and my age and the parent supports the idea of me and Pat dating, at least last I heard. Pat also wants drama to end and just being friends is the best solution to her and seeing if romantic feelings stay in about a month when we revisit it, which i’ll go with but I feel things won’t change with Napoleons control still. Also, Pat is the only person I’ve fallen for this hard and I’m saying this in complete honesty. I’m not too keen on why but I just know there’ll be a hole in my soul if I’m forced to look for someone else without a horrible argument ending things between me and Pat, as the one we did have that almost ended it wasn’t enough to stop my feelings after I saw the flaws in what I did to almost end it. Also we live in the USA and Age of consent is 16.
tl;dr: Girl and I have mutual interest, girl’s best friend and boyfriend of like 4 days stops her from talking to guy friends despite not being with her almost a week now.
Keep in mind, this is told from my perspective so I may be a bit biased but I still try to look at my behavior from an outside perspective. So, what do I do to get Napoleon to let go and stop his control? Is the best option really to just wait till his emotions stop being controlling?
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2020.09.19 18:48 Volsatir On Mazikeen in Season 5A (Fair warning, this is long and filled with quotes)

I had a bit of trouble formatting this post, but fixed it after doing some basic research into reddit markdown.
You know Maze, I think you’re looking for something more…than what this baby or I can be. I think you’re looking for your own connection. For a partner.\ Linda to Maze S4 E7
There have been a lot of discussions on Mazikeen lately. I even posted a thread myself on her betrayals over the seasons. Now I want to dig into Mazikeen’s emotional state and arc throughout Season 5A. Contrary to what many believe, Season 5A has given Maze a significant amount of focus, each episode highlighting a new step in her journey. My focus will be on Season 5A, making references to previous seasons when relevant. Each paragraph will cover an episode, with a quote prior to and immediately after it, the vast majority will be from said episode. Maze’s arc is still going from what started in S4 E7 with Linda telling Maze she might be looking for something more, like a partner, after realizing Maze is obsessively guarding Linda and the baby. Maze attempted this and Eve got involved during Lucifer’s attempt to break up with her in S4 E8. Maze tries to win Eve over in S4 E9 after Lucifer finally does it, but Eve’s obliviousness and major screw up led to a demon problem. After that was resolved in S4 E10 Eve decided to go figure out who she is after telling Maze that there was a connection, leaving poor Maze. Lucifer dropped an exit next, going to Hell. So now Maze is still looking for a connection with Season 5 starting.

Anybody worth dating should understand everything that makes you… you.\ Eve to Maze on Maze being a demon S4 E8
S5 E1 starts off with Maze and Chloe partnering up. It makes sense, Chloe needs a new partner and someone to fill the void Lucifer left, and Maze needs a connection. If Maze is still looking for that connection, then there are a limited number of options if she intends to hurdle the demon barrier. Eve, Linda, Amenadiel, and Chloe. Eve isn’t going to work out right now, she tried a connection with Linda but was told Linda and the baby weren’t quite what Maze was after, and Amenadiel is tied to Linda/Charlie. So that leaves Chloe. If you run with Maze’s MO with Eve in S4 E9, she’s playing it the same way, supporting Eve/Chloe to convince them that they don’t need Lucifer and lead them to her instead. Chloe’s already working to get over Lucifer, as opposed to Eve’s trying to win him back, so all Maze has to do is help Chloe succeed. They’re kindred spirits in this too, both left behind after Lucifer went to Hell on his own. This time though, Maze has been sucked into her own problems, and now she’s struggling to get through the chaos as much as Chloe. The difference is that Chloe is more emotionally mature, and she realizes what she’s been doing, along with some insight on where Maze is too. They party a lot together and get close as partners, but when Maze tries to kiss her Chloe puts an end to it.
Maze, I know what it feels like to be abandoned. You know, I mean, I’ve been throwing myself into work, and… going out with you so that… I don’t have to face it, and… I just think you and I are using this partnership to fill a void that someone else has left behind.\ Chloe to Maze S5 E1

I told you, I know things, and I know that you’re pissed at my brother. Join me. Lure him back up here, and then you can kick the real Lucifer’s ass. Or you could just keep beating up pianos. It’s your choice.\ Michael to Maze S5 E2
S5 E2 introduces us to an empty Maze. She’s not sure who to turn to after being pushed away by Chloe. While Chloe may have realized what she was doing, Maze isn’t aware of her issues yet. She’s just staying at Lucifer’s place when she confronts Michael, and he throws her a sales pitch. A chance to get back at Chloe for them splitting up, and to get back at Lucifer for abandoning her? Why not? It’s Michael’s idea to lure Lucifer back up to earth for Maze to beat him down, and Maze falls for it. Maze thinks she wants to go back to Hell at this point, especially as her life on earth seems so void, and once again we see a season 3-like Maze embracing her more malicious instincts and driving them into Chloe’s relationship with the fake Lucifer. Chloe figures it all out though, and rather than arguing with Maze she sympathizes. Maze lashes out when she’s hurting, and Chloe sees that. Chloe also knows what Maze isn’t, and by setting things up to the next level with “Lucifer”, she makes Maze realize this is going too far. Maze tries to stop Michael, but he sees it coming and neutralizes her before she can try. In her vulnerability Maze furiously finds herself the pawn, again.
Maze: I know what you’re about to do and I won’t let you. I have my…issues with Lucifer, and yeah, I am kind of pissed at Chloe. But this? No. Kissing me was one thing. Chloe is a good person. She doesn’t deserve this.\ Maze to Michael S5 E2, on him trying to sleep with Chloe

Linda: I think what you’re struggling with is a fear of abandonment. It’s completely normal. It comes from… someone important letting you down in your youth.\ Maze: I didn’t have anyone important in my youth, Linda.\ Maze and Linda in S5 E3
S5 E3 has Maze get what she teamed up with Michael for, her shot at Lucifer, but it’s not what she hoped for. After a brief fight that ended with Lucifer coming out ahead, despite Maze getting in that nice surprise strike at the end, Maze vented at Lucifer, asking him why he abandoned her. He snuffs out this argument by noting she could go down there with him and was welcome to do so, Amenadiel being an easy route down despite Maze not having any wings. Maze is left without an answer and storms off. It’s with Linda that we explore Maze’s emotional state. We see this wasn’t about Maze wanting back in Hell at all. Lucifer leaving her without warning was far more relevant than the destination he was headed for. Think back to S2 E17 and you’ll find a few similarities, but this time Lucifer never set anything up and he had a much better reason for his actions, but that doesn’t change the impact it had on Maze, and outside circumstances in her life only drove the effect home harder. Maze has always relied on her knives, and through them, violence. It doesn’t come with emotional pain or bite her back later. But she realizes in this case Lucifer isn’t who she was angry at, or Chloe. She’s gotten a better understanding about something, though we aren’t entirely sure what yet, even if we think we know. She seems to be going to Chloe’s to apologize, and upon discovering “Lucifer” is there, we get the idea she would have apologized to him too. Unfortunately for her Michael is still up to his old tricks, and though his face isn’t fooling anyone anymore, he’s still able to fake the voice. He implies there’s something Mazikeen should be upset with Lucifer about. It might just be related to that discovery she made about herself.
Maze: [scoffs] I wouldn’t… call them abandonment issues. They’re not issues. I mean who cares if Lucifer left me, right? [scoffs] Chloe left me. [sighs] [sobs] Then she left me. Why did she leave me?\ Linda: Eve?\ Maze: [sobbing] … Ugh! [grunts, shrugs, and takes a drink] (And doesn’t answer)\ Maze and Linda continued in S5 E3

Lilith: My children are perfect. They can’t be… banished, because they have no home. Can’t be abandoned, because they have no family.\ Lucifer: They’ll never be cast out of the proverbial garden.\ Lilith: You can never tell them what I’ve done today, Lucifer. Not if they are going to be unbreakable.\ Lucifer and Lilith discussing Lilith’s final request after becoming mortal S5 E4
S5 E4 was really Mazikeen’s episode, for all the fun they had with the new background, exploring a bit of Lucifer’s past, and giving Trixie a story in pulling a secret out of Lucifer through an innocent story at Maze’s request. Why is Mazikeen afraid of being abandoned? The person who left Maze, that unnamed individual to cause her so much grief, who is she? We think we know who she is. Chloe mentions Eve, it strikes a nerve. Linda tosses that name out there too, but as Mazikeen looks back at her life and her pain a little deeper, perhaps that isn’t the correct answer after all. It’s hard to say yet without a name, but this episode introduces a stronger candidate for the title, Lilith. She is why Lucifer has that ring, storing her immortality as she took a stab at love as a mortal. An unsuccessful one it seems. And Lucifer can never tell Maze, bound by his word. When Maze finds out, she just can’t let that go. Maze confronts Lilith, expecting…something, regret? But Lilith shows no remorse, taking pride in her decision, seemingly unaware of the pain it’s causing Maze. Lilith also doesn’t reveal to Maze why she wanted Mazikeen to be strong, the suffering she felt in the garden that Lucifer understood. So Maze remains unaware of what was behind that callousness.
Maze: I wanted to know why you abandoned us. Why you abandoned me.\ Lilith: I did it to make you strong, and it worked. Just look at you. I can see you don’t need anyone.\ Maze: Yeah, look at me. (Leaves)\ Lilith and Maze now that Maze knows. S5 E4

Maze: You were right. The abandonment stuff you talked about. Definitely her fault.\ Linda: You found your biological mother.\ Maze: Like I said, the bitch.\ Linda and Maze S5 E5.
S5 E5 directly answers the question S5 E3 raised, who is she? If there were any doubts remaining from S4 E4 that it’s Lilith, and not Eve, they are gone as Maze directly answers the question. Maze is firing the shots at Lilith and Linda finds herself trying to defend her as though it was her own history on the line, which for her, it feels like it. Lilith isn’t Linda though, and Maze cuts down each of Linda’s defenses: age, fear, and even the feelings the regret that can come afterward, as not even one of them describe Lilith. Linda confesses to what the season has been building towards for her arc, her confession to her guilt that would drive her to Hell, now that Maze is finally in a place for it to hit home. The reaction is not surprising, both are struck in a different vulnerable place at the same time, for Maze it’s anger and Linda it’s grief. Linda’s worst sin is currently Mazikeen’s sharpest pain. After the initial feelings subside, Maze is willing to listen as Linda confesses to the whole story, her regrets, and afterwards we discover what Maze was doing in the time after leaving Linda and before returning. She found Linda’s daughter as she is trying to sell a house. As they go to meet her, Mazikeen is putting Linda under fire as Linda holds up the pretense of being potential buyers. We’ve seen Maze employ such tactics before, such as with Dan after he slept with Goddess and indirectly gave Goddess information to use in court in S2 E10. Or with Amenadiel and Linda’s relationship with a double date in S3 E15. But Linda refuses to break, holding off Maze’s attempts to shatter the secret and accusing Mazikeen of using Linda as a substitute Lilith. Linda finally tells Maze to talk to Lilith, because that’s who Mazikeen seems to want to have more words with anyways, the two mothers are completely different people and trying to break down Linda’s story isn’t going to equate dealing with Lilith’s. But it’s too late, Mazikeen discovers Lilith is gone, and so are Maze’s chances at getting answers. After her anger passes, Maze finds the empathy at the end of her road in seeking her mother to try and help Linda avoid the same fate befall her daughter, giving Linda a release form to make it easier for her daughter to find Linda when she is ready to start that journey for herself.
Maze: You need to give your daughter the choice, ok? You have to.\ Linda: You saw your mother, didn’t you? What did you say to her?\ Maze: Nothing. I didn’t get to say that “I hate you.” I didn’t get to say that “I forgive you.” I didn’t get to say anything. Because she’s gone. She died, Linda.\ Linda and Maze as S5 E5 closes

Maze: So she died in a shitty apartment all by herself. Sucks for her. All I need to be is to not be her. So how do I do that? … How do I not end up alone?\ Linda: That is not an easy question to answer…You just have to find someone to connect with.\ Maze: I just scare everybody away.\ Linda: Well I’m still here, right? So you just know when you find someone that you’re romantically interested in, you just try not to be so scary. You know, be more open, emotionally available.\ Maze: “Emotionally available.” … Huh\ A Charlie-tired Linda helping Maze move forward, S5 E6
S5 E6 has Maze transition from her mother’s death in a more pragmatic, if less empathetic, state than she was in as S5 E5 closes. The goal set in S4 E7 with the discussion I mentioned at the very beginning continues. And this piece of advice is something Maze has no idea what to do with. As she mulls it over Ella catches her attention in her friendly fashion with other people. So, the question for Mazikeen is this. What does Ella have that she doesn’t? Tearing a page out of Lucifer’s book, Maze becomes Ella 2.0 with amusing results, trying to find the part of Ella that will help Maze find what she is looking for. This bit runs closer to an Ella arc. The lightness and comedy we see leads to Maze’s judgment on Ella’s own bad boy tendencies that push her towards trying a nicer guy, setting up the stage for our Whisper Killer arc. Maze realizes living Ella’s life just isn’t going to work. But it’s the closing lines to this arc that give Maze an answer to her question in Ella’s unintentional phrasing. Yet another page out of Lucifer’s book, pulling a message completely different from what the speaker intended by focusing on an aspect that seems relevant to them. Though in this Ella could never know how close to home that comment hits, as her words have unintended connections to celestial intent, as we saw with Ella’s chat with Chloe about absolute evil in S4 E7. The lack of a soul is a barrier Maze can’t cross as a demon. With Season 5 still incomplete the full implications that this began in starting Mazikeen’s soul searching arc are unknown.
Maze: You don’t think I’m scary?\ Ella: Oh, I think you are hella scary. But, it’s good scary, because it’s you. And I know, when you finally show someone how absolutely amazing you are, you’re going to find your soulmate.\ Maze: You can’t find a soulmate if you don’t have a soul.\ Ella and Maze after Maze gives up trying to be Ella. S5 E6

Maze: I had two rocks when I was growing up. One sharp, one not. Take the sharp one and try to stab things. Take the dull one, try to make it sharp.\ Amenadiel: That um… That explains a lot.\ Maze reprimanding Amenadiel on spoiling Charlie. S5 E7
S5 E7 has Maze unable to move past not having a soul, so she looks backwards instead. The humorous quote above undersells how bad Mazikeen’s life was in her unseen past in Hell, something that is easy to forget when we never see what things were like for the demon growing up. That history, and what she is as a demon, substantially limits her options for a partner. In going over S5 E1 there were 4 names Maze had a shot with given they knew she was a demon. Eve, Linda, Amenadiel, and Chloe. After her time with Linda led her to try something with Eve that didn’t work out, and Chloe is ruled out at the end of S5 E1, Maze looks back and realizes there is still one name left. Someone who hadn’t abandoned her, who knows her, and maybe could find a way to love her again. Amenadiel in Season 1. Mazikeen’s lack of a soul didn’t stop them from coming together in Season 1, and that Amenadiel seems like the perfect choice for her now. An Amenadiel free of obligation, untethered to the human world, that Amenadiel could save Maze from her fear of ending up alone like her mother. The dismissal Maze has of her mother in S5 E6 masked the fear Maze actually felt that she would end up just like her. She tries to introduce Amenadiel to his past self and rekindle what they had. But her attempts to rewind the clock are a pipe dream, failing for both of them. 27 shots into trying to forget, Maze finds herself asked about that event by Amenadiel. She confesses to the pain she is feeling, born a soulless demon by Lilith’s choice, and her hopes that an angel, or at least Amenadiel, could give her hope at not being alone. Amenadiel doesn’t have the answers, but he does have hope, looking back at all the unusual things going on around them, he believes Maze can find what she is looking for, whether that requires a soul or not.
Maze: Everyone’s rejected me, Amenadiel. But I was the one who rejected you. So, I thought… maybe that was a mistake. Maybe… Maybe only… an angel could love a soulless demon.\ Amenadiel: You didn’t reject me. You… You went to find your own path. And you did. You did. And you’ve come such a long way, Maze. Grown so much.\ Maze: Apparently not enough. Ever heard of a demon getting a soul?\ Amenadiel: I…I can’t say that I have. But… No one ever heard of an angel and a human having a baby before. Or of the devil falling in love. I don’t know if a soul is what you need to feel whole, but…I do know this. If anyone is going to find what they’re looking for, it’s you, Mazikeen.\ Amenadiel reassuring Maze. S5 E7.

Maze: So, have you ever heard of a demon getting a soul?\ Lucifer: [scoffs] Of course not. That’s impossible.\ Maze: Yeah, um… I’ve heard that all my life. Then again, you did fall in love. Amenadiel had a baby with a human. There’s a first for everything, right?\ Lucifer: Well that’s different. We’re angels. You’re just a demon.\ Lucifer crushes Maze’s hopes. S5 E8.
S5 E8 has Maze still digging into souls when Lucifer is calling her. Amenadiel was going to help but finds Charlie’s 101 temperature too concerning for a part angel to have, and upon seeing Maze not responding to Lucifer’s call, he suggests that she tell Lucifer that she’s upset with him about hiding Lilith from her. Upon getting Lucifer’s call she hurries to help, torturing the fake Whisper Killer to give him the tips about stalking restaurants targeting talkative women, giving her time for a brief glance at the ring, which gets to her. Maze isn’t going to let that stop her from helping Lucifer, and as he discovers his mojo is back and uses it to find surveillance, Maze asks him what he thinks of her chances of getting a soul, inserting Amenadiel’s own words on the matter within her question. Lucifer brusquely dismisses them, justifying the firsts as unique to angels, something Maze could never achieve, being just a demon. Despite this Maze still helps find Chloe. She’s the one who connects the dots to Michael, she’s the one who finds and brings in Dan, and she’s one of the two people to come with Lucifer when he rescues Chloe. Their reunion is yet another reminder of something Lucifer has that Maze doesn’t, a soul. Maze stays behind to confront Michael for kidnapping Chloe. Mazikeen has been fighting her fears, but fear is Michael’s element, and he has used it to strike at everyone, and Mazikeen’s fears of ending up alone, driven by the secret Michael helped reveal, has set up his offer perfectly. He can get her a soul if his plans work. So Maze decides to go with him, blocking Amenadiel’s swing at Michael. Lucifer is confused, and Mazikeen reminds him of what he said to her about the impossibility of getting a soul because she’s “just a demon”. His confirmation of that was the last thing he got to say before she attacked. During their confrontation Maze reveals her discovering Lucifer’s secret about Lilith and foreshadows another potential issue. How important Maze is to Lucifer, a query that has occasionally cropped up. Without seeing the next episode, it’s hard to say how much of a role this will have to play, as Lucifer brings her down soon after that.
Lucifer: Maze. Why are you defending him?\ Maze: Because he promised me a soul!\ Lucifer: [Laughs] That’s impossible.\ Maze: Why? Because I’m just a demon*?*\ Lucifer: Exactly.\ Maze: [yells and kicks Lucifer through glass] Get up. We’re not done.\ Maze confronts Lucifer in S5 E8

The episodes of Season 5A came down with a consistent arc for Mazikeen. They began by continuing where Maze left off in her partnership goals suggested in S4 E7 from Eve having left her in S4 E10, and Chloe as the natural next step of that for S5 E1. Chloe’s rejection did not surprise us, but it burned Maze, especially when attached to what happened in Season 4. This allowed Michael to convince her to work with him in S5 E2, to a point. Why Maze felt such a strong reaction to both Lucifer leaving her and Chloe rejecting her is what S5 E3 sought to answer. A fear of abandonment rooted somewhere likely in her youth. But who? S5 E4 gives us Lilith as the answer. S5 E5 built on that revelation as Maze put that anger on Linda when Linda’s own secret made her an easy target, but Maze eventually chose to do right by Linda when her own journey was cut short by Lilith’s death. Faced with the fears of ending up alone. Maze looked for answers to change her own fate in S5 E6 and determined that a soul is what she both needed and lacked. This belief led her to desperately look back for any answer that could save her, and she unsuccessfully tried to get Amenadiel to revert to what she needed to the disappointment of them both in S5 E7. Still, Amenadiel gave her hope afterwards, and she fought for that hope in S5 E8, keeping her anger in check while Chloe was kidnapped. But when she stayed to confront Michael, he blew it all open when he offered her what she thinks she needed, and she let it all out in her confrontation with Lucifer, how he kept Lilith from her, his dismissal of her as a demon, and possibly a larger issue with how he looked down on her in general. (Flashback to what Mazikeen wanted from Lucifer by the end of S2 E4, she gave up getting his convertible just to have him pour her a drink.) What Michael’s exact offer was, Lucifer’s perception of Maze and how her opinion of it fueled this conflict, these are things that we won’t know the full story about without seeing Season 5B. We will be hearing more about Mazikeen’s arc, and we will almost certainly get information on what made her betray Lucifer again. I think her case will be stronger than it was for S5 E2 now that she knows herself better, and it will expand upon the same problems we saw her face here. But only time will tell. Their last words to each other as Season 5a comes to a close gives us some idea of where they might carry on with Mazikeen's frustrations, especially with Lucifer.
Lucifer: Why would you ever trust Michael? He’s a liar!\ Maze: He’s only ever been honest with me. You… You hid my mother from me.\ Lucifer: How did you – (Fight interrupts) I’m sorry Maze, but I gave Lilith my word.\ Maze: Which is apparently more important to you than I am!\ Lucifer: What?\ Lucifer and Maze fighting. S5 E8
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2020.09.19 08:05 secretymology TIL 10 things about Zoom software and its shadowy founder Eric Yuan

Having wondered about the readiness of Zoom (like the contact tracing contracts and pandemic protocols of Event201) to ’facilitate’ our current predicament, and never having heard of it until the lockdowns, I thought I’d delve further into its mysterious founder and foundation. A shallow skim revealed:
1) Founder was ‘inspired’ by Bill Gates:
When Eric Yuan was in his early 20s, he heard a speech from then-Microsoft CEO Bill Gates about the promise of the internet, and Yuan decided he wanted to move from China to the US to be a part of the Silicon Valley tech boom.
Today, Yuan is the 49-year-old founder and CEO of videoconferencing cloud software company Zoom, which debuted on the Nasdaq exchange on Thursday in an IPO that currently values the company at more than $16 billion.
https://www.cnbc.com/2019/04/18/zoom-ipo-bill-gates-speech-inspired-founder-to-move-to-us.html
2) Relationship with Gates (and Microsoft) not so friendly these days. Microsoft’s Skype pushing for pole position. Was Microsoft responsible for the “hacks”?
Zoom has been around since 2011, but many people discovered it for the first time as the novel coronavirus made social distancing a requirement and online meetings became more common.
But the company’s privacy and security isn’t up to par and hackers had a field day disrupting meetings with threats, homophobic and racist messages or by showing pornographic images, according to The Associated Press:
And that’s just to name a few.
On a newly created page on Skype’s website, Microsoft is promoting Skype’s features, which are similar to Zoom’s with better security.
https://investorplace.com/2020/04/zooms-missteps-are-an-opening-for-microsoft-stock/
3) For a man now apparently worth $17.7b, Wikipedia doesn’t seem to know - or want to reveal - much of Eric Yuan’s basic biography, his date of birth of even the name of his wife. Vagueness about his past, with a typical rags-t—riches narrative (dreaming of leaving China, refused US visa 8 times etc) might suggest a fabricated or sheep-dipped person.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eric_Yuan
4) Great sense of timing - In 2019, Zoom became a public company via an initial public offering, at which time Yuan became a billionaire. His wealth has increased during COVID-19 pandemic, as Zoom has benefited from the shift to online work and teaching.
The 50-year-old billionaire's net worth jumped 396.5% to $17.7 billion in 2020 so far, as the rest of the world suffers through an economic crisis caused by the coronavirus pandemic.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eric_Yuan
5) In April 2020, Citizen Lab warned that having much of Zoom's research and development in China could "open up Zoom to pressure from Chinese authorities." In June 2020, Zoom was criticized for closing multiple accounts of U.S. and Hong-Kong based groups, including that of Zhou Fengsuo and two other human rights activists, who were commemorating the 1989 Tiananmen Square protests. The accounts were later re-opened, with the company stating that in the future it "will have a new process for handling similar situations."
Zoom responded that it has to "comply with local laws," even "the laws of governments opposed to free speech." Zoom subsequently admitted to shutting down activist accounts at the request of the Chinese government.
https://citizenlab.ca/2020/04/move-fast-roll-your-own-crypto-a-quick-look-at-the-confidentiality-of-zoom-meetings/
6) Zoom initially claimed to use "end-to-end encryption" in its marketing materials, but later clarified it meant "from Zoom end point to Zoom end point" (meaning effectively between Zoom servers and Zoom clients), which The Intercept described as misleading and "dishonest".
https://theintercept.com/2020/03/31/zoom-meeting-encryption/
7) Whereas Huawei is currently mistrusted, Governments, Intelligence and various topical agencies clearly aren’t too worried about Zoom’s connections to China and the likelihood of espionage:
“Yesterday, Forbes revealed U.S. agencies handling the coronavirus response had spent a collective $1.3 million on Zoom tech in just a few days at the end of March. Not only had the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) and the Federal Emergency Management Agency (FEMA) spent hundreds of thousands on Zoom for COVID-19-related webinars and calls, but other government agencies had bought into the tech, too. That included the State Department and one organization that was the alleged victim of a major Chinese hack, the Office of Personnel Management, in a breach that saw the private data of 21 million Americans leak. The U.K. government is also a well-known user of the tool, hosting critical cabinet meetings over Zoom.”
This is Forbes though, the organisation that recently brought us the advice not to question anything we hear and warned that speaking English can spread COVID...
https://www.forbes.com/sites/thomasbrewste2020/04/03/warning-zoom-sends-encryption-keys-to-china-sometimes/#83f3bde3fd94
8) Zoom employees apparently ranked themselves happiest in US:
“Job-listing site Comparably just released its annual ranking of major U.S. companies with the happiest employees, and Zoom was ranked No. 1! The Happiest Employees 2019 list was based on anonymous employee feedback submitted to Comparably about fair pay, perks, benefits, and work environment.
The list was peppered with leading technology organizations, including Microsoft, Google, and Salesforce, with social media platform LinkedIn and retail giant Costco ranking Nos. 2 and 3, respectively. But it’s no surprise that the company whose core mission is “Delivering Happiness” is atop the list of organizations with the happiest employees.”
Judging by some of the other companies on this list, I’m not convinced this information can be fully trusted.
https://blog.zoom.us/zoom-employees-happiest/
9) Alongside other questionable billionaires, Yuan is helping to “combat the health crisis and boost the economy”:
“Billionaires like tech tycoon Bill Gates; Eric Yuan, CEO of Zoom; Bernard Arnault, CEO of LVMH, Brian Chesky, CEO of Airbnb; Dallas Mavericks owner Mark Cuban and a host of others are using their financial resources to help combat the health crisis and boost the economy.”
No further details provided here about the specifics of this valuable assistance...I would assume the article might be referring to the use of zoom technology to connect patients and doctors etc, but surely this could hardly be construed as altruistic.
https://news.abs-cbn.com/business/04/07/20/manny-villar-remains-philippines-richest-with-net-worth-at-p2829-billion-forbes
10) Not so great timing - The firm’s founder and CEO Eric Yuan has personally sold $38 million worth of shares already in 2020. He unloaded $10.5 million in January, $12.5 million in February, and $15.5 million in March, according to related SEC filings.
Strange timing. Can anyone explain why a man - and other major investors in Zoom - would do such a thing to his own company up until only days before the bonanza hit? Was he truly unaware of the goldmine awaiting him, or is this evidence of something more witting and nefarious?
https://thenextweb.com/hardfork/2020/04/06/zoom-execs-sold-millions-stock-coronavirus-pumped-share-price/
Only just beginning, so there is definitely more to come here, as I delve deeper.
Please feel free to supply your own ZOOMachinations in the comments.
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2020.09.18 22:49 Miserable-Buddy-4001 What to do about jealous "fake boyfriend"?

Hello. I (23M) met my girlfriend Samantha (not real name)(27F) online 2 months ago. We are both gamers. I live in a large west coast city while she's on a small island, so we're LDR. We both live with parents. She's had a few boyfriends while this is my first relationship. When we first met, she was "dating" Jeff (not real name). She revealed to me that Jeff and her are really only friends and started to pretend to date because Jeff's mother threatened to cut him off and kick him out unless he dates her. It had to be specifically someone from a family with lots of land, which Samantha was already friends with him and fit the bill. Jeff's mom was the only person he had and couldn't deal with losing her, so he asked Samantha to at least pretend to date him. Samantha is easily convinced to help people and agrees. They hang out normally and pretend to social media and parents that they're dating. Samantha also benefited by not being asked out when she didn't want to, and making her parents happy she's dating. Jeff was also a great friend to her helping her clean her house that she's made deep clean weekly by parents by carrying stuff. He also was there for her when her parent got diagnosed with cancer and they both helped each other pay for food when they were jobless at different times. They were great friends other than Jeff's anger problems, but did nothing couple wise. Jeff is usually a cool guy, but is hot headed.
She later gave me many hints to try to get me to ask her out, but I don't recognize them. She eventually literally tells me her feelings. I had feelings too and accepted, but showed concern for Jeff. I said I don't want anything without confirming the story with Jeff and that he's ok with it. He confirmed and said he'd be happy for us. We started dating.
It was fine for a few weeks, but we found out Jeff did actually start to feel emotions towards Samantha and was not fine with it. At least once or twice a week, Samantha would vent to me that Jeff yelled at her objecting us dating. He even said racist things about me. He said that she's making him upset all the time. He screamed cuss words at top of lungs at her and called her many names after any mentions of me or just randomly. He showed up at her house yelling at her that she's hurting him and is many words. Also that she is to break up with me in 2 months and date him or they're no longer friends. He later apologized to us that he was encouraged to "fight for her back" by a usually bad with relationships friend of theirs. Samantha said she'd choose me over him, but also didn't want to lose Jeff as a friend because of the help he given her in the past. Two of her friends Allison, Donald and her all agreed that If we just give it time, Jeff will get over the feelings of the fake relationship feeling real to him. I agreed and was patient just trying to comfort her every time she's upset at being yelled at. I told her I trust whatever her judgement is because I didn't want to tell her who to not talk to.
Well everything is fine with him for a week and a half. Then one day, she hangs out with a friend. Jeff gets upset she didn't hang out with him and tells her she's making him drink to not be upset. He gets really drunk, then later shows up at her house and screams many mean things at her like "she's a failure and will never be loved". He calls all her friends and me bad words. She tries to tell her off, but he holds onto her wrist and slaps her. He threatens to have After yelling more, he goes up to her parents and say she's been cheating on him for a year, which isn't even true as they weren't really dating, and her and I have only dated for 2 months. He then says that he's no longer friends with her, me, or the other friends. She is crying telling it to me. She's very emotional saying the things he said is true and that she wants to die. She has bad thoughts and that she might go back to cutting herself "to distract herself from emotional pain". I make her promise to not do that and get criticised from her friends saying I'm taking away her one source of relief. I recommended taking walks and even holding an ice cube to focus on the cold. I learned the ice thing from a quick Google search since I really didn't want her to harm herself. I knew she had a history but had not done it for long time.
I'm very upset and in the moment say she should consider cutting him off. I obviously hate that my girlfriend got assaulted. I ask to remove him from our discord servers. Friends convince her to invite him back. They criticised me for saying to do that because they say they need to make sure he's ok and that if he gets cut off, he could retaliate since their island is small. They also reassure me that Jeff is done with her and will no longer be a problem. He comes on discord server next day as if nothing happened the day before, but not talking to Samantha much. This makes no sense to me. I later point out to the other two friends and Samantha that he's obviously not done with them all if he is on the server as if nothing happened. Her friends and I get into argument about. They say it won't happen again and I pointed out they said that the last 3 times and that he now escalated to violence. They point out he said he was done with her. I responded that what he said doesn't make it true. They say that they have to consider Jeff's feelings. I said I believed that too until he got violent. They say they can't just cut him off completely. I say then just spend some time apart to let Jeff cool off. They argue that I'm not understanding emotions very well and am only thinking about facts and that I'm not thinking about Jeff's feelings. I said I get his feelings, but he crossed the line slapping her. Though here's where I don't get it.
I focused on the fact of the matter that the relationship was fake and that he said he was fine with us dating. I said that it doesn't mean it's real if he believed it was. The fact was he asked for the fake relationship, and I think he should have kept his emotions in check if it's fake and his idea. I realize that's sometimes hard. They only focus on how he feels that it was real, but do acknowledge the facts. Samantha keeps blaming herself for everything and I try to tell her she shouldn't based on the facts, but she says she feels it is. I've learned over the month that Samantha is a bit sensitive and will take anything mean said to her to heart and will believe it is her fault. She's been telling me she caused it and deserved it all and I cannot convince her she didn't.
I'm feeling really annoyed having to keep comforting her just for her to let the problem happen again. I also feel that she's in a way letting her friends decide for her and ignoring me. It makes no sense to me for Jeff to slap her and say he's done, but act normal the next day. Maybe he just wants to game with someone? I don't know, but I'm tired of it. I also think there could be big city vs small island culture difference. I hope I'm not being insensitive. They were close together, and people have argued Jeff thought it was real, and that I seem like a homewrecker.
What should I do? This is bothering me and I don't think it's a good environment. I also don't think her friends have her best interest in heart as they seem to me to not influence her positively due to many other reasons. (Encouraging self harm, often saying mean things to put her down, encouraging bad behaviors that will harm her, wishing her parent a painful death because that don't like her parents) Are there too many red flags? Should I end it? Should I try to just keep supporting her? Should I try to think emotionally rather than logically? I feel like I want to help her.
TL;DR: girlfriend's fake boyfriend from while ago is jealous of our relationship because it felt real to him. Girlfriend won't do anything about his abuse.
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2020.09.18 20:42 Equivalent-Ad5541 Immigration Law Office of Los Angeles

Immigration Law Office of Los Angeles
Green Card Through Marriage: When a U.S. citizen marries a foreign national, the foreign spouse may qualify for a marriage-based green card and become a lawful permanent resident or a conditional permanent resident.
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Immigration Law Office of Los Angeles Getting a green card by marrying a US Citizen allows the foreign spouse to become a lawful permanent resident (LPR) depending upon if the foreign spouse legally entered the United States even if the foreign spouse became out of status subsequently. When the foreign spouse is in the United States, the foreign spouse may apply for a green card by submitting an application through USCIS without having to leave the United States if they entered legally. This process is called filing for an adjustment of status (I-485). After filing for an adjustment of status, the alien spouse can legally reside and work in the United States once an employment authorization document also known as an EAD is issued, as they will become eligible for an employment authorization 90 days after filing for an adjustment of status. In the U.S. the “immediate relative” classification (including spouse) allows a foreign national to apply for an immigrant visa without having to worry about preference categories or priority backlogs, since an immigrant visa will always be available to him or her. However, the green card marriage process can be complicated and requires in depth analysis by an experienced attorney to present evidence of a bona fide marriage and to prepare for the green card interview by being advised of possible green card marriage interview questions. 90 days prior to the Three Years anniversary of when the beneficiary spouse became a Lawful Permanent Resident, the beneficiary spouse may be eligible to apply to become a US citizen if certain conditions are met.
In order to apply for a green card marriage, the U.S. Citizen or U.S permanent resident marrying a foreign national must submit a green card through marriage petition (I-130) to USCIS (U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services) to petition for his/her spouse. The U.S. Citizen petitioning for the spouse is referred to as the petitioner or sponsor, and the immigrant spouse who is marrying a green card holder or U.S. Citizen is referred to as the beneficiary. H1B Denial: At the Immigration Law Office of Los Angeles, attorney Michael Piston has extensive experience in Federal litigation, and can help you overcome the erroneous decision made on your H1b application by filing a Federal Lawsuit and get results by forcing the government to adjudicate cases that have been unlawfully delayed or overturn H1B extensions and H1B transfer arbitrary denials. Federal Court Litigation may be an effective way of resolving government’s H1B denials and errors. In well over 90% of the cases we file, the government reverses itself within 2-4 months of the case being filed. i 751 Form and i 751 waiver: If you received your green card by applying to the green card through marriage process (formally known as Adjustment of Status), and your marriage was less than 2 years when your green card was approved, what you received is a conditional green card, known as CR1 visa (Conditional permanent residency). The conditional green card is valid for only 2 years. After this period, if you wish to remain as a permanent resident in the U.S. you need to remove the conditions of your green card. This is done by submitting the form I 751 petition to remove conditions on residence. If you successfully submit this form and it gets approved, then you will move from the conditional permanent resident status to the permanent resident status, and your green card will be valid for 10 years.To remove the Green Card conditions you must: - Submit a Petition to Remove the Conditions on Residence (Form I-751). - Prove to USCIS that your marriage is a bona fide marriage. - Submit the application within 90 days prior to your conditional green card expiration date. - File jointly, meaning that both you and your spouse must file together. Although, if this is not possible, you may still be able to remove the conditions of your residency by filing an I-751 waiver. Now, what happens when this is not an option? What if due to different circumstances you are no longer together with your spouse? The answer is that you might still be able to remove the conditions of your residency by filing a waiver.There are basically 4 circumstances by which a waiver is possible: - Divorce: If you (the green card applicant) and the U.S. citizen divorce before two years of marriage, you can still file the Form i 751 Petition to Remove conditions on green card to continue to live in the U.S. The process will be a little more complicated though, since you will have to request for a waiver of the joint filing requirement. In the case of a divorce, your task is to compile substantial documentation showing that the marriage was a good-faith marriage, or bona fide, and was not just an “easy” way to get a green card. This could include proof that you have children together, evidence of shared resources, a family home, shared insurance and estate documents, photographs together, gifts offered, correspondence between the applicant and the U.S. citizen, etc. Another task is to prepare evidence of the reason the marriage ended, to prove it was not your fault. For instance, the applicant can provide evidence of having attempted marriage counseling. Nonetheless, it seems important to mention that it’s best if the divorce took place during your conditional residence. Also, the longer the marriage lasts, the better to prove it was a bona fide marriage. - Death of Spouse: Under the unfortunate event of the U.S. citizen passing away, the applicant may still apply to remove the conditions on his/her green card. In order to do this, the applicant must file the waiver based on the death of the petitioning spouse. If this is your case, you would have to submit a copy of your spouse’s death certificate. On top of this, other evidence is still required, such as evidence of the marriage being a good faith marriage when started. - An abusive Marriage: If you were a victim of violence, were battered or subjected to extreme cruelty, you can waive the requirement of the joint filing of the i 751 form. In order to submit this waiver, you will have to submit evidence of the abuse. If you ever reported domestic violence events, if you ever made a record of injuries (medical reports for example), these can be used as evidence. - Extreme hardship if put into removal proceedings: It applies if you think that by not obtaining permanent residency and being put into removal proceedings (eventually deported) you will face extreme hardship or extenuating circumstances in your home country. K1 Fiance visa: A fiancé(e) visa, also known as a K-1 visa is used to bring a foreign fiance to the United States so that the couple can marry and apply for a green card for the foreign partner. The process for bringing a fiance to the United States involves several agencies from the Department of Homeland Security and the Department of State: (1) United States Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS), (2) the National Visa Center (NVC), (3) the U.S. Department of State/U.S. embassy/consulate (DOS), and (4) U.S. Customs and Border Protection (CBP). The steps you need to follow are: Step 1: File fiance visa petition with USCIS Step 2: Once the petition is approved USCIS sends it to the NVC for further processing and submission of additional required documentation. Once processing is completed the NVC forwards the approved visa petition to the U.S. Embassy or consulate where your fiance will apply for issuance of the fiance visa. Step 3: The U.S. Embassy or consulate schedules the visa interview for your foreign fiance. At the interview the DOS consular will determine whether your fiance qualifies for the fiance visa. If approved the consular officer will issue the visa. Step 4: Your fiance enters the U.S. with their visa. The CBP officer at the port of entry might ask your fiance a few questions: such as where they intend to live in the U.S., some questions relating to the U.S. citizen fiance and the intention to marry within 90 days. The CBP officer will also take your fiance’s fingerprints and sealed documents previously received with the visa issued by the DOS. After the CBP officer finalizes their review, a stamp will be placed in the passport allowing your fiance to stay in the U.S. for 90 days. Nanny Green Card: For an application for labor certification to be approved under PERM for Nanny Positions, an Employer must do 6 things: 1. Offer a non citizen a “permanent” job effective no later than the date the non citizen becomes a permanent resident. 2. Request a prevailing wage determination (PWD) from U.S. Department of Labor (DOL). Typically, it takes about 4 months for the DOL to issue a prevailing wage. 3. Endeavor in good faith to recruit a U.S. worker to fill the job offered to the noncitizen by conducting the following recruitment activities: Place a notice describing the job in detail, including the offered wage, for 10 consecutive business days at the place the noncitizen will work (hereinafter “Job Posting). Advertise two times (2x) at a major newspaper (Sunday edition). Place a job order with the State Workforce Agency (SWA) for a minimum of 30 days. In the State of California, the SWA is Caljobs. 4. Prepare a written statement explaining why any U.S. worker who applied (if any) for the job was rejected only for lawful job related reasons.e) File the application with the ETA Application Center.f) The employer may be required to respond to further requests for documentation of his recruitment efforts to the Certifying Officer. The above will take approximately 3 -4 months from the time we receive the completed questionnaires from you and your prospective employee. Naturalization: Naturalization is the process laid out by the United States government, which allows foreign citizens or nationals to obtain U.S. citizenship providing they meet the requirements established in the Immigration and Nationality. You may qualify for naturalization if you have been a permanent U.S. resident for at least 5 years, or you have been married to a U.S. citizen for at least 3 years, (thus qualifying to file as a spouse of a U.S. citizen), or you have qualifying service in the U.S. armed forces. Providing you meet one of those qualifications, the basic requirements for obtaining naturalization are: - Having physically lived in the United States for either 2 1/2 years as a permanent resident or 1 1/2 years if married to a U.S. citizen, - Having not spent more than 12 months (of your 5 years or 3 years) outside the U.S., - Having resided at your current address for at least 3 months, - Being at least 18 years old, - Being of good moral character, - Being able to speak, read and write basic English, - Being able to pass a test showing basic knowledge of U.S. history and government, - Agreeing to support the Constitution of the United States, and - Taking an oath of allegiance to the United States. E-2 visa: Certain countries have trade treaties with the U.S., which allow for immigration for foreign nationals from these countries to seek a visa. A Treaty Trader can gain an E-2 visa when the individual is involved in substantial trade, such as trade in services or technology between the treaty country and the USA, or involved in the development and direction of substantial capital with regard to trade. The investment in the U.S. must be substantial. It must be of an amount that is of high enough value to ensure the success of the venture. The venture must be an operating enterprise, not a speculative or non-functioning investment. O-1 visa: The O-1 visa is designed for an alien who has extraordinary ability in the sciences, arts, education, business, or athletics, or who has a demonstrated record of extraordinary achievement in the motion picture or television industry and their essential support personnel. The alien must demonstrate extraordinary ability by sustained national or international acclaim and must be coming temporarily to the United States to continue work in the area of extraordinary ability. Extraordinary ability means a level of expertise indicating that the person is one of the small percentage who has risen to the very top of the field of endeavor. Regarding the sponsor, any U.S. employer, a U.S. agent, or a foreign employer through a U.S. agent can petition for you. However, the petitioner must at least be in the artist’s field of expertise. This also means, that a U.S. citizen, who is in the artist’s field may petition for them as long as there is a legitimate reason why the petitioner requires the artist to work in the United States. EB-1: EB-1 is an employment-based, first-preference visa open to those who exhibit extraordinary ability, is an outstanding professor or researcher, or is a multinational executive or manager. Each of these categories is defined as follows: - Extraordinary Ability: Individuals who qualify demonstrate extraordinary ability in the sciences, arts, education, business, or athletics, and are nationally or internationally recognized. Extensive documentation must be provided as proof of achievements. Offer of employment is not a requisite. - Outstanding Professor or Researcher: Individuals who qualify are recognized for outstanding achievements in their respective fields, in which they must have at least three years experience of teaching or research. In exchange for permanent residency, they must pursue a tenure or tenure track or comparable research position at an institution of higher education. - Multinational Manager or Executive: Individuals who qualify have been working outside of the United States in a managerial or executive position for at least one.
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2020.09.18 18:44 ammodotcom History of the ATF: How the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco & Firearms Became Corrupt & Abusive

History of the ATF: How the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco & Firearms Became Corrupt & Abusive

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It’s unlikely that there is a single federal alphabet organization less popular among the readership of this website than the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms. These are the people who gave us both the Siege at Ruby Ridge and the Siege of Waco. What’s more, they may well be engaged in an entirely unconstitutional exercise: monitoring and patrolling the gun ownership of law-abiding citizens.
There’s also a solid case to be made that the ATF is a rogue organization, the most corrupt of the federal alphabet agencies. This can be seen through a number of scandals beginning with Ruby Ridge, threading through the siege at Mount Carmel in Waco, and continuing to the notorious “Fast and Furious” scandal.
While firearms owners, weapons enthusiasts and Second Amendment advocates might have a special bone to pick with the ATF, we believe that all freedom-loving Americans should be concerned about the overreach, lawlessness and lack of accountability in this organization. Roman poet Juvenal once posed an important (and famous) question about powerful justice officers: “Quis custodiet ipsos custodies?” – Who is to guard the guardians?
All told, there are over 20,000 firearms laws and regulations on the books at the state and federal level. Many of these contradict each other or are written with a lot of room for interpretation. Gun owners and gun dealers are easy prey for a corrupt and lawless federal agency that wants to twist its arms outside the bounds of the law.
It’s also worth considering what overreach and lack of accountability other federal organizations are responsible for that we don’t know about, simply because they do not have the same spotlight on them as the ATF – a reminder that the scandals mentioned above are just the ones that we know about.
We recommend reading this article in concert with our other articles on the ATF: Waco, Ruby Ridge and Fast and Furious. Each of these contains familiar tropes with regard to the ATF: Entrapment, “lost” evidence, a total lack of accountability, aggressive policing tactics where discretion would probably have saved lives, and a vengeful manner of doing business.
The Pre-History of the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms
The ATF’s genesis lies all the way back in 1886, as a part of the Department of Treasury. Then it was known as the Revenue Laboratory within the Bureau of Internal Revenue. The pre-history of the ATF can then be traced through the Bureau of Prohibition, itself a branch of the Bureau of Internal Revenue formed in 1920. The Bureau of Prohibition was then spun off as an independent agency under the umbrella of the Treasury Department in 1927, before becoming a part of the Justice Department in 1930, and eventually merged into the FBI briefly in 1933.
In December 1933, Prohibition was repealed and the Prohibition Bureau became the Alcohol Tax Unit (ATU) of the Bureau of Internal Revenue. In 1942, they were also tasked with enforcing federal firearms laws, which were scant at the time to say the least – remember that fully automatic machine guns were legal until 1986.
In the early 1950s, the Bureau of Internal Revenue became the Internal Revenue Service that we all know and love today. As part of this reorganization of federal alphabet agencies, the Alcohol Tax Unit was tasked with collecting tobacco taxes as well, and became known as the Alcohol and Tobacco Tax Division (ATTD).
It was with the 1968 Gun Control Act that the agency became the Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms Division of the IRS, and also received some jurisdiction over bombings and arson. In 1972, it became a fully independent bureau of the Treasury Department – the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco and Firearms (B.A.T.F). It was here that the Bureau became tasked more with enforcement of the law around firearms than it did about collecting taxes on tobacco and alcohol.
A Long History of Abuse and Corruption in the ATF
The ATF had a bad reputation long before the events of Ruby Ridge and Waco. They were subject to Congressional hearings in the late 70s and early 80s, because their methods for securing a case were considered overzealous. Evidence at the hearings was presented by American citizens who had been charged, experts who had closely studied the Bureau, and internal officials from the Bureau. The Senate sub-committee investigating declared:
"Based upon these hearings, it is apparent that ATF enforcement tactics made possible by current federal firearms laws are constitutionally, legally, and practically reprehensible."
The ATF was considered especially harmful because they often targeted people who not only didn’t know they were doing anything wrong, but had absolutely no malicious intent at all. Their efforts focused on gun collectors rather than stopping street crime. Indeed, the same investigation found that 75 percent of all ATF prosecutions were targeted at people who had no knowledge that they were breaking the law and had no intent to do anything criminal.
The Firearms Owners Protection Act of 1986 (FOPA) was squarely aimed at reducing the abuses of the Bureau. Nothing less than a complete overhaul of the 1968 Gun Control Act, FOPA allowed for increased interstate sales of long arms, shipping ammunition through the U.S. mail, ended record keeping requirements on most forms of ammunition, and protected the transportation of otherwise illegal firearms across state lines (“safe passage”).
This is also the act that largely prohibited the ownership of fully automatic machine guns by civilians, so it certainly wasn’t perfect.
Ruby Ridge and Waco
Following FOPA in 1986, the next big chapters in ATF history are the sieges at Ruby Ridge in 1992 and Waco in 1993. These events lead directly to the bombing of the federal building in Oklahoma City in 1995.
The Siege at Ruby Ridge
In 1992, Ruby Ridge, Idaho, was the site of an 11-day standoff between the ATF and Randy Weaver – who had been entrapped by the ATF into violating the law regarding the barrel length of a shotgun. They attempted to coerce him into becoming a snitch inside the Aryan Nations (which, as it turned out, was basically an organization entirely full of snitches). When he refused, the ATF moved forward with prosecution.
There was a series of bureaucratic SNAFUs that led to Weaver not knowing what his court date was, missing it, and then deciding not to show up at all out of the very legitimate fear that he would not get a fair shake. So the Marshal Service came in, guns blazing in tactical gear, and did what the feds are perhaps best known for: They shot Weaver’s dog. Unfortunately, it went further than that. They also shot his 14-year-old son Sammy in the back and his wife through a door while she held their infant child.
Patriots descended onto the scene and 11 days later, Weaver came out. He was tried and acquitted of all charges except for failure to appear.
The Siege at Waco
The next year, the ATF had a similar situation in Waco, Texas, where they were investigating a religious group known as the Branch Davidians. Here, the ATF (according to many accounts) was more interested in performing for television cameras than they were in enforcing the law. They used aggressive policing tactics against a group of people who had not been convicted of – or even formally charged with – any crime. The final result was a 51-day siege, at the end of which 82 Branch Davidians (including women and children) were gunned down or burned to death.
Each of these events were directly cited by Timothy McVeigh as radicalizing for him on his road to attacking the federal building at Oklahoma City, stating:
“I chose to bomb a federal building because such an action served more purposes than other options. Foremost the bombing was a retaliatory strike; a counter attack for the cumulative raids (and subsequent violence and damage) that federal agents had participated in over the preceding years (including, but not limited to, Waco). From the formation of such units as the FBI's Hostage Rescue and other assault teams amongst federal agencies during the 80s, culminating in the Waco incident, federal actions grew increasingly militaristic and violent, to the point where at Waco, our government – like the Chinese – was deploying tanks against its own citizens.”
Expanded Powers Post-9/11
Unsurprisingly, the ATF was rewarded for its indiscretions with broader police powers post-9/11, when any three-letter alphabet agency was basically given carte blanche to run roughshod over the civil rights of American citizens. This included an expanded jurisdiction over fuels used in amateur rocketry.
It’s worth briefly noting that the ATF (actually the BATFE, as their agents are quick to tell anyone who will listen) has a bit of a chip on its shoulder because there is a perception that the agency is made up of FBI rejects. The ATF tends to not cooperate with the FBI, something people hoped would end when the ATF was moved from Treasury to Justice. But the so-called “battle of the badges” continues. Each wants to investigate terrorist attacks involving explosives, and there are no clear federal guidelines about which gets which.
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2020.09.18 17:42 Seamus5150 Update: I need to send a letter of thanks to Dyson. I discovered my wife (49F) of 17 years, 18 month affair when I updated our fan filter on the app it uses.

Original Post link. I apologize as it was poorly written and contextualized, as I was inebriated most of that Thursday.
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So... I have received nearly 1,000 requests for some type of update or information on what's going on in my pain and hate filled life. Per my new therapist, he said to go ahead and do it. It will help me re-center and focus.
To those that kept saying "ThaT's NoT HoW SnApChAt WoRkS" Yes, you are correct, she had that running in the background, it was Whats app. I don't really give a shit, I saw it. I again need to thank Dyson for their app and the kick ass fan I got from my Brother in law for Christmas.
Here goes.
I'm going to give a deeper background on our situation to help with some perspective on why I feel the way I do. My original post was pretty much a stream of consciousness and felt as disjointed as I did then.
I went to college in Las Vegas in the mid '90's. I graduated in 1999. I had a blast there. I "Got Around" (Fucked) It was during this formative time I decided to never marry, it was/is an outdated concept that essentially removes your agency, and, I definitely did NOT want children.
When I graduated with my degree in Nursing, I quickly excelled in Cardiovascular Intensive Care. I moved home to Texas in 2001 and pursued my Masters Degree to be an Advanced Practice RN/ Nurse Practitioner with a specialization in CV Surgery. While I was achieving this, I decided to pursue medical school and shifted course work to fill in what I needed to apply. It was then that I met my STBXW. She was a short chubby (I believe the kids today would say THICC) red headed fire cracker. We met in a code. It was intense; both the attraction and the "Dating." We were saying I LOVE YOU within 3 months...
She was a mother of two (Remember, I wanted to be child free) that had been divorced for about 2 years. She was just getting out of an on again off again relationship when we met. We "Dated" for about 2 years and she slowly introduced her daughters to me age (11,6). She sat me down one night and gave me a pretty heartfelt but pragmatic talk about "Us" or where we were at the time, and what she needed/expected from me, or any other partner. Essentially she said it was time to either get married or move on. I was still pretty anti-marriage and she respected that. She was telling me this to give me a chance to think about "Us" and what the future looked like. She had a pretty good point in that we were living together (8 months) and even had each other as persons to notify in an emergency, she joked, that all that was missing was having each other on our insurance. It was a good honest talk and we agreed that we would continue on for a bit more, but, I would ultimately have to make "The Decision."
2 weeks later, I had an acceptance letter to a Medical school about 2 hours away. I was extatic and crushed at the same time. I had just had my 26th Birthday and was about to accomplish a huge life goal! Then I realized I'd never see her or the girls. My self doubt got the better of me. Being a medical student, then resident, with a fellowship was going to be a roughly 7 year process, all the while, I could not make the money or support the lifestyle we had grown accustomed to. I thought about the prospect of at least 7 years of loans, debt, and work, and losing her...
So I declined and switched back to a Masters in Nursing Administration.
We got married in July of 2003 it was an intimate and personal ceremony with just immediate family and friends.
---While my parents adore the girls (Rightly so) they have always been stand-offish with STBXW. On Monday when I told my parents what was happening, and, that there was a real possibility the girls could stop being as prevalent in their life as they have been, they told me that they felt that STBXW was damaged goods being married prior to and "Forcing me to compromise." That really hit home, and to a certain extent they were/are correct.---
After I graduated I didn't want to be a manager or director. I'm a hands on guy that likes taking care of patients. The hospital I was at offered a certification in ECMO and a Perfusionist credential. It was a highly competitive application, but I got in. For the past 11 years, I have been doing ECMO and all things related. I have had a blast and it has been challenging as well as heartbreaking at times.
My STBXW decided about 5 years ago that being an RN on the floor had run its course and she wanted a more 9 to 5 job that did not involve patients or drama. She got on through a friend at a multi-state legal consultancy that specializes in medical legal suites. She abstracts data from patient charts and presents it in the manner requested.
So that's the set up.
On Saturday morning DDay+2: I only slept a few hours. I had dark, disturbing thoughts regarding my future and life. I had (Still do) thoughts and scenarios of death and violence upon them and myself...
I was in the kitchen making breakfast, eggs and toast, when she walked into the kitchen still bleary eyed. She asked if I would make her some... I threw it in the trash in front of her. I then proceeded to load up my record player and play music from my youth at an uncomfortable volume to prevent her from trying to talk to me. (Real mature I know). I began Pain Shopping big time, reading the print out in chronological order. I do and I don't recommend it, by the afternoon I was done with Blackflag and Danzig, I was listening to torch / break up songs by Chris Isaak and Ray Lamontagne. She approached again. This time she was almost indignant. Asking what purpose notifying the AP's wife served. I stared at her for what felt like an inappropriate amount of time, a bit dumb founded. I told her point blank that at least she (AP's wife) would get the chance to make an informed decision about her future instead of compromising and sacrificing for someone that would betray them so selfishly. I guess my message to the AP's wife was received and things were not good for him. She sat down on the couch and began to tear up and sob. I told her I was cried out, or more correctly I was so numb that I will do that later, when I am done doing what needs to be done. She asked timidly, all indignation / bravado gone from her voice, what else I "Had to do?" I told her to ruin your life and give you the pain I have now. I told her that if she had ANY respect for me or "Love" for me, she would open her phone and show me EVERYTHING. She refused and said that it didn't matter and all I would do is hold it against her. I said, there was a part of me, the completionist in me, that wanted to know. She refused and went to the guest bedroom. I found her HR, new hire paperwork from her company. They have a corporate compliance line and I called and left a detailed message. They (STBXW and AP) had discussed client information that also had protected health information with an unsecured, non-approved messaging system. I also informed them that she was his acting supervisor on 2 projects over a certain time that corresponds with the sexually inappropriate messages. Lastly I said that they both used their subsidized phones to transmit pornographic materials (Pics, sexting, videos.) That was a big no no as well.
My whole life, I have viewed myself as a peaceful and rational man. This has broken that part of me. I don't know where all of this anger has come from, I am somewhat worried. Like, will it stop. I know in the long run, to "Get over this" I will have to accept her apology and forgive her for her mistakes...I just don't know if I am capable, and it is worrying to me.
That evening I continued to notify family and friends of the situation and her actions. I called a physician friend and requested a favor for a checkup and an STD check. He had questions, I answered. My eyes got heavy around 8.
Sunday DDay+3: I decided to drive to see the girls. They are about 3 hours away. The youngest is still in college for another semester (maybe longer, thanks 2020.)
I have been having pretty extreme feelings about them since this began. I have formed a respectful, friendly relationship with them, but not much of a "Fatherly" one. The oldest especially. We are cordial, but, there is always that "Your NOT my dad" vibe between us. The youngest, not so much, but, when they are together, it gets more prevalent. I left early Sunday around 5 AM, arrived at their condo (Their father pays for it) just after 845. I had Kolaches and good coffee for them. They were immediately worried about their mother before I said anything. I told them point blank the situation and that their mother would probably be moving in the next 3 to 6 months. I can honestly say it was best to do and say this in person. I told them EVERYTHING. They were disappointed in her. I then told them that I wasn't there to get them to take a side, but, they were adults in a special circumstance within our relationship, and if they decided they didn't want to interact or have a relationship with me that was OK, I would be somewhat let down, but also relieved. I told them however, that our relationship or lack thereof should not interfere with their grandparents (My parents.) They both agreed that they would like to definitely keep in touch with the grandparents. I left there around 11 and headed home. I stopped at my best friends house and cried a little... I had essentially help to raise them as best I could. Their father was absentee most of their childhood and started another family 6 hours away. My best friend decided that I had drank enough the past 72 hours, and I needed to sleep. I crashed at his place that night. I had noticed STBXW had been blowing my phone up after I had left the girls place. Oh well, I was too tired and in too dark a place to care.
Monday DDay+4: I arrived home around 8 and noticed her Porsche was still there... I thought for a moment that she Uber'd or Waze'd to the airport. No, no she had not. She was up and had breakfast made, she asked me to sit down and eat with her. I did. She asked how it tasted, I told her like static. I told her I've had a hard time tasting and feeling anything other than bitterness and anger, for the past 5 days... She had called in "Sick" at work, and did not leave for her quarterly meeting. She tried to start talking about how worried she was for me and that she loved me so much. She had gotten a call from her oldest yesterday around noon and they were deeply disturbed by her behavior. I laughed... as I did it, I realized it was not a funny laugh. It had a manic kind of feel to it and took me aback. I said Oh, you "Love" me so much you have a year and a half affair behind my back. You "Love" me so much you fuck some other married man. You "Love" me so much you pissed away nearly half of my life because... She had never given me a reason as to why she did it. I told her that, and it made it so much worse. I went to the liquor service and pulled out "The Bottle."
---"The Bottle" was an 18 year Glenfiddich that my grandfather bought for "Us" when we got married. It has been/was our tradition to have a small sip on our anniversary night and remember that things get better with time and patience.---
I chugged the remainder of it. It was about a third of the bottle that was left. I said, sorry I didn't offer her any, because she did NOT deserve any. I went to the bedroom and began pulling all of the pictures off of the wall that had us or her in them. I placed them on the kitchen table. She had left. My attorney or rather her paralegal called to notify me the Petition for Divorce was ready, and I needed to sign off on it before it could be filed and STBXW would be served within 10 business days. I read it quickly, while VERY buzzed on premium Scotch. E-Signed and pressed send. I also got a message from the AP's wife. She reluctantly thanked me for this "Horrible but good revelation." She declined to speak with me, but wanted to message me to tell me. She found texts and videos with other women besides my STBXW. She kicked him out, and was going to an attorney soon. (They live in California, he's fucked.) I proceeded to listen to music and have a few more drinks. I fell asleep around 4 in the afternoon. I heard her come home around 10, she saw the pile of pictures and things that had at one time meant "Something" to "Us." She began sobbing and asking me to talk to her, I only asked one question "Why?" She kept saying she didn't know. I called her vile things and said that she made SO many decisions to get to just the first text. It was she that started it. I was pretty loose with my tounge due to being drunk. I laughed at her and started taking off my clothes and said you threw away this pointing to my body, (I'm going to get shit for it, but, I'm 6'4" and weigh 200#, up until last week I still jogged and lifted weights 4 times a week) for some pot bellied needle dick guy that wasn't going to do anything for her. I went to my room and had a shower. When I got out, she was in the bed naked. She had lit some candles and begged me to fuck her. I turned on my camera and told her to repeat what she said (I thank everyone who mentioned doing this, just in case) For whatever reason, my erection did not do a good job of convincing her that I didn't want to. So, I did it. I was NOT kind. I put her in uncomfortable positions and pounded her. I told her I wanted anal, and I wanted to hear her beg me for it. I recorded it ALL. I felt so many mixed emotions after. I love her, and I am indifferent to her, I hate her, and I think nothing of her. I want her and feel like I need her, but It hurts me to think of "Us" anymore. We fell asleep together. I woke up kind of hung over and had a hard time looking at myself in the mirror.
Tuesday DDay+5: Therapy was a 2 and a half hour session, unbeknownst to me, she followed me there and wanted to know what I was doing. I told her I was getting some therapy for the emotional trauma I had after realizing I had thrown away most of my life on someone who couldn't even give me a reason as to why she would cheat on me. I was a little loud and teary eyed. My soon to be new therapist saw most of the exchange. I called her horrible names and told her I wished her dead. Needless to say my session was intense. He prescribed some sedatives for me and I had another shorter appointment scheduled on Thursday. We discussed my anger and betrayal, my emasculation, my fear of the future. I explained I am terrified of the unknown. Last week I felt like a complete man. I had a vision and goals, I also had a partner to deal with any issues and obstacles. Now, I am a ship without a rudder, or mast. I feel no sense of direction, or power, or means to get away from this. He started explaining the "Why" that I wanted to know. It isn't a single question. It is a series of questions that is pretty interesting. I suppose you can apply it to any behavior that you want to explain the motivation behind it. He said instead I should calmly ask my STBXW, what within herself gave her permission to do this to me. There were several more to follow up with, but, this is what stuck out the most. I told him about the sex, he recommended that I lay out explicit ground rules regarding our physical relationship. He ultimately recommended that I don't do it anymore, it would confuse and exacerbate things tremendously, unless reconciliation was my goal. I cried, I raged. I left exhausted. STBXW was still outside waiting for me. I walked past her and didn't respond to her questions and pleading. I got a call from the physician's office to get tested and went to that appointment. I told him the short version. He recommended to stop drinking and take the sedatives cautiously. I went home and proceeded to continue removing my things from the house and boxing them up. I have decided I would move out. I called work and requested a face to face meeting. The thought of working, or concentrating on legitimate life and death issues is not possible in my current state of mind. I drove to the Administrative building at the hospital, met with the team and formally gave my 6 weeks resignation. I have such a niche, specialized job that 6 weeks is kind of a minimum courtesy. I put it succinctly that my STBXW's actions had caused a stressful home life, and I would be a detriment to patients, the team, and myself if I continued to remain in this area. I have decided to move away. Far away. I got home after picking up some groceries. It has been about a week since I have had more than a mouthful of food and have existed on liquor and not much else. I took both my therapists, and physician friends' advice and decided to make some food and stop drinking. She was home, sitting in the darkened living room drinking wine. She had organized the pictures and was looking through them. She had put on makeup and was wearing a "Date Night" dress. She had been crying alot. her makeup was in bad shape. She got up and tried to embrace me. I pushed her gently away and made a production of pulling out my phone and hitting record. She started crying again. She told me the AP's wife had called her and told her that he had had other women as well as her. She said that she was so much the fool and every derogatory name I had called her was right. She begged me to consider "Us." I said why bother, she didn't when she betrayed me. I told her I was sorry that her lies caught her out, but I felt that she was sorry she got caught, not remorseful for what she did to me. I told her I felt she was sorry that she was going to have to start over and that she was more upset about that, than losing any "Love" she had for me. I said that she abandoned her "Love" for me or "Us" 2 YEARS ago when she decided to do this. I kept piling it on her. I informed her of my call to the Corporate Compliance line and the specific rules she broke. I didn't raise my voice or act angry. I was shaking a bit, but it was like everything was leaving me in a rush. I felt elated and so low at the same time. I felt empty when I was done. I put up the few groceries I had bought and made a small sandwich, then went to bed. She was there again. I pulled out my phone and told her with the recorder going what my therapist had talked about in regards to sex. Keep in mind in 17 years, I can not recall a time when I've refused or declined sex from her. I asked her to leave and sleep in the guest bedroom. She refused. I said, fine, I would then.
Wednesday DDay+6: I woke up and she was curled up next to me. I removed myself and did some light exercises. I have been working on my resume and getting applications out. I might be working in Seattle by the end of the year! I love my parents and will miss being 20 minutes away from them, especially as they are becoming elderly. I can't stay in this city. The thought of "Running into" her after this is over is not something I want to entertain. I want to be free, and have NO reminders of my sense of loss and my lifetime of compromise. It was a pretty blah day and it rained off and on for most of it. I met up with my best friend and gave him a rundown over an early dinner. We decided not to drink. My attorney said that me moving away will not affect the outcome of the financials. I am going to live off my PTO until the end of October, and use my half of our liquid savings to relocate and settle. I feel empty and I am trying to laugh at his funny jokes, but it's an effort. I keep finding myself in a deep emptiness that has such a powerful pull. I have never thought about ending my own life, but for the past few days/nights I've had "Daydreams'' of what it would be like if I wasn't here. I am going to tell my therapist tomorrow. STBXW has been going to the library (I've been watching through Google) and reading relationship books. I have been reading Chump Lady. It is great stuff. She got a call from her work. I eavesdropped on a small portion of it, but I know she has a meeting tomorrow, despite her claiming to be "Sick." She was in bed again just like the past few nights. I am so conflicted, I just want to feel something, but I feel so little but hate and resentment for her, that the only sex I want is sadistic. I'll admit that during the abusive sex we had Monday I felt almost a runners high, but, there was a crash, and the next day I was angry at myself. I am doubting myself a small amount in regards to not wanting her back. I know she fucked up huge, but I don't know if I can forget it, or forgive it. I am a tangled mess. I told her the ground rules, with my phone recording, in regard to sex. I told her that it did NOT indicate reconciliation, or some covert signal that I wanted that. I told her this is probably hysterical bonding and not healthy. I told her that I was going to not be gentle nor care about her feelings or needs during it. She was teary eyed, and nodded understanding. She quietly said that she "Deserved it." She then rolled over and got on all 4's.
Thursday DDay+7: I woke up with her spooning me. I laid there for a while and heard her breathing change pattern. I could feel her looking at me. I asked with my back turned what her meeting was going to be about? She said it was an HR representitive and it was probably going to be bad. I said yup. She asked what she could do to make us right or equal again. I said nothing. She offered an open marriage on my end, she would not persue anyone, but I could. I chuckled, no. I don't trust her. She said that was fair. We had this conversation with my back to her, it was easier than looking at her. I get mad when I see her face. I asked what I did in this marriage that made her so unhappy she did this. She said I was beyond great. I chuckled again, well obviously that dosent matter. She said it was an adventure, like she lived off of the rush, she didn't realize until it was way too late that if she got caught or if something went wrong everyone would be hurt, she said it was a huge relief and an unforgettable pain when I confronted her. I got up and made us breakfast. I went to my therapist and told him my plan with work and already had responses to my applications. I told him everything about STBXW and the sex. We discussed my suicdal thoughts and talked about the process invlved with them. Again, he wasn't judging; he just wanted me to not get confused, or if I did not understand to stop and process. It was only a 1 hour (55 minute) session and I felt that weird calm again. Like nothing matters for now. everything just is. When I got home she was sitting in the living room. She told me that she was fired for breach of protocol with client information and violation of the data security protocols. I said, well that's too bad. I exercised and made a nice dinner, she joined me. We did'nt say much. While we were sitting in the living room she told me that AP had been fired as well. I said good. She told me she has had no contact with him in 5 days. I asked why not? They were both free now. She could fly out to her "Soul Mate" and have all the fun they wanted now. She said I was the only one she wanted. I said NO, you had me ALL of me, and it still was'nt enough. I told her that in the nearly 20 years of work, and our relationship, I had been approached and hit on too many times to count. I managed to not fall in love or fuck anyone else, now, I am so bitter and angry because of the compromises I made. She asked what compromises. I told her. My wanting to go to medical school, but decided to get married and be stable, my not wanting children, but, because they were a part of her, I accepted them and compromised. I said I made those compromises for our love. But, obviously I had misplaced my trust and love in her. I told her that if I could go back in time, I would tell 26 year old me to pass her up. She asked again what she could do to bring us back together. I told her that I will not EVER compromise for her again and that means we really can't have a healthy relationship. I told her I would NEVER love her again, and that at best, I would treat her like a sex toy. Otherwise, she would'nt factor into my plans or thoughts. I told her it was just a week ago, she was the first person I thought of when I woke up, and the last person I thought about when I went to sleep. Now it hurts too much to think about her.
I am going to walk away from this. I feel like it is starting to constantly remind me of things. I can not thank those kind people I could chat with and who shared their pain and stories that have helped me. This has been on a whole, a good thing for me to do, but I keep replaying things and feelings I'd rather just walk away from. I remain confused about what I want. I don't know if I will ever be 100% about anything with Her ever again. I have bi-weekly appointments for the next 4 weeks with my therapist.
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2020.09.18 17:36 Seamus5150 Update: I (43M) need to send a letter of thanks to Dyson. I discovered my wife (49) of 17 years, 18 month affair when I updated our fan filter on the app it uses

Original Post link. I apologize as it was poorly written and contextualized, as I was inebriated most of that Thursday.
https://www.reddit.com/survivinginfidelity/comments/iqrtds/i_43m_need_to_send_a_letter_of_thanks_to_dyson_i/
So... I have received nearly 1,000 requests for some type of update or information on what's going on in my pain and hate filled life. Per my new therapist, he said to go ahead and do it. It will help me re-center and focus.
To those that kept saying "ThaT's NoT HoW SnApChAt WoRkS" Yes, you are correct, she had that running in the background, it was Whats app. I don't really give a shit, I saw it. I again need to thank Dyson for their app and the kick ass fan I got from my Brother in law for Christmas.
Here goes.
I'm going to give a deeper background on our situation to help with some perspective on why I feel the way I do. My original post was pretty much a stream of consciousness and felt as disjointed as I did then.
I went to college in Las Vegas in the mid '90's. I graduated in 1999. I had a blast there. I "Got Around" (Fucked) It was during this formative time I decided to never marry, it was/is an outdated concept that essentially removes your agency, and, I definitely did NOT want children.
When I graduated with my degree in Nursing, I quickly excelled in Cardiovascular Intensive Care. I moved home to Texas in 2001 and pursued my Masters Degree to be an Advanced Practice RN/ Nurse Practitioner with a specialization in CV Surgery. While I was achieving this, I decided to pursue medical school and shifted course work to fill in what I needed to apply. It was then that I met my STBXW. She was a short chubby (I believe the kids today would say THICC) red headed fire cracker. We met in a code. It was intense; both the attraction and the "Dating." We were saying I LOVE YOU within 3 months...
She was a mother of two (Remember, I wanted to be child free) that had been divorced for about 2 years. She was just getting out of an on again off again relationship when we met. We "Dated" for about 2 years and she slowly introduced her daughters to me age (11,6). She sat me down one night and gave me a pretty heartfelt but pragmatic talk about "Us" or where we were at the time, and what she needed/expected from me, or any other partner. Essentially she said it was time to either get married or move on. I was still pretty anti-marriage and she respected that. She was telling me this to give me a chance to think about "Us" and what the future looked like. She had a pretty good point in that we were living together (8 months) and even had each other as persons to notify in an emergency, she joked, that all that was missing was having each other on our insurance. It was a good honest talk and we agreed that we would continue on for a bit more, but, I would ultimately have to make "The Decision."
2 weeks later, I had an acceptance letter to a Medical school about 2 hours away. I was extatic and crushed at the same time. I had just had my 26th Birthday and was about to accomplish a huge life goal! Then I realized I'd never see her or the girls. My self doubt got the better of me. Being a medical student, then resident, with a fellowship was going to be a roughly 7 year process, all the while, I could not make the money or support the lifestyle we had grown accustomed to. I thought about the prospect of at least 7 years of loans, debt, and work, and losing her...
So I declined and switched back to a Masters in Nursing Administration.
We got married in July of 2003 it was an intimate and personal ceremony with just immediate family and friends.
---While my parents adore the girls (Rightly so) they have always been stand-offish with STBXW. On Monday when I told my parents what was happening, and, that there was a real possibility the girls could stop being as prevalent in their life as they have been, they told me that they felt that STBXW was damaged goods being married prior to and "Forcing me to compromise." That really hit home, and to a certain extent they were/are correct.---
After I graduated I didn't want to be a manager or director. I'm a hands on guy that likes taking care of patients. The hospital I was at offered a certification in ECMO and a Perfusionist credential. It was a highly competitive application, but I got in. For the past 11 years, I have been doing ECMO and all things related. I have had a blast and it has been challenging as well as heartbreaking at times.
My STBXW decided about 5 years ago that being an RN on the floor had run its course and she wanted a more 9 to 5 job that did not involve patients or drama. She got on through a friend at a multi-state legal consultancy that specializes in medical legal suites. She abstracts data from patient charts and presents it in the manner requested.
So that's the set up.
On Saturday morning DDay+2: I only slept a few hours. I had dark, disturbing thoughts regarding my future and life. I had (Still do) thoughts and scenarios of death and violence upon them and myself...
I was in the kitchen making breakfast, eggs and toast, when she walked into the kitchen still bleary eyed. She asked if I would make her some... I threw it in the trash in front of her. I then proceeded to load up my record player and play music from my youth at an uncomfortable volume to prevent her from trying to talk to me. (Real mature I know). I began Pain Shopping big time, reading the print out in chronological order. I do and I don't recommend it, by the afternoon I was done with Blackflag and Danzig, I was listening to torch / break up songs by Chris Isaak and Ray Lamontagne. She approached again. This time she was almost indignant. Asking what purpose notifying the AP's wife served. I stared at her for what felt like an inappropriate amount of time, a bit dumb founded. I told her point blank that at least she (AP's wife) would get the chance to make an informed decision about her future instead of compromising and sacrificing for someone that would betray them so selfishly. I guess my message to the AP's wife was received and things were not good for him. She sat down on the couch and began to tear up and sob. I told her I was cried out, or more correctly I was so numb that I will do that later, when I am done doing what needs to be done. She asked timidly, all indignation / bravado gone from her voice, what else I "Had to do?" I told her to ruin your life and give you the pain I have now. I told her that if she had ANY respect for me or "Love" for me, she would open her phone and show me EVERYTHING. She refused and said that it didn't matter and all I would do is hold it against her. I said, there was a part of me, the completionist in me, that wanted to know. She refused and went to the guest bedroom. I found her HR, new hire paperwork from her company. They have a corporate compliance line and I called and left a detailed message. They (STBXW and AP) had discussed client information that also had protected health information with an unsecured, non-approved messaging system. I also informed them that she was his acting supervisor on 2 projects over a certain time that corresponds with the sexually inappropriate messages. Lastly I said that they both used their subsidized phones to transmit pornographic materials (Pics, sexting, videos.) That was a big no no as well.
My whole life, I have viewed myself as a peaceful and rational man. This has broken that part of me. I don't know where all of this anger has come from, I am somewhat worried. Like, will it stop. I know in the long run, to "Get over this" I will have to accept her apology and forgive her for her mistakes...I just don't know if I am capable, and it is worrying to me.
That evening I continued to notify family and friends of the situation and her actions. I called a physician friend and requested a favor for a checkup and an STD check. He had questions, I answered. My eyes got heavy around 8.
Sunday DDay+3: I decided to drive to see the girls. They are about 3 hours away. The youngest is still in college for another semester (maybe longer, thanks 2020.)
I have been having pretty extreme feelings about them since this began. I have formed a respectful, friendly relationship with them, but not much of a "Fatherly" one. The oldest especially. We are cordial, but, there is always that "Your NOT my dad" vibe between us. The youngest, not so much, but, when they are together, it gets more prevalent. I left early Sunday around 5 AM, arrived at their condo (Their father pays for it) just after 845. I had Kolaches and good coffee for them. They were immediately worried about their mother before I said anything. I told them point blank the situation and that their mother would probably be moving in the next 3 to 6 months. I can honestly say it was best to do and say this in person. I told them EVERYTHING. They were disappointed in her. I then told them that I wasn't there to get them to take a side, but, they were adults in a special circumstance within our relationship, and if they decided they didn't want to interact or have a relationship with me that was OK, I would be somewhat let down, but also relieved. I told them however, that our relationship or lack thereof should not interfere with their grandparents (My parents.) They both agreed that they would like to definitely keep in touch with the grandparents. I left there around 11 and headed home. I stopped at my best friends house and cried a little... I had essentially help to raise them as best I could. Their father was absentee most of their childhood and started another family 6 hours away. My best friend decided that I had drank enough the past 72 hours, and I needed to sleep. I crashed at his place that night. I had noticed STBXW had been blowing my phone up after I had left the girls place. Oh well, I was too tired and in too dark a place to care.
Monday DDay+4: I arrived home around 8 and noticed her Porsche was still there... I thought for a moment that she Uber'd or Waze'd to the airport. No, no she had not. She was up and had breakfast made, she asked me to sit down and eat with her. I did. She asked how it tasted, I told her like static. I told her I've had a hard time tasting and feeling anything other than bitterness and anger, for the past 5 days... She had called in "Sick" at work, and did not leave for her quarterly meeting. She tried to start talking about how worried she was for me and that she loved me so much. She had gotten a call from her oldest yesterday around noon and they were deeply disturbed by her behavior. I laughed... as I did it, I realized it was not a funny laugh. It had a manic kind of feel to it and took me aback. I said Oh, you "Love" me so much you have a year and a half affair behind my back. You "Love" me so much you fuck some other married man. You "Love" me so much you pissed away nearly half of my life because... She had never given me a reason as to why she did it. I told her that, and it made it so much worse. I went to the liquor service and pulled out "The Bottle."
---"The Bottle" was an 18 year Glenfiddich that my grandfather bought for "Us" when we got married. It has been/was our tradition to have a small sip on our anniversary night and remember that things get better with time and patience.---
I chugged the remainder of it. It was about a third of the bottle that was left. I said, sorry I didn't offer her any, because she did NOT deserve any. I went to the bedroom and began pulling all of the pictures off of the wall that had us or her in them. I placed them on the kitchen table. She had left. My attorney or rather her paralegal called to notify me the Petition for Divorce was ready, and I needed to sign off on it before it could be filed and STBXW would be served within 10 business days. I read it quickly, while VERY buzzed on premium Scotch. E-Signed and pressed send. I also got a message from the AP's wife. She reluctantly thanked me for this "Horrible but good revelation." She declined to speak with me, but wanted to message me to tell me. She found texts and videos with other women besides my STBXW. She kicked him out, and was going to an attorney soon. (They live in California, he's fucked.) I proceeded to listen to music and have a few more drinks. I fell asleep around 4 in the afternoon. I heard her come home around 10, she saw the pile of pictures and things that had at one time meant "Something" to "Us." She began sobbing and asking me to talk to her, I only asked one question "Why?" She kept saying she didn't know. I called her vile things and said that she made SO many decisions to get to just the first text. It was she that started it. I was pretty loose with my tounge due to being drunk. I laughed at her and started taking off my clothes and said you threw away this pointing to my body, (I'm going to get shit for it, but, I'm 6'4" and weigh 200#, up until last week I still jogged and lifted weights 4 times a week) for some pot bellied needle dick guy that wasn't going to do anything for her. I went to my room and had a shower. When I got out, she was in the bed naked. She had lit some candles and begged me to fuck her. I turned on my camera and told her to repeat what she said (I thank everyone who mentioned doing this, just in case) For whatever reason, my erection did not do a good job of convincing her that I didn't want to. So, I did it. I was NOT kind. I put her in uncomfortable positions and pounded her. I told her I wanted anal, and I wanted to hear her beg me for it. I recorded it ALL. I felt so many mixed emotions after. I love her, and I am indifferent to her, I hate her, and I think nothing of her. I want her and feel like I need her, but It hurts me to think of "Us" anymore. We fell asleep together. I woke up kind of hung over and had a hard time looking at myself in the mirror.
Tuesday DDay+5: Therapy was a 2 and a half hour session, unbeknownst to me, she followed me there and wanted to know what I was doing. I told her I was getting some therapy for the emotional trauma I had after realizing I had thrown away most of my life on someone who couldn't even give me a reason as to why she would cheat on me. I was a little loud and teary eyed. My soon to be new therapist saw most of the exchange. I called her horrible names and told her I wished her dead. Needless to say my session was intense. He prescribed some sedatives for me and I had another shorter appointment scheduled on Thursday. We discussed my anger and betrayal, my emasculation, my fear of the future. I explained I am terrified of the unknown. Last week I felt like a complete man. I had a vision and goals, I also had a partner to deal with any issues and obstacles. Now, I am a ship without a rudder, or mast. I feel no sense of direction, or power, or means to get away from this. He started explaining the "Why" that I wanted to know. It isn't a single question. It is a series of questions that is pretty interesting. I suppose you can apply it to any behavior that you want to explain the motivation behind it. He said instead I should calmly ask my STBXW, what within herself gave her permission to do this to me. There were several more to follow up with, but, this is what stuck out the most. I told him about the sex, he recommended that I lay out explicit ground rules regarding our physical relationship. He ultimately recommended that I don't do it anymore, it would confuse and exacerbate things tremendously, unless reconciliation was my goal. I cried, I raged. I left exhausted. STBXW was still outside waiting for me. I walked past her and didn't respond to her questions and pleading. I got a call from the physician's office to get tested and went to that appointment. I told him the short version. He recommended to stop drinking and take the sedatives cautiously. I went home and proceeded to continue removing my things from the house and boxing them up. I have decided I would move out. I called work and requested a face to face meeting. The thought of working, or concentrating on legitimate life and death issues is not possible in my current state of mind. I drove to the Administrative building at the hospital, met with the team and formally gave my 6 weeks resignation. I have such a niche, specialized job that 6 weeks is kind of a minimum courtesy. I put it succinctly that my STBXW's actions had caused a stressful home life, and I would be a detriment to patients, the team, and myself if I continued to remain in this area. I have decided to move away. Far away. I got home after picking up some groceries. It has been about a week since I have had more than a mouthful of food and have existed on liquor and not much else. I took both my therapists, and physician friends' advice and decided to make some food and stop drinking. She was home, sitting in the darkened living room drinking wine. She had organized the pictures and was looking through them. She had put on makeup and was wearing a "Date Night" dress. She had been crying alot. her makeup was in bad shape. She got up and tried to embrace me. I pushed her gently away and made a production of pulling out my phone and hitting record. She started crying again. She told me the AP's wife had called her and told her that he had had other women as well as her. She said that she was so much the fool and every derogatory name I had called her was right. She begged me to consider "Us." I said why bother, she didn't when she betrayed me. I told her I was sorry that her lies caught her out, but I felt that she was sorry she got caught, not remorseful for what she did to me. I told her I felt she was sorry that she was going to have to start over and that she was more upset about that, than losing any "Love" she had for me. I said that she abandoned her "Love" for me or "Us" 2 YEARS ago when she decided to do this. I kept piling it on her. I informed her of my call to the Corporate Compliance line and the specific rules she broke. I didn't raise my voice or act angry. I was shaking a bit, but it was like everything was leaving me in a rush. I felt elated and so low at the same time. I felt empty when I was done. I put up the few groceries I had bought and made a small sandwich, then went to bed. She was there again. I pulled out my phone and told her with the recorder going what my therapist had talked about in regards to sex. Keep in mind in 17 years, I can not recall a time when I've refused or declined sex from her. I asked her to leave and sleep in the guest bedroom. She refused. I said, fine, I would then.
Wednesday DDay+6: I woke up and she was curled up next to me. I removed myself and did some light exercises. I have been working on my resume and getting applications out. I might be working in Seattle by the end of the year! I love my parents and will miss being 20 minutes away from them, especially as they are becoming elderly. I can't stay in this city. The thought of "Running into" her after this is over is not something I want to entertain. I want to be free, and have NO reminders of my sense of loss and my lifetime of compromise. It was a pretty blah day and it rained off and on for most of it. I met up with my best friend and gave him a rundown over an early dinner. We decided not to drink. My attorney said that me moving away will not affect the outcome of the financials. I am going to live off my PTO until the end of October, and use my half of our liquid savings to relocate and settle. I feel empty and I am trying to laugh at his funny jokes, but it's an effort. I keep finding myself in a deep emptiness that has such a powerful pull. I have never thought about ending my own life, but for the past few days/nights I've had "Daydreams'' of what it would be like if I wasn't here. I am going to tell my therapist tomorrow. STBXW has been going to the library (I've been watching through Google) and reading relationship books. I have been reading Chump Lady. It is great stuff. She got a call from her work. I eavesdropped on a small portion of it, but I know she has a meeting tomorrow, despite her claiming to be "Sick." She was in bed again just like the past few nights. I am so conflicted, I just want to feel something, but I feel so little but hate and resentment for her, that the only sex I want is sadistic. I'll admit that during the abusive sex we had Monday I felt almost a runners high, but, there was a crash, and the next day I was angry at myself. I am doubting myself a small amount in regards to not wanting her back. I know she fucked up huge, but I don't know if I can forget it, or forgive it. I am a tangled mess. I told her the ground rules, with my phone recording, in regard to sex. I told her that it did NOT indicate reconciliation, or some covert signal that I wanted that. I told her this is probably hysterical bonding and not healthy. I told her that I was going to not be gentle nor care about her feelings or needs during it. She was teary eyed, and nodded understanding. She quietly said that she "Deserved it." She then rolled over and got on all 4's.
Thursday DDay+7: I woke up with her spooning me. I laid there for a while and heard her breathing change pattern. I could feel her looking at me. I asked with my back turned what her meeting was going to be about? She said it was an HR representitive and it was probably going to be bad. I said yup. She asked what she could do to make us right or equal again. I said nothing. She offered an open marriage on my end, she would not persue anyone, but I could. I chuckled, no. I don't trust her. She said that was fair. We had this conversation with my back to her, it was easier than looking at her. I get mad when I see her face. I asked what I did in this marriage that made her so unhappy she did this. She said I was beyond great. I chuckled again, well obviously that dosent matter. She said it was an adventure, like she lived off of the rush, she didn't realize until it was way too late that if she got caught or if something went wrong everyone would be hurt, she said it was a huge relief and an unforgettable pain when I confronted her. I got up and made us breakfast. I went to my therapist and told him my plan with work and already had responses to my applications. I told him everything about STBXW and the sex. We discussed my suicdal thoughts and talked about the process invlved with them. Again, he wasn't judging; he just wanted me to not get confused, or if I did not understand to stop and process. It was only a 1 hour (55 minute) session and I felt that weird calm again. Like nothing matters for now. everything just is. When I got home she was sitting in the living room. She told me that she was fired for breach of protocol with client information and violation of the data security protocols. I said, well that's too bad. I exercised and made a nice dinner, she joined me. We did'nt say much. While we were sitting in the living room she told me that AP had been fired as well. I said good. She told me she has had no contact with him in 5 days. I asked why not? They were both free now. She could fly out to her "Soul Mate" and have all the fun they wanted now. She said I was the only one she wanted. I said NO, you had me ALL of me, and it still was'nt enough. I told her that in the nearly 20 years of work, and our relationship, I had been approached and hit on too many times to count. I managed to not fall in love or fuck anyone else, now, I am so bitter and angry because of the compromises I made. She asked what compromises. I told her. My wanting to go to medical school, but decided to get married and be stable, my not wanting children, but, because they were a part of her, I accepted them and compromised. I said I made those compromises for our love. But, obviously I had misplaced my trust and love in her. I told her that if I could go back in time, I would tell 26 year old me to pass her up. She asked again what she could do to bring us back together. I told her that I will not EVER compromise for her again and that means we really can't have a healthy relationship. I told her I would NEVER love her again, and that at best, I would treat her like a sex toy. Otherwise, she would'nt factor into my plans or thoughts. I told her it was just a week ago, she was the first person I thought of when I woke up, and the last person I thought about when I went to sleep. Now it hurts too much to think about her.
I am going to walk away from this. I feel like it is starting to constantly remind me of things. I can not thank those kind people I could chat with and who shared their pain and stories that have helped me. This has been on a whole, a good thing for me to do, but I keep replaying things and feelings I'd rather just walk away from. I remain confused about what I want. I don't know if I will ever be 100% about anything with Her ever again. I have bi-weekly appointments for the next 4 weeks with my therapist.
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2020.09.18 17:23 EepeesJ1 Learned new information about my parents

Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence. Rape.



Late 30s here, 10 years NC with nmom, and 3 years NC with ndad who was never really in the picture growing up anyway. Spent nearly 15 years not talking to ndad and he was super abusive to me when I was a kid. I went NC with my nmom ten years ago because I realized she was the most toxic person in my life and was the one holding me back. I'm not sure if it was her absence or whether my decision to be better was what the trick but the last 10 years without her have been the years where I've experienced my greatest successes and periods of personal growth. I'm constantly working towards being the person I want to be and setbacks don't slow me down anymore.
Couple weeks ago I met up with my aunt and uncle with whom I still have a pretty good relationship with. My uncle told me stuff I already knew, like my parents weren't ready to have kids and both came from abusive homes so they really didn't know any better. I've known this and accepted it. I'm breaking the cycle. But he told me that when I was an infant he witnessed my ndad beat up my nmom to the point where she had a black eye, and bruises all over her face, neck, and arms. The reason was ridiculous. My uncle spent the night at their place because he was having problems at home and my ndad was trying to have sex with my nmom with my uncle in the room at night. She said no, and he beat her up.
A year or so before this beating, my nmom had moved back home after living in the states and my uncle asked her why she was dating my ndad again after she was living in America and seemingly doing fine over there. She said my ndad threatened to kill my nmom's family if she didn't take him back (by the way, my ndad also had a pregnant wife at home around this time.)

I felt sick to my stomach. I'm furious. I trained martial arts my whole life because I wanted to some day square off against my ndad and show him that he's powerless against me. He never gave me the chance because three years ago I called him out on some b.s. he did behind my back and he ran and went NC with me. It was super empowering knowing this worthless sack of shit who was physically and emotionally abusive to me my whole life was finally too afraid to stand up to me.
I'm conflicted now tho. I don't want to have anything to do with my nmom. I will never reconcile with her and I intend to stay NC for the rest of my life. But knowing that he beat her like that makes me mad... Does that mean that part of me still cares about her? Am I making a mistake for staying NC? She's not good for me and I'm not going to go into that story here because this post is long enough. None of us are really experts at being estranged from our parents, even tho many of us have our shit together. I'm not going to reach out to my nmom about this ever, but I don't know exactly how I should process these feelings. I went NC because I don't want her around. Why do I care so much about righting this wrong that happened nearly four decades ago?
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2020.09.18 17:19 Last_Kindheartedness My boyfriend is mormon and im agnostic. I want our relationship to work but i don't know if it can. [F25, M29]

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. I grew up non religious and my boyfriend grew up mormon, meaning he did Sunday school growing up his mission once he turned 18, goes to church every Sunday, is in leadership positions in his church etc. It is a very important part of his life. For me growing up in a non religious household[agnostic] I never went to church however was just taught to, be kind to people, honest caring, treat people the way you wanted to be treated etc. Our relationship is going well, we both work in the same field he is extremely caring and sweet hes responsible, treats me well, his family loves me [mom is mormon, dad was catholic but converted to mormon once married] and they never pressure me to pray nor go to church.
Throughout the relationship though I have started to feel conflicted. I feel like i have had to sacrifice and change lot more than I thought i would. I want to be supportive of his religion but I just feel conflicted and restricted because I feel im not able to share certain experiences with him. I dont drink in front of him(it isn't a big deal to me) I can't watch rated R movies with him, even any show I want to watch with him i have to be very selective of its content[no gore sex violence] pretty much everything has to stay fairly pg 13, he drinks diet coke but can't drink boba tea... Also he constantly talks about marrying me.. its sweet but I have told him honestly i would want to date for a few years before getting married.. but his younger brother is literally going to marry a girl he's been dating for less than a year.. also he refuses to spend the night until we are married...these things have started to bother me a lot because I want to be able to share experiences with him, but due to his beliefs I can't and he refuses to compromise on his beliefs. Im trying to understand but i don't.. we have had this discussion a few times and i will ask. Why can't you do x y z, then he will try to explain but it literally just doesn't make sense so he will say why are you tryjng to change me. Now what makes things even more confusing is that he follows a lot of the rules except we have had premarital sex multiple times[we lost our Virginities to each other] and because of this im more confused. For reference they are not utah mormons, they are from cali. I want to be with him but I don't feel comfortable if we had kids raising thhem in a mormon church. How do i approach this without sounding judgemental? Please help me gain a better understanding of where he's coming from.
Edit: I myself and able to drink watch movies etc, however my boyfriend will not join me in those activities.
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2020.09.18 15:04 rusticgorilla The NINE agencies Trump is using to corrupt the election

Over the past six months, Trump has been making increasingly false, absurd, and dangerous claims - from saying the “only way” he’ll lose in November is in a rigged election to claiming his opponents illegally “spied” on his campaign.
However, not only is he making these claims, the president and his cronies are corrupting the power of government to inflate his lies to the level of truth and oppress any evidence to the contrary. With the help of loyalists atop every federal agency, Trump has perverted the government to serve his own re-election desires.
This list is nowhere near comprehensive. There are many more examples that could be given, but I tried to keep it short enough that it is still readable.

ODNI and Intelligence Community

Limit disclosure of knowledge of Russian sabotage.
The Office of the Director of National Intelligence, led by Trump loyalist John Ratcliffe, canceled future in-person briefings on election security issues to the congressional intelligence committees. Instead, the ODNI will provide written briefings only.
The change came after a classified briefing in which top counterintelligence official Bill Evanina told House members that Russia is again trying to boost President Donald Trump’s reelection and denigrate his opponent, Joe Biden. Trump was enraged after details of the briefing leaked to the public, revealing that his own administration’s intelligence officers contradict his repeated assertions that Russia is not interfering on his behalf.
Reminder: Trump fired the previous DNI, Joseph Maguire, after learning that one of Maguire’s staff members gave a 2020 election security briefing to the House Intelligence Committee. In the briefing, Maguire aide Shelby Pierson alerted committee members that Russia was interfering in the 2020 campaign in an effort to tip the election in Trump’s favor. In firing Maguire, Trump sent a warning to the entire intelligence community: Trump’s opinion and electoral prospects must be prioritized over facts.

Department of Homeland Security

Twist intelligence to support campaign and personal motives.
Election interference
Former acting Under Secretary of Homeland Security for Intelligence and Analysis Brian Murphy filed a whistleblower complaint alleging that Acting Homeland Security Secretary Chad Wolf interfered with intelligence assessments in order to benefit Trump politically.
In May 2020, Acting Homeland Security Secretary Chad Wolf told Murphy to “cease providing intelligence assessments on the threat of Russian interference in the United States, and instead start reporting on interference activities by China and Iran.” Wolf told Murphy those instructions came directly from the White House.
In July 2020, DHS chief of staff John Gountanis intervened to stop publication of an intelligence bulletin warning about a Russian disinformation plot to “denigrate” the mental health of Joe Biden. On July 8, Murphy said, he met with Wolf, who told him that the intelligence notification should be “held” because it “made the President look bad.”
Trump not only attempts to hide intelligence that contradicts the false narrative he continues to push about China actively interfering to boost Biden, according to Murphy Trump’s officials directed him to prioritize intelligence on China and Iran.
It’s disturbing enough for a president and his allies to distort intelligence assessments for political gain, but Murphy’s account suggests something more nefarious—that intelligence authorities and positions of public trust might have been used to engineer the narrative from the outset.
Campaign agitprop
Murphy’s complaint also details that Senior Official Performing the Duties of the Deputy Secretary Ken Cuccinelli ordered him to modify intelligence assessments to make the threat of white supremacy “appear less severe” and include information on violent “left-wing” groups and Antifa. The reason given was “to ensure they matched up with the public comments by President Trump on the subject of ANTIFA and ‘anarchist’ groups.”
Trump has spent months fear-mongering about imagined mobs of far-left activists coming to attack the suburbs. On Saturday, the Trump campaign sent out an “ANTIFA ALERT” text message to supporters, saying “they’ll attack your homes if Joe’s elected. Pres Trump needs you to become a Diamond Club Member.”

Customs and Border Patrol

Cause unrest in Democratic-cities to assist in fear campaign.
Border Patrol agents were among the federal forces sent to Portland to confront and arrest protestors over the summer.
Gil Kerlikowske, former commissioner of U.S. Customs and Border Protection under President Barack Obama, said BORTAC, the unit dispatched to the city, is chiefly trained to pursue fugitives and criminals. "They're clearly the wrong group to be doing this.”
The violence they provoked was featured in Trump’s campaign ads and RNC nomination acceptance speech.
“Trump has ratcheted up political ties to border patrol to another level,” Todd Miller, the author of Empire of Borders, said. “He based his whole 2016 campaign around this, and it is now at the core of his 2020 re-election bid. These are his people.”
Most recently, the Border Patrol produced and published a dramatized video showing a Spanish-speaking attacker stabbing and killing a man in a dark alley after escaping from U.S. agents - “a clip apparently created to dramatize President Trump’s depiction of migrants as fearsome criminals.”

Justice Department

Weaponize the law to harm opponents and save himself.
Investigate Trump’s rivals
Trump and Attorney General Bill Barr are reportedly pressuring U.S. Attorney John Durham and his team to release the results of their probe before the November election. Durham was appointed by Barr to investigate the origins of the Mueller investigation and the FBI’s Russia probe. Last week, a highly respected and experienced prosecutor, Nora R. Dannehy, resigned as a senior aide to Durham due to concern over this improper political pressure.
Trump has publicly expressed impatience with the Durham investigation, saying there should be more prosecutions and disclosures of information that would damage his political rivals. Last month, Barr indicated the DOJ would not respect an informal policy against taking investigative steps 60 days before Election Day.
In a speech on Wednesday, Barr essentially rebuked the Mueller investigation and the cases it spawned: “Smart, ambitious lawyers have sought to amass glory by prosecuting prominent public figures since the Roman Republic. It is utterly unsurprising that prosecutors continue to do so today to the extent the Justice Department’s leaders will permit it. As long as I am Attorney General, we will not.”
Assist Trump’s allies
Attorney General Barr has explicitly interfered in at least two criminal cases against Trump’s allies, helping the president promote the narrative that the Obama administration (in which Democratic presidential nominee Joe Biden served) acted inappropriately. In February, Barr overruled career federal prosecutors in order to recommend the former Trump campaign advisor Roger Stone receive a lesser prison sentence. The entire team of prosecutors resigned from the criminal case due to the Justice Department’s interference. Trump ultimately commuted Stone’s 40-month sentence, much less than the original recommendation of seven to nine years in prison.
Then, in May, the Justice Department filed a request to drop the criminal case against Trump's first national security adviser, Michael Flynn, despite the fact that Flynn twice - before two separate judges - admitted to lying to the FBI. In response, nearly 2,000 former DOJ employees called for Barr’s resignation, saying he had “assaulted the rule of law.”
Politically-motivated actions
Barr reportedly told prosecutors to explore aggressive charges against people arrested at recent demonstrations across the US, even suggesting bringing a rarely used sedition charge, reserved for those who have plotted a threat that posed imminent danger to government authority.
The AG asked prosecutors in the Justice Department’s civil rights division to explore whether they could bring criminal charges against Mayor Jenny Durkan of Seattle for not acting immediately to disrupt the police-free zone created by protestors over the summer. According to the Associated Press, charges were also explored against city officials in Portland, Oregon, for the continued protests in the area.
The Justice Department is targeting Democratic governors for coronavirus outbreaks in state-owned nursing homes. The four governors - PA’s Tom Wolf, MI’s Whitmer, NJ’s Murphy, and NY’s Cuomo - are frequent targets of Trump for not lifting pandemic restrictions as fast as he’d like. Republican-run states have very similar rules about nursing home admissions yet are not under DOJ investigation.
Just yesterday, Barr publicly bashed states that still have restrictions in place, saying that “stay at home orders” are “like house arrest.” Incredibly, Barr added: “Other than slavery, which was a different kind of restraint, this is the greatest intrusion on civil liberties in American history."
  • More: In April, Barr issued a memorandum directing the nation’s U.S. attorneys to be on the lookout for public health rules that might, among other things, constitute “undue interference with the national economy.”

CDC and FDA

Rush coronavirus treatments to save his election chances.
At the end of March, the FDA issued an Emergency Use Authorization (EUA) to allow hydroxychloroquine and chloroquine for coronavirus COVID-19 treatment after weeks of pressure from Trump. For instance, eight days before the EUA, Trump tweeted that hydroxychloroquine and azithromycin could be "one of the biggest game changers in the history of medicine" and should "be put in use immediately."
Ultimately, the FDA revoked its EUA in June after more evidence revealed hydroxychloroquine can cause “serious cardiac adverse events.”
Experts say the FDA again caved to political pressure when it approved an expanded use of convalescent plasma to treat covid patients, the night before the Republican National Convention. Despite concerns over plasma’s effectiveness, Trump called Dr. Francis S. Collins, the director of the N.I.H., to tell him: “Get it done by Friday.” When it wasn’t, Trump took to Twitter to accuse those at the FDA of being part of the “deep state” withholding an approval “to delay the answer until after November 3.” The next day, the FDA announced its approval.
Finally, and most obviously, Trump has pressured the FDA to approve of a coronavirus vaccine before the November election. Experts across the board have said there is no way our government and existing infrastructure will be ready to distribute, administer, and track doses by November.
Trump, Sept. 2: "[It's] going to be done in a very short period of time -- could even have it during the month of October… We’re going to have a vaccine very soon, maybe even before a very special date. You know what date I’m talking about” (clip 1 and clip 2.
Just yesterday, Trump contradicted CDC chief Robert Redfield’s timetable for the vaccine, saying the doctor was “confused” in his congressional testimony.
"If you're asking me when is it going to be generally available to the American public, so we can begin to take advantage of vaccine to get back to our regular life, I think we're probably looking at third, late second quarter, third quarter 2021," Redfield told a Senate appropriations subcommittee.
"I think he made a mistake when he said that. It's just incorrect information," Trump said about Redfield's vaccine timeline. Following Trump’s repudiation, a CDC spokesman walked back Redfield’s statements to be in line with the president’s. "He was not referring to the time period when Covid-19 vaccine doses would be made available to all Americans," the spokesman said.

Department of Health and Human Services

Convince the public that the pandemic is gone.
DHS is bidding out a more than $250 million contract to a communications firm as it seeks to “defeat despair and inspire hope” about the coronavirus pandemic. Among the goals of the contract: “sharing best practices for businesses to operate in the new normal and instill confidence to return to work and restart the economy.” In other words: exactly what Trump has tried to project onto the nation despite his failure to effectively contain the spread of the coronavirus.
As the House Oversight Committee has expressed, “rather than focus on planning and executing a national strategy to contain the coronavirus, the Trump Administration is using a quarter of a billion dollars in taxpayer money to fund what appears to be a political propaganda campaign just two months before a presidential election.”
Remember, the pandemic crisis still gripping America is Trump’s own creation. Olivia Troye, Pence’s top aide on the White House coronavirus task force, went public yesterday with her firsthand experiences. She relays that throughout the pandemic, Trump was consumed by himself and his prospects in November. “For him, it was all about the election,” Troye said.
Instead of trying to help Americans and slow the spread, Trump is spending 250 million taxpayer dollars to try to convince us not to believe our own eyes and ears.

US Postal Service

Discredit vote-by-mail and suppress the vote.
President Trump on Thursday continued his months long campaign against mail-in voting this November by tweeting that “MAYHEM” will occur in states that send ballots to all registered voters. In another tweet, Trump falsely asserted that “the Nov 3rd Election result may NEVER BE ACCURATELY DETERMINED” due to nine states running universal mail-in voting.
By casting doubt on mail ballots and the election results, Trump is trying to accomplish two things: (1) persuade voters not to participate in the election, and (2) claim victory prematurely, or even after a decisive loss.
To this end, Postmaster DeJoy - a big donor to Trump’s campaign - has sent confusing misinformation to voters in these states that automatically send registered voters ballots by mail.
DeJoy has also implemented changes at USPS that significantly slowed the delivery of mail, making it harder for people to vote by mail with confidence and, likely, scaring some people away from voting at all in the middle of the pandemic. Trump is betting on these changes having a bigger impact on Democrats than Republicans, especially considering the fact that he has spent nearly the entire year downplaying the threat of the coronavirus to his base.
  • Note: Barr is also cranking out false public statements to discredit vote-by-mail, whether it’s falsely claiming it’s vulnerable to a massive foreign-engineered conspiracy or blatantly misrepresenting actual domestic cases of fraud.

National Park Service

Assist in taxpayer funded staging of campaign events.
Yes, even the National Park Service has been corrupted by Trump, via former oil industry lobbyist and Secretary of the Interior David Bernhardt. Most recently, the NPS produced what appears to be a campaign ad, with no other purpose than promoting Trump. In fact, the words “PRESIDENT TRUMP” in all caps are the first words to appear on screen. The video likely breaks the law:
The federal Anti-Deficiency Act prohibits the use of federal funds for purposes other than those Congress has authorized… if Congress has not authorized the Interior Department to use our money to create campaign ads (and it hasn’t), then the Interior Department cannot legally create campaign ads. In addition to this general prohibition against using funds for unauthorized purposes, there is an express prohibition against propaganda.
Additionally the NPS allowed Trump to take over Mount Rushmore National Memorial for an air and fireworks show ostensibly to celebrate Independence day. In reality, Trump used the event to rail against Democrats, promote his statute-protecting executive order, and warn of a "left-wing cultural revolution." Put differently, it was a campaign event in the middle of a national park.
In June, U.S. Park Police (officers of the NPS) took part in forcibly removing peaceful protestors with tear gas and rubber bullets from the area in and around Lafayette Park, a national historic landmark and public place, for the president's photo-op with a bible. And in 2019, the Park Service used $2.5 million in fees paid by national park visitors to fund President Trump's "Salute to America" celebration in the National Mall.
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2020.09.18 13:52 nextzero182 I watch a horror movie every day, here's everything I watched in August

(2019) The Lighthouse 9.5/10
The visuals are jaw-dropping; almost every single frame of this film is photographic. The soundtrack is stripped down to just these haunting sounds of fog horns and piss buckets. The package everything is delivered in, from an artistic standpoint, is so memorable. The performances by Pattinson and Dafoe are both some of the best I’ve seen this entire year and really, the decade…possibly of all time. They deliver this brilliant script’s dialogue with such passion, humor and intensity. The story in this film is shrouded in mystery but the clues and tools needed to decipher it do exist and with a re-watch, finding them felt so rewarding.
(2007) Zodiac 9/10
This is one of my favorite Fincher movies and for anyone familiar with his stellar catalogue, that’s a bold claim. It feels so real and lived-in. The cast is absolutely stacked but so complimentary. It’s not the most violent film, it’s much more story driven but the moments of violence feel fucking powerful. The horror in this film isn’t about the serial killer, it’s really about obsession and Gyllenhaal absolutely nails his performance to bring that aspect home. Despite this film’s high praise by critics and regular assholes like myself, it is a slow-burn. It’s long and tedious and that aspect, which I love, could easily turn someone off.
(1981) Raiders of the Lost Ark 9/10
Raiders of the Lost Arc is such an important movie to me. It helped open my eyes to darker content as a child, for better or worse. It also introduced me to one of my favorite characters of all time, Indiana Jones. Harrison Ford doesn’t play a superhero in this movie, he’s very flawed and mortal. Yet, somehow he always seems to prevail, despite dire circumstances. Everything that could ever be said about this film has been said, I’m just here to show my appreciation.
(2014) Spring 8.5/10
This movie is wonderful, raw, natural and intriguing. It’s not over-acted or overthought in any way. It’s fucked up and complicated. This felt like an homage to Possession but the love story aspect really shines through. It feels helpless and hopeful at the same time. Benson’s script is amazing. The influences are impossible not to see but the dialogue is incredibly natural. The reactions are the same. I’ve always said that films shot in idyllic landscapes are a blank canvas for horror. There’s so much beautiful contrast.
(2007) Timecrimes 8.5/10
I loved this movie when I first saw it but upon rewatching it, I can’t help but stress its influence in the time-loop horror sub-genre. Sure films like Primer definitely helped pave the way but Timecrimes really manages to focus less on the science fiction and more on the horrifying consequences that come with time travel. I really enjoyed Karra Elajalde’s performance, his character’s physical and mental degradation throughout the film is really a high point to me. Almost all of these films on paper would seem predictable in concept but Timecrimes is just another one that manages to pull you in despite that. A part of me knew exactly how this was going to play out but a bigger part of me was too engrossed to be sure.
(2018) Gwen 8.5/10
This movie is an atmospheric slow burn down to the T so if that’s a sub-genre you generally don’t enjoy, this isn’t going to be something to change your mind. With that being said, it’s an incredibly heartbreaking story that, while exists in the folk-horror genre, subverts any and all expectations. The characters are real and suffering in this sort of beautiful but also incredibly bleak, barren landscape. Eleanor Worthington-Cox and Maxine Peaks carry the entire film. The story itself, while simple, yet powerful, is unwoven tediously, evoking all sorts of dread. I don’t think- scratch that, I know everyone is not going to like this movie. The plot is way too stripped down for mainstream appeal. If you find yourself empathizing with the characters and become personally involved in the period and setting, it can be an emotional watch.
(2005) Constantine 8.5/10
I was pretty surprised at the semi-mixed reaction to this film before I learned it was a comic book adaptation. Listen, I’ve obviously never even heard about this comic but let me just say, as a standalone movie, it’s fucking awesome. It’s basically Keanu Reeves battling his way through hell, murking demons and basically just being badass as shit. I love the entire cast, Rachel Weisz, Shia LaBeouf, etc. A true standout to me too was Tilda Swinton who plays the vague gendered Gabriel. The special effects, even 15 years later, are still fucking awesome. There’s a ton of CGI which isn’t always my favorite but it’s quality CGI that stands the test of time. I really loved this movie, I’d recommend it to anyone.
(2020) Relic 8/10
Robyn Nevin is fantastic here and all the supporting roles are great but not only does this woman make the movie, she is the movie. Her dialogue, her delivery and her body language, at least to me, are a huge chunk of the entire plot. I just found this movie to be gentle until it isn’t, which makes for the most tense moments. It’s a very claustrophobic film; I think it does justice to a very serious and frightening illness.
(1986) The Little Shop of Horrors 8/10
Okay to keep things real, I’ve never been a big musical dude but this movie is fun as hell. Rick Moranis is as goofy as ever and good god…the practical effects are mind-blowing. You’re watching this giant plant movie and it just melts your brain thinking about how it was accomplished. I had to look it up and after finding out it took sped-up footage, vocal matching with said footage and 60 men to operate this giant…puppet(?), I couldn’t be more impressed.
(2020) Palm Springs 8/10
It doesn’t take long to catch on that, while this is a romantic comedy, it’s also a sci-fi horror film and a specific subset of sci-fi that makes me anxious. So in some regards, at least to genre placement, there’s my bias. The movie is seriously a treat though. It’s a new spin on an old formula and it’s genuinely funny, suspenseful and endearing. Even if you disagree that it shouldn’t be discussed in the horror circles, you won’t regret watching it.
(1979) Nosferatu the Vampire 8/10
This film not only embodies and celebrates the original in terms of structure as well as substance, but in its restrained filmmaking methods; its ability to let shots live without intervention. It’s atmospheric, well-trimmed and just an all-around, exceptional film. Klaus Kinsi as Nosferatu is perfect; I loved the makeup design. His character is so out in the open that the shots have to be perfect in order to avoid the sillier pitfalls of films in the same vein attempting to achieve the same results. It still contains small doses of the eras beloved campiness, which I can appreciate to some degree, as it feels balanced within context. Dracula’s takeover of the town is anything but some violent, typical horror spectacle. Rather, Werner Herzog decides to portray it in a fever-dream-like fashion, elevated by the very minimal but well-used soundtrack.
(2009) The House of the Devil 8/10
Modern horror is no stranger to throwback aesthetics from earlier decades but in 2009, that wasn’t the case. Not only did this movie pioneer that but it did it so successfully. My absolute favorite aspect of this film is the retro feel. It captured 70’s horror so incredibly well. Ti West is a talented filmmaker and this is one of my favorites by him. It’s a slow burn but so sinister and despite many complaining that the payoff wasn’t worth the wait, I have to disagree. Also, the suspense during the build-up was my favorite part. The violence, especially early on, while limited, is so powerful and raw. It really set an uneasy tone for the rest of the runtime.
(1989) Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade 8/10
You know, this movie was the least memorable of the trilogy to me and I think that holds up, to a degree. I like this movie a lot though, fuck it, I love this movie. It’s the least horror focused but still has at least one intense body-horror moment. I don’t think too many people talk about how brave this movie is though; it tackles one of the most divisive topics, religion and does so in such a thrilling fashion. Indy is still Indy here, he’s fucking badass; his character and dialogue excel in this entry immensely. Not just dialogue but this film contains some of the best action choreography of the entire series, something that almost seems unfairly diminished through repetition. This movie is fucking awesome.
(1984) Indiana Jones and the Temple of Doom 8/10
This is probably the most influential horror movie of my entire childhood. The first time I watched it I had to shut it off at the heart scene and I think it took a few more tries to even make it through the whole thing. Unlike Scream, watching this decades later didn’t really totally eliminate that. I think it’s a scary movie and a really dark turn in the trilogy. There are quirky aspects of it character wise that are kind of goofy but playful. Overall though, goddamn dude, these set pieces are amazing. I love this movie and I’m totally biased but there are so many iconic moments during it. Harrison Ford is also jacked to shit and just at an all-time fuck-shit-up mode. His greedy and gritty character compliments the plot incredibly well.
(1984) The Terminator 8/10
This movie, simply put, is badass as shit. Everything you could ever need to know about it is established in the very first scene. I’m aware the series kind of progresses into more action focused territory with the sequels but the original will always be a horror movie to me. The pacing, the unstoppable force that is Arnold, it’s all thrilling as shit. Sure, there’s a few instances of 80’s special effects that have aged like milk, mostly with the final scene but for the most part, the effects look dope still. Cameron hasn’t missed in his entire career in my opinion and this film is a benchmark in multi-genre spanning, epic, cinematic movies. I love it.
(2009) The Loved Ones 7.5/10
This is the film that got me into Sean Byrne and it’s really something special. It reminds of almost a modern day interpretation of The Texas Chainsaw Massacre, if the dinner scene was the entire film. It’s a non-thinker, fun horror movie in a purest sense. Byrne seems aware of that and the story and pacing all cater to it so well. Robin McLeavy plays one of the most unlikable villains to date and that alone is a ticket for investment in this film. It would seem almost playful to a horror veteran but the sadistic and incestuous nature of her writing is something to behold. This is a popcorn movie but a great one at that.
(1973) The Crazies 7/10
There’s some silly and overly-eccentric characters, per Romero’s usual style but I actually enjoyed this one a lot. I’m not even speaking directly about the remake but this film inspired a lot of modern horror films and concepts. There’s this great scene with this old lady knitting that I just adore. The innocent and violent clash in such an effective way. Obviously the horror aspects in that scene, as well as the virus itself are very fictional. The government response though, seems almost plausible, considering how they’re currently handling Covid-19. The miscommunication within government agencies in this film is both satisfying and frustratingly accurate.
(2019) I Trapped the Devil 7/10
This one is a bit of a slow-burn but I felt the tension from beginning to end so none of it felt like a blind investment. It had the potential to be another, cookie-cutter, pretentious statement but what I found it to be was simply a well-crafted horror film. While this film doesn’t shoot for the moon, it executes a well-trimmed, concise story and I’d fully recommend it to anyone interested in satanic horror.
(1935) The Black Room 7/10
This is another Universal horror film starring Karloff, directed by Roy Neill. It presents itself with the usual, tight-knit flair you may have come to expect but it somehow has seen much less recognition than any of the major monster movies. I really liked this movie. Despite the predictable nature, I found the short run-time to be refreshing and the performances were great. It was also a really cleanly produced. I suspect that’s due to the lack of need for special effects but nevertheless, it’s a high point. Definitely check this one out. It feels warms and slightly gothic; overall, it’s just a very well-executed movie.
(2004) The Day After Tomorrow 6/10
This may be due to the unrealistic science fiction needed to drive these plots, but I can’t decide if Emmerich takes his own work seriously. These films are undoubtedly brilliant visual spectacles at times and pretty goddamn entertaining but also a breeding ground for vapid characters. However, his films also seem to have actual political and social commentary. In the case of this film, it’s the world’s most on-the-nose message about climate change. I’m not even sure how much of a criticism that is but take it for what you will. The intense scenes in this movie are legitimately intense and even watching this 16 years after it was released, the CGI is pretty great. New York city is a fun sandbox for disaster porn and I had a great time watching it.
(2014) The Possession of Michael King 6/10
I was pleasantly surprised by this one. The “Possession of” movies are a mixed bag and despite this one in particular being really low-budget, they did a great job at creating scary visuals. I loved the psychological torment, specifically this idea with flies that’s legitimately creepy as fuck. They take it to a level where I think right at the end it dips off into the ridiculous but not in a way that’s awful, just not to my personal tastes.
(2019) Sweetheart 6/10
Sweetheart is a fairly well-made survival horror film that starts out well but unfortunately fades into mediocrity. While the first half is actually more of a methodical portion of the film, it’s strangely the second act that feels like a chore to watch at times. There’s some talent to look out for here but it seems underdeveloped on this project. With that being said, it’s still really entertaining for the most part, just treat it more as a popcorn movie rather than something to really sink your teeth into.
(2013) Boar 6/10
Yeah I don’t even really know what to say. It’s a killer boar movie. It’s fun, the gore is pretty great and it’s well-paced. I don’t really feel inspired to write a novel about it but it’s worth a watch.
(2014) Digging up the Marrow 6/10
I’m not surprised to hear people complaining about this film because it’s by no means perfect. However, I am surprised to hear so many people targeting Adam Green’s ego as being the shining flaw in this movie. I have no bias towards the guy, I’m a casual fan but I do think that people mistook the meta-aspects of this story to be simply for self-service. With that being said, I like this movie. I don’t love it but the build-up was pretty intense, carried by an always somewhat unhinged Ray Wise. I’m glad they didn’t show a ton right away or really, at all, because it would have been even cheesier. This is a fun movie though that’s really not meant to be taken all that seriously. The creature design is cool and it’s just an easily digestible popcorn flick. I would have re-wrote the ending a bit to be less convoluted and abrupt (paradoxical almost, I know) but I can still recommend this one.
(2015) The Vatican Tapes 6/10
I didn’t have high hopes for this one, exorcism movies are just so oversaturated. With that being said, I was pleasantly surprised. The horror of it all, the culmination or whatever, is exactly what you’d expect and if that seems like a spoiler, it’s more of a statement on the sub-genre itself. It’s the build-up and basically entire first half that impressed me. I truly felt like the events that conspire could happen to anyone. This was by no means a waste of time, despite how many times this story has been done.
(2014) The Last Showing 5.5/10
Robert Englund lends his talents to a b-movie of sorts here but the end product isn’t that bad. Outside of him, the acting isn’t bad either. Chris Geere from You’re the Worst is actually in it and he’s such a hilariously miserable cunt. It entertained me enough but in the end, felt really bland. I’m feeling pretty eh on this one.
(2017) Lost Child 5/10
Lost Child wasn’t quite what I was expecting, which in some ways, was the only thing I enjoyed about it. They keep the mystery going for a long time and to their credit, I was never exactly sure how things were going to play out. Unfortunately, it’s just really boring and there’s no huge payoff. I liked a few of the characters and as far as production and acting goes, it was just fine. It’s kind of one of those mid-movies that doesn’t do a whole lot wrong but also doesn’t do a whole lot right.
(2019) In the Tall Grass 4.5/10
People seem to be pretty divisive about this film to the point where not a lot of middle ground criticism is being offered but that’s where it lands to me. It often engaged me, I like a lot of the sci-fi aspects, felt there were a few good performances and I didn’t hate the conclusion. With that being said, not a single aspect of this movie wow’d me in any fashion. It feels like it actually could have been shortened a bit, as in like an episode of an anthology. I don’t hate it but I don’t love it either.
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2020.09.18 12:53 starryeyes11 Taking a look at Patsy's interview questions about Burke

Reading through Patsy's June 1998 interview with Tom Haney and Trip DeMuth I found her answers very interesting when questioned aobut Burke. IMO, she tries hard to distance Burke from anything having to do with JonBenet's death.
Here are some excerpts:
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1 PATSY RAMSEY: Oh.
2 THOMAS HANEY: What have you told
3 Burke about the murder?
4 PATSY RAMSEY: To date?
5 THOMAS HANEY: To date.
6 PATSY RAMSEY: Well, just that we
7 are going to try to find out who did this to
8 JonBenet. Find out, you know, I haven't told
9 him anything about how she was murdered or the
10 details like that.
11 THOMAS HANEY: Sure, not graphic,
12 but --
13 PATSY RAMSEY: Yeah.
14 THOMAS HANEY: -- what details
15 would he know or had you talked with him about?
16 PATSY RAMSEY: To be quite honest,
17 we really haven't talked with him much about it.
18 It's too hard, you know, it's hard to talk
19 about.
20 THOMAS HANEY: Has he volunteered
21 information?
22 PATSY RAMSEY: No.
23 THOMAS HANEY: Has he had
24 questions?
25 PATSY RAMSEY: (Shaking head.)
0292
1 THOMAS HANEY: Never "what's going
2 to happen, who did it"?
3 PATSY RAMSEY: No.
Next:
16 THOMAS HANEY: And that's one of
17 the things, we are trying to work some of this
18 in as we go through the photos, obviously, but
19 have you seen changes in Burke since the
20 incident?
21 PATSY RAMSEY: Um, he's grown like
22 a weed. I think he's a little more cautious,
23 you know, he was kind of -- kind of
24 (INAUDIBLE) -- cautious, you know, looking
25 around, see if anybody is parked where they
0296
1 shouldn't be parked. You know, locks the door
2 when he comes in and goes out. You know, those
3 kind of things.
16 THOMAS HANEY: You mentioned I
17 think when I asked you yesterday, had you seen
18 an interview from last week with Burke. You
19 said no?
20 PATSY RAMSEY: No.
21 THOMAS HANEY: There were like
22 three days, and the first two days were pretty
23 basic questions, but on the third day, there
24 were questions where the discussion was around
25 JonBenet and the death. And I am no
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1 psychologist, psychiatrist, but immediately
2 noticed a change in Burke and his demeanor.
3 He's curled up on the chair something like this,
4 not sitting like this, but a chair like this,
5 and he's half in a fetal position and it seems
6 to be a real struggle, a real difficult time.
7 I am wondering if you had noticed
8 anything similar, any changes?
9 PATSY RAMSEY: Well, I may have --
10 I have had him in therapy just for this reason.
11 So that, I mean, the therapist explained to me
12 that -- that Burke may be trying to hold it
13 together and be real strong for John and I
Next:
24 TOM HANEY: So you said it wasn't
25 you and it wasn't John. Could it have been
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1 Burke?
2 PATSY RAMSEY: No. It wouldn't
3 have been Burke.
4 TOM HANEY: Why couldn't it?
5 PATSY RAMSEY: How do you believe
6 you saw (INAUDIBLE) a ten-year old, nine-year
7 old boy (INAUDIBLE). Plus the fact that he
8 loved his sister.
9 TOM HANEY: It's not unheard of for
10 a nine or ten-year old child?
11 PATSY RAMSEY: My child it is
12 unheard of.
13 TOM HANEY: And why is that? What
14 would make him different from some other nine or
15 ten-year old?
16 PATSY RAMSEY: Because he was not
17 raised in a family of violence. We are a very
18 loving family.
19 TOM HANEY: Could it have been an
20 accident?
21 PATSY RAMSEY: I -- don't know.
22 TOM HANEY: Well you and I don't
23 know because we weren't there?
24 PATSY RAMSEY: Right.
25 TOM HANEY: So do you think it
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1 could have been, he could have pushed her down
2 the stairs--
3 PATSY RAMSEY: Burke Ramsey did not
4 do this, okay. He did not do this. Get off it.
5 TOM HANEY: How do you know that,
6 though? I mean, have you talked to him about
7 it?
8 PATSY RAMSEY: Yes, we are going
9 to find out who did this to JonBenet. He's been
10 in counseling, doctors say that he's handling this
11 the way that a child copes best with the death of
12 a very close family member. I doubt that a nine
13 or ten-year old child could harbor such a thing
14 for a year and a half.
15 TOM HANEY: And you say they were
16 very close?
17 PATSY RAMSEY: They were very
18 close.
19 TOM HANEY: Okay. Did they ever
20 have any little squabbles, did they ever fight?
21 PATSY RAMSEY: Maybe she would
22 step on his Leg-O's, he would be unhappy.
23 TOM HANEY: But that was it?
24 PATSY RAMSEY: Or you know, no
25 violence (INAUDIBLE).
0622
1 TOM HANEY: He wouldn't chase after
2 her, "JonBenet, I am going to " --
3 PATSY RAMSEY: No way.
4 TOM HANEY: No? That was as upset
5 as he ever got?
6 PATSY RAMSEY: Pretty much
http://www.acandyrose.com/1998BPD-Patsy-Interview-Complete.htm
Interestingly, when Burke was interviewed on January 8, 1997 he told Dr. Suzanne Bernhard that he knew what happened when she asked him about JonBenet's death. He says he asked his father where they found the body. He then tells Dr. Bernhard that he thinks that someone took JonBenet very quietly, tiptoeing down to the basement. That maybe they took a knife out...Bernhard asked if he thinks that is how JonBenet died. Burke tells her that maybe someone took a hammer and hit her in the head.
Burke Jan 97 interview At 1:46 you can see this discussion
One more thing of note:
"Kaempfer spoke to fellow parent Susan Stine and was told about a conversation Stine had overheard taking place between Burke and her son, Doug. This was reported to have taken place on the afternoon following the grief counseling session that had been hosted at JonBenét’s school on the morning of Saturday, December 28, 1996. Stine appeared to Kaempfer to have been disturbed by the conversation and had listened to Burke and Doug talk about how JonBenét had been strangled. Based upon Kaempfer’s statement, it appeared that Stine had over overheard the boys discussing whether or not manual strangulation had been involved in JonBenét’s death. Stine described the conversation as being “very impersonal,” and it struck her that the discussion about the details of JonBenét’s death was like the boys were “talking about a TV show.” This discourse between Burke and Doug had taken place no more than two days following JonBenét’s murder and apparently had such an impact upon Stine that she brought it up in conversation with Mary Kaempfer at the first opportunity."
Kolar, A. James. Foreign Faction: Who Really Kidnapped JonBenet? (p. 353). Ventus Publishing, llc. Kindle Edition.
What do you make of Patsy's answers? Do you think she is trying to distance Burke from the crime? What do you think of Haney's question about Burke's demeanor in his interview?
I posted this for discussion of the questions and answers. I'm not stating my opinion on who committed this crime in this post. I do find this very interesting. Thank you for reading.
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2020.09.18 07:18 IUActivities Activities at IU Sep18-27

It is harder than normal to socialize and meet new people, so here is a list of activities for this week. This e-mailed list is mostly comprised of club events, but there are also some IU calendars to check out: https://beinvolved.indiana.edu/events https://events.iu.edu/bloomington/ You can find the Google Doc of this week here: Link At the end of this message is a list of Club Chats: GroupMe, Slack, or Discord.

Week of Sept 18th-27th Activities:

Times are Eastern/Bloomington/New York

Friday, September 18th

Friday Crafternoon

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 12-1pm Location: In-Person Outside: 7th and Jordan Event Description: Stop to pick up or gather with others to do a craft activity. Each week, we’ll feature a different craft. Materials provided, limited quantity available.

Voting in Groups, Thinking Like Ideologues: The Paradox of Partisan Conflict in the United States

Cost: Free Host Organization: Center on American Politics Time: 12:30-2pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/99946112490 Event Description: Using an original survey experiment, Schmidt confirms that partisan identifiers find it easier to associate their opponents with stereotypical policies rather than stereotypical groups. Moreover, ideology offers citizens uniquely high-quality information about parties.

Egocentric computer vision, for fun and for science

Cost: Free Host Organization: Luddy School of Informatics, Computing, and Engineering CS Colloquium Series Contact: Roni Khardon ([email protected]) Time: 3pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/684108959 Event Description: How can computer vision contribute to and benefit from this embodied perspective on the world? In this talk, I’ll argue for why computer vision on egocentric images and videos is uniquely challenging and interesting, and I’ll present some of my lab’s recent work in this area, focusing on two specific lines of work.

Spanish Study and Conversation tables

Cost: $0 Host Organization: Grupo Ñ Contact: [email protected] Time: 4-5pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/93596410067 Description of Org: Grupo Ñ is a club for IU students interested in Spanish. The group focuses on creating and sharing events to broaden our understanding of Hispanic culture and to provide opportunities to practice speaking. Event Description: Come study and chat (in Spanish of course!). There will be upperclassmen who can help you review classwork that confuses you and prepare for the looming midterms, or you can just practice speaking in Spanish. We meet every Friday from 4-5pm through Zoom.

Inside Outdoors

Cost: FREE Host Organization: IU Outdoor Adventures Contact: [email protected] Time: 5pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/95115205986?pwd=ZVJFWDZ0dDNWRnBVTi9Xc2VWVjJWUT09 Description of Org: UOA has helped members of the IU community lead active lifestyles by providing opportunities to participate in programs that foster a love of the outdoors. Offering academic courses for credit, gear rentals, adventure trips, workshops, and more, they're sure to have your next adventure in mind. Event Description: Inside Outdoors is a virtual sub-division of our IU Outdoors series, where Outdoor Adventures hosts a space for students, faculty, and staff to join in and talk about outdoor opportunities on and off IU’s campus.

Volunteering at Middle Way House

Cost: FREE Host Organization: Movement Exchange at IU Contact: Must register in order to participate. Email [email protected] for details on how to sign up. Time: 5p-6p Location: In-Person: Middle Way House Description of Org: We aim to use our love for dance as a way to connect with various communities. Event Description: Volunteer at Middle Way House on Fridays

Rosh Hashanah Services

Cost: FREE Host Organization: IU Hillel (Hillel Outreach and Special Events) Contact: Sue Silberberg, [email protected] Time: 7pm Location: In -Person AND Online In-Person: Hillel, 730 E 3rd St - In-person: registration required at https://calendly.com/iuhillel/high-holiday?month=2020-09 Virtual: registration required at https://calendly.com/mason-iu/virtual-rosh-hashana-services-programs?month=2020-09 Description of Org: Hillel is the Jewish “home away from home” at IU. Join your Hoosier Hillel family for great ways to meet other students and for learning and/or leadership opportunities. Go to iuhillel.org for more information. Event Description: Shana Tova from your Hoosier Hillel Family! Happy New Year! Rosh Hashanah begins Friday evening September 18 and continues through September 20. Conservative/Traditional Egalitarian Service, Reform/Musical Service, Rosh Hashanah Happy Hour, Torah/Learn about the binding of Isaac, Shofar Blowing and Tashlich. (see full schedule at https://iuhillel.org/high-holiday-2020-schedule)

Outdoor Movie: Mean Girls

Cost: FREE Host Organization: Indiana Memorial Union Board Contact: [email protected] Time: 9pm-10:45pm Location: In-Person Prebys Amphitheatre 100 S. Valentine Road, Bloomington, Indiana Description of Org: Another weekend of outdoor movie screenings sponsored by The Indiana Memorial Union Board and in partnership with the Indiana Memorial Union. Event Description: This Friday night tune into Mean Girls which has become a “cult classic” written by Tina Fey and starring Lindsay Lohan.

eSports Nite: Fortnite

Cost: FREE Host Organization: IU Late Nite Contact: [email protected] Time: 9pm-1am Location: Online https://beinvolved.indiana.edu/event/6183906 Description of Org: a campus-wide initiative that offers free activities and events after 9pm, Thursday through Saturday. Event Description: Join our virtual event that combines fun and competition hosted by a professional video game announcer! Think you've got what it takes to compete? Make sure you register in advance on beINvolved! Or, if you prefer to watch rather than play, tune in to our live twitch stream and cheer on your fellow Hoosiers! Here is the link to the registration page for this specific tournament. https://tournaments.bravous.com/tournaments/119313f2798a2f6ff5fedc3104044bca/register

Saturday, September 19th

Self-Care Saturday: Paper Weaving [Virtual]

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 10:30-11am Location: Online Register to receive an email with the Zoom link: https://iu.zoom.us/webinaregisteWN_JjOfGteOQpCROJj2YH7lhQ Event Description: Unwind with artmaking. Drawing inspiration from Sarah Urist Green’s The Art Assignment, guests will learn how to make their own paper weaving using simple materials they have at home. Grab some paper, something to cut with (scissors, xacto knife, etc.), and a touch of creativity. This activity is great to do on your own or with friends or family!

Volunteer Service Saturday

Cost: $0 Host Organization: African Women's Leadership Organization (AWLO) Contact: [email protected] Time: 10AM-12PM Location: In Person Salvation Army, 115 N Rogers St Bloomington, IN 47404 Description of Org: African Women's Leadership Organization intends to to motivate and empower Afrocentric women while supporting women within the African continent. Event Description: AWLO will be volunteering at the Salvation Army for our very first Service Saturday! We will be working on sizing, kid's department, photos, fixing bookshelves, and more! Closed toe shoes will be required, hope to see you there!

Classical Connections Zoom Concert Series

Cost: free Host Organization: Classical Connections Contact: [email protected] Time: 1pm EST Location: online https://iu.zoom.us/j/91768188053 Meeting ID: 917 6818 8053 Description of Org: Classical Connections works with students from the Jacobs School of Music to bring the joy of music to diverse areas of the greater Bloomington community through musical performance, educational engagement, and interpersonal development. Event Description: Virtual musical concert for the Bloomington community featuring Jacobs School of Music students. If you are interested in performing for future concerts please email [email protected].

Outdoor Movie : Creed

Cost: free Host Organization: Indiana Memorial Union Board Contact: [email protected] Time: 9pm-11:15pm Location: In-Person Prebys Amphitheatre 100 S. Valentine Road, Bloomington, Indiana Description of Org: Another weekend of outdoor movie screenings sponsored by The Indiana Memorial Union Board and in partnership with the Indiana Memorial Union. Event Description: The former World Heavyweight Champion Rocky Balboa serves as a trainer and mentor to Adonis Johnson, the son of his late friend and former rival Apollo Creed.

Sunday, September 20th

Indoor Movie: Mean Girls

Cost: Free Host Organization: Indiana Memorial Union Board Films Contact: [email protected] Time: 2pm Location: In Person: IMU WHITTENBERGER RSVP Here: https://beinvolved.indiana.edu/event/6447195_ga=2.113252932.2130990725.1600313240-1316309806.1600116586 Event Description: Cady Heron is a hit with The Plastics, the A-list clique at her new school until she makes the mistake of falling for Aaron Samuels, the ex-boyfriend of alpha Plastic Regina Georgia. Rated PG-13. Please note: An RSVP does not guarantee you a spot at the event, limited space available. Please arrive early. Check-in begins 30 minutes before the start time of the movie. LIABILITY WAIVER REQUIRED https://iu.co1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_56nSRZms1DYhkJD

Monday, September 21st

Ultimate Frisbee Tabling Recruitment

Cost: $0 Host Organization: IU Women’s Ultimate Frisbee Contact: [email protected] Time: 1:00 PM – 3:00 PM Location: Showalter Fountain Description of Org: Women’s Ultimate Frisbee Club at IU accepts new players from all skillsets. Women’s Ultimate Frisbee Club is a non-profit Ultimate Frisbee team for women at Indiana University. Event Description: Women’s Ultimate Frisbee Club at IU will set up a recruitment table on campus to recruit new members at 1:00PM – 3:00PM on Monday, September 21st.

IU Asian Culture Center, Purdue University, and University of Illinois present “Minor Feelings” Book Discussion Series

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 12:30-1:30pm Location: Online E-mail for link Event Description: Join us as we read and discuss Cathy Park Hong’s Minor Feelings. Interested in attending? Please email [email protected] to receive a webinar link. IU students, faculty, and staff can access the e-book here

Jackbox Virtual Game Night

Cost: Free Host Organization: Student Athletic Board Contact: [email protected] Time: 5-6pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/7473056790?pwd=L3pYOVBOanF3eHJYNTRqeTVGU3kzZz09 Meeting ID: 747 305 6790 Password: Gamenight" Description of Org: SAB provides students the opportunity to be an active part of the planning, organizing, and successful completion of athletic events. Event Description: Jackbox games for people to play throughout the event.

Aikido Short-Staff Practice

Cost: Free Host Organization: Aikido Club at IU Contact: [email protected] Time: 5:30-7pm Location: In-Person In front of the Intramural Center (Woodlawn and 8th) Description of Org: A martial art club emphasizing the continuous connection between the persons practicing a technique by redirecting their energy and intent, rather than clashing with them head-on, thus resolving the conflict in a energy-efficient way. Event Description: Physically distanced weapon practice. Training weapons are available to borrow.

The Ethics of COVID-19

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 6:30-7:30pm Location: Online URL: https://iu.zoom.us/j/93033580754 Meeting ID: 930 3358 0754 Event Description: Tune in to this timely talk from internal medicine and pulmonary/critical care doctors on the ethics of COVID!

Defining Democracy: The Responsibility of Civic Engagement

Cost: Free Time: 7-8:30pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/99178364501 Event Description: Part One of the IU Libraries’ Be an Informed Voter! Virtual Democracy Gatherings. Featuring Ann Birch, President of the League of Women Voters of Bloomington-Monroe and Martin Law, BLM B-town Core Council Member.

Tuesday, September 22nd

Discs in Dunn Meadow

Cost: $0 Host Organization: Women’s Ultimate Frisbee Club Contact: [email protected] Time: 3:00 PM – 5:00 PM Location: Dunn Meadow Description of Org: Women’s Ultimate Frisbee Club at IU accepts new players from all skillsets. Women’s Ultimate Frisbee Club is a non-profit Ultimate Frisbee team for women at Indiana University. Event Description: Women’s Ultimate will practice throwing discs in Dunn Meadow (while sanitizing their hands and/or wearing gloves). This is a recruitment event.

Quantitative Methods: Free help for graduate students doing research

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 4-6pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/94825645900 Event Description: Offered by IU School of Education Inquiry Methodology Program in the Department of Counseling and Educational Psychology. Need help with your research methods? Join Montserrat Medinaceli for Quantitative Methods, Tuesdays from 4 – 6pm

Outdoor Taekwondo Practice

Cost: Free Host Organization: Taekwondo Club at Indiana University Contact: [email protected] Time: 5:30pm Location: In-Person Outdoors at the Arboretum (Near the intramural center) Description of Org: The I.U. Tae Kwon Do Club has been an active part of the Indiana University Martial Arts Program since 1969. In that time we have trained hundreds of black belts and taught the basics of Tae Kwon Do to thousands of I.U. students. Event Description: Outdoor martial arts practice

Bloomington Birders Call-out Meeting!

Cost: Free Host Organization: Bloomington Birders Contact: [email protected] Time: 6-7pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/96965041062?pwd=djNuM2d5RkNndm03cFo0a3hKa05HQT09 Description of Org: Bloomington Birders is a club concerned with local birds in Bloomington. Some activities the club participates in are birding, habitat construction, and learning more about our local birds. Event Description: Join us for a call-out meeting on Tuesday, September 22nd! We'll discuss our plans for the year and what we want the club to accomplish.

Take A Stand Talks: How does IU respond to violence against Trans students?

Cost: Free Host Organization: Office for Sexual Violence Prevention and Victim Advocacy Contact: [email protected] Time: 6-7:15pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/98073724516 Description of Org: TAS Talks is a platform that allows students to connect with community safety and response professionals and experts. This is a place where participants can ask questions and discuss topics that they can't anywhere else. Event Description: A virtual roundtable discussion about the concerns and campus response to gender-based violence against Trans students.

Workout with Fencing Club

Cost: Free Host Organization: Fencing Club at IU Contact: [email protected] Time: 8-9pm 9-10pm is Social Hour Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/99465430902 Description of Org: The Fencing Club at Indiana University is open to anyone in or connected to the IU community who is interested in modern sport fencing. Event Description: Zoom workout led by Fencing Club, followed by social time.

Civic Action, Advocacy, and Policy Considerations for Music Educators

Cost: Free Host Organization: The National Association for Music Education at IU Contact: Ava Traum ([email protected]) Time: 8-9pm Location: Online: Zoom < https://iu.zoom.us/j/91440392599?pwd=V1RuMXZaSTkzaU9tL0R2aXJFYW5rZz09 > < Meeting ID: 914 4039 2599 > < Password: nafme > Description of Org: NAfME at IU, is an organization through which students may attend sponsored events, find volunteer opportunities in local area schools, attend the state music education convention, assist IU in various projects throughout the year, and more as an advocate for musical learning. Event Description: Come learn about how you can register to vote, make a voting plan, and participate in the November 2020 general election! ​Additionally, we will explore ways in which to engage in music education advocacy and policy, including issues surrounding the profession, practice and equity.

Wednesday, September 23rd

Indiana Cybersecurity Regulation Virtual Event

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 2-3pm Location: Online Register here: https://events.uschamber.com/INCybersecurity. Event Description: Join ILR for a Virtual Event featuring Indiana Attorney General Curtis Hill regarding his office’s new cybersecurity safe harbor rulemaking initiative.

Aikido Sword Practice

Cost: Free Host Organization: Aikido Club at IU Contact: [email protected] Time: 5:30-7pm Location: In-Person In front of the Intramural Center (Woodlawn and 8th) Description of Org: A martial art club emphasizing the continuous connection between the persons practicing a technique by redirecting their energy and intent, rather than clashing with them head-on, thus resolving the conflict in a energy-efficient way. Event Description: Physically distanced weapon practice. Training weapons are available to borrow.

Inclusive Language 101

Cost: Free Host Organization: IU Center of Excellence for Women & Technology Student Alliance Contact: [email protected] Time: 6-7pm Location: Online Please register online for the event using this link: bit.ly/IncLan101 Description of Org: The Center's Student Alliance is a student organization formed to empower and enable women of all skill levels and disciplines to pursue opportunities in technology through collaborative development and promotion of diverse, technology-related activities. Event Description: During this conversation we will define inclusive language, discuss why it matters, and practice using it. We’ll talk about ways you can actively create a more equitable and inclusive culture in your communities.

Film: The First Rainbow Coalition

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 7pm Location: Online For the Zoom link, RSVP to [email protected] no later than September 22, 2020. Event Description: This new documentary explores the legacy of the groundbreaking 1960s Rainbow Coalition of Chicago. THE FIRST RAINBOW COALITION united poor Blacks, Whites, and Latinos to openly challenge police brutality and substandard housing in one of the most segregated cities in America.

Jacobs School of Music Community Conversations

Cost: Free Host Organization: Jacobs School of Music Community Conversations Time: 7-8:30pm Location: Online Register in advance for this meeting: https://iu.zoom.us/meeting/registetJIodemtrzkrGdRUfmCosRj3iFxaWqlp3lVq Event Description: A Conversation about Social Justice, Opera, and Race, with Lawrence Brownlee and Marietta Simpson.

NBA x DCI Series: Audition Preparation Panel

Cost: Free Host Organization: The National Band Association at Indiana University Contact: Ava Traum ([email protected]) Time: 7:30-8:30pm Location: Online: Zoom https://iu.zoom.us/j/91809918762?pwd=V2REbWp5WlV2N21aMVUxMmoxa003Zz09 < Meeting ID: 918 0991 8762 > < Password: nba > Description of Org: The National Band Association is the largest professional organization for bands in the world. NBA at IU promotes the musical and educational significance of bands and is dedicated to the attainment of a high level of excellence for bands and band music. Event Description: Come join NBA with special guests Amanda Petro, August Merback, Jesse Saldana, Bobby Burns, Annelise Wingard, and Claire Wilcox as we discuss the process of taking a DCI audition and how to prepare, so be sure to bring your questions!

Thursday, September 24th

Voting in the age of COVID-19 Annual IU Women in Cybersecurity Talk

Cost: Free Host Organization: IU Center of Excellence for Women & Technology Student Alliance Contact: [email protected] Time: 12-1pm Location: Online Pre-Register to Join: https://iu.zoom.us/meeting/registetJ0vdeCgqT4qHNwCxtGuURyVjHJmZkFDKzKV Description of Org: The Center's Student Alliance is a student organization formed to empower and enable women of all skill levels and disciplines to pursue opportunities in technology through collaborative development and promotion of diverse, technology-related activities. Event Description: Board chair of Verified Voting Barbara Simons will discuss internet voting at this annual IU Women in Cybersecurity Talk.

Suffrage: Women’s Long Battle for the Vote

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 4-5:30pm Location: Online https://www.facebook.com/events/957986774676278/ Event Description: A panel discussion exploring the newly published book Suffrage: Women’s Long Battle for the Vote by historian Ellen Carol Dubois.

Neurodevelopment Genetics

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 5-6pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/94047129089 Event Description: Come learn about the exciting field of Neurodevelopment Genetics with Dr. Christensen!

Outdoor Taekwondo Practice

Cost: Free Host Organization: Taekwondo Club at Indiana University Contact: [email protected] Time: 5:30pm Location: In-Person Outdoors at the Arboretum (Near the intramural center) Description of Org: The I.U. Tae Kwon Do Club has been an active part of the Indiana University Martial Arts Program since 1969. In that time we have trained hundreds of black belts and taught the basics of Tae Kwon Do to thousands of I.U. students. Event Description: Outdoor martial arts practice

Re-imagining Relationships: imagining(imaging), reflecting, communicating (for Graduate Students)

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 6:30-8pm Location: Online Please RSVP for Zoom details! https://events.iu.edu/bloomington/event/143340-re-imagining-relationships-imaginingimaging Event Description: This is an introductory HLS Global Studio workshop for graduate students using drawing and movement activities that engage different metaphors and conceptualizations about water and what it means to be human.

Teaching Vocal Jazz with Kat Sherman

Cost: Free Host Organization: American Choral Directors Association Contact: Madelyn Merrell, [email protected] Time: 7:00pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/91295947935 Description of Org: ACDA is a nonprofit music education organization whose central purpose is to promote excellence in choral music through performance, composition, publication, research, and teaching. ACDA has student chapters in colleges and universities around the country. Event Description: Come learn about techniques and tips for teaching vocal jazz to students with Kat Sherman! Feel free to bring any questions you have.

Discussion with Fencing Club

Cost: Free Host Organization: Fencing Club at IU Contact: [email protected] Time: 8-10pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/99465430902 Description of Org: The Fencing Club at Indiana University is open to anyone in or connected to the IU community who is interested in modern sport fencing. Event Description: Discussion topic with Fencing Club.

Awkward Silence Comedy Show

Cost: Free Host Organization: Awkward Silence Comedy Contact: [email protected] Time: 9pm Location: In-person, campus location TBA Description of Org: Awkward Silence Comedy is a student-run long-form improv comedy group that performs free weekly shows every Thursday on campus. Find us on Instagram/Twitter (@awkward_iub) or Facebook for weekly updates on show locations. Event Description: Come enjoy an hour of free improvised comedy! Masks and social distancing are required.

Lotus in the Meadow 2020

Cost: Free Host Organization: Indiana Memorial Union Contact: [email protected] Time: 9:30-10:30pm Location: In-Person Dunn Meadow Description of Org: IMU has served as the hub of the campus, providing a welcoming place for students, faculty, staff, alumni, and visitors to connect with each other and the campus as they eat, relax, study, play, or celebrate. Event Description: Kick-off the Lotus Festival with the Indiana Memorial Union! We'll be hosting a pre-recorded set of Nation Beat on our inflatable film screen. So grab a couple of close friends, a blanket or some lawn chairs, and prepare to dance the night away with your fellow Hoosiers in a safe, socially distanced way.

Friday, September 25th

Friday Crafternoon

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 12-1pm Location: In-Person Outside: 7th and Jordan Event Description: Stop to pick up or gather with others to do a craft activity. Each week, we’ll feature a different craft. Materials provided, limited quantity available.

How Politicians Use Twitter to Shape Voter Beliefs

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 2-3:30pm Location: Online https://events.iu.edu/bloomington/event/138314-how-politicians-use-twitter-to-shape-voter-beliefs Event Description: Data scientist Derek Willis from ProPublica will discuss social media data analysis that demonstrates how politicians utilize Twitter to influence voters.

Spanish Study and Conversation tables

Cost: $0 Host Organization: Grupo Ñ Contact: [email protected] Time: 4-5pm Location: Online https://iu.zoom.us/j/93596410067 Description of Org: Grupo Ñ is a club for IU students interested in Spanish. The group focuses on creating and sharing events to broaden our understanding of Hispanic culture and to provide opportunities to practice speaking. Event Description: Come study and chat (in Spanish of course!). There will be upperclassmen who can help you review classwork that confuses you and prepare for the looming midterms, or you can just practice speaking in Spanish. We meet every Friday from 4-5pm through Zoom.

EEB Seminar Series

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 4-5pm Location: Online Zoom registration required to attend. Registration link provided here: https://iu.zoom.us/meeting/registetJcude6gqjMoH9J3ymmG6GdtIkClmgW0Afj_?_x_zm_rtaid=R2Llw1lPTaaR7X68y5P9pQ.1599564358842.f90ce0a77e2342b51744bd0d5dab2395&_x_zm_rhtaid=99 Event Description: In this seminar, I will discuss varied efforts at appreciating the role of the environment in shaping evolutionary and ecological dynamics, spanning problems in protein evolution, drug resistance, and emerging infectious diseases.

IU Outdoors: Outdoor Strengthening

Cost: Free Host Organization: IU Outdoors Contact: [email protected] Time: 4:45-6pm Location: In-Person Meet at the Woodburn Clock Tower just southwest of Woodburn Hall. Please arrive for check-in between 4:30 and 4:45 PM. Event Description: This IU Outdoors event will be split into 2 groups of no more than 15 and will travel to different unique outdoor spots on campus. At each spot, the groups will focus on a series of beginner-level body weight strengthening exercises to get our blood pumping! The hour will finalize back at the Clock Tower at 6:00 PM.

Volunteering at Middle Way House

Cost: FREE Host Organization: Movement Exchange at IU Contact: Must register in order to participate. Email [email protected] for details on how to sign up. Time: 5p-6p Location: In-Person: Middle Way House Description of Org: We aim to use our love for dance as a way to connect with various communities. Event Description: Volunteer at Middle Way House on Fridays

Let's Move! Yoga & Dance W/ IU MoCo

Cost: Free Host Organization: Movement Cooperative at Indiana University Contact: [email protected] Time: 5-6pm Location: In-Person Woodburn Clock Description of Org: The Movement Cooperative at Indiana University (MoCo) aims to create a safe and welcoming environment in which members are encouraged to explore dance through creating, learning, and experimenting with movement. Event Description: 45-minute yoga flow, followed by a short improvised performance of dance and conversation with members of the Movement Cooperative. Bring your own mat and water, all levels welcome!

Union Board Film Screenings – Ratatouille

Cost: $0 Host Organization: Union Board Contact: (812) 855-4682 Time: 9:00 PM Location: Dunn Meadow, Prebys Amphitheater, and HLS South Lawn Description of Org: Union Board is the governing body of the Indiana Memorial Union and the largest student programming organization on campus. Driven by students and student ideas, the Union Board plans a range of fun, entertaining, and educational events for students to come together, explore multiple world views, discuss current events, and learn from one another. Event Description: Union Board will present three free outdoor film screenings of Disney's Ratatouille simultaneously at Dunn Meadow, Prebys Amphitheater, and HLS South Lawn.

Saturday, September 26th

Java with Java

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: 11-Noon Location: Online Register at: https://events.iu.edu/bloomington/event/142913-java-with-java Event Description: Virtually enjoy a cup of coffee with CEWT’s Women Who Code Student Alliance Team while we code with Java – No experience necessary! This is a time where we can virtually interact with you and just hang out while coding. Grab a cup of coffee, a fully charged laptop, and an hour of your time to hang out with our team; we will use this time to breakdown the basics of the Java coding language and teach some new skills working within the environment. We hope you leave with some newfound knowledge and connections within CEWT!

The Iris Book Prize: Reading, Award Ceremony, and Discussion

Cost: Free Contact: [email protected] Time: Noon Location: Online Register: https://events.iu.edu/bloomington/event/135766-the-iris-book-prize-reading-award-ceremony-and Event Description: Join us for a reading by author David George Haskell and a discussion with guest speakers Kocku von Stuckrad and David Abram, moderated by Lisa Sideris.

Outdoor Spaces Performance Series – Meet at the Metz

Cost: Free Time: 12:00-12:45pm Location: Metz Carillon Event Description: A carillon concert sponsored by the Jacobs School of Music and the Arts and Humanities Council.

Sunday, September 27th

Shoe Cutting Event

Cost: 0$ Host Organization: Sole Hope at Indiana University Contact: [email protected] Time: 11am - 2 pm Location: In-person / TBD Description of Org: Sole Hope is a non-profit organization based out of Uganda, and the goal of this club is to support this organization by gathering monetary donations and materials needed to make shoes for those in need. Event Description: We will be coming together and gathering all materials fundraised throughout the month to cut shoes for children in Uganda.

Access @ IU — Virtual Resource Fair

Cost: Free Host Organization: The Neurodiversity Coalition at IU Contact: [email protected] Time: 2-3pm Location: Online https://beinvolved.indiana.edu/event/6412932 Description of Org: We are a group of Indiana University students, staff, faculty and community members who support initiatives to make our campus (Bloomington) more inclusive of the rights and needs of IU students with neurodiverse brain function. Event Description: Come join us via Zoom to learn not only about the Neurodiversity Coalition @ IU, but about many valuable campus and community resources to take advantage of as an IU student! Struggling with prioritizing homework? Feeling down due to the pandemic? Hoping to learn about ways to get help with tuition? Organizations and other entities in Bloomington will be present to chat with folks, provide information, and represent the excellence they bring to students. Stay tuned for an official Zoom link, as well as a complete list of participating community resources!

Additional Social Connections

Animal Club

https://groupme.com/join_group/58658194/4MQ9EWZe

Beekeeping Club at IU

https://groupme.com/join_group/53531021/XtptFHYJ

Chess Club

https://groupme.com/join_group/54949198/APsSzhtv https://discord.gg/MS989wJ

Computer Science Club at Indiana University

Join us on Slack: https://csclubiu.slack.com/signup GroupMe: https://csclub.sice.indiana.edu/groupme

Corporate Strategy Club at Indiana University

https://groupme.com/join_group/61920167/3k7zVH0y

D&D Club

GroupMe! https://groupme.com/join_group/42711637/YvuemQ Discord! https://discord.gg/EAM9wzq

Drone Club

https://discord.com/invite/YXdH4cQ

[email protected]

https://gaming.indiana.edu/ https://discordapp.com/invite/iugaming

Global Soccer Supporters

https://groupme.com/join_group/61908401/q0f4VBna

Japanese Animation and Culture Club

https://discord.gg/4p5BaYu

Magic: the Gathering Club

https://discord.gg/K2GXGud

Passive Income Development Club

https://discord.gg/PUFdAgz

Politics Club

https://groupme.com/join_group/62121259/uhrIQz6q

Scholars Without Borders

https://groupme.com/join_group/62389887/2MLlj4sC

Students for Animal Behavior at IU

https://groupme.com/join_group/48616693/Et1QkqTW

Table Tennis Club at Indiana University

https://groupme.com/join_group/43617877/QtuJCY

Women in Accounting

https://groupme.com/join_group/47306889/EDV7Wj
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